Chapter 40 Ancient people with newer thinking than modern people (2)

The copper coins you see are from the Qing Dynasty.There is a story in the Qing Dynasty, an old lady got a chastity archway, and she made a request when she was dying.All the children, grandchildren and daughters-in-law surrounded her, and she said all the men should go away, and I only wanted to talk to the women at home.When the old lady was dying, she talked to the daughters-in-law at home, some were daughters who were waiting to be married, and some were daughters-in-law who had married in from outside.The old lady said: I have been a widow all my life, and I won the chastity memorial archway. In the future, you will inevitably be widowed when you are old.If you are a widow, you can keep it if you can, and you can remarry when you can't.Everyone was stunned when they heard it.Strange, this widowed king, the old lady who won the chastity archway, we all sing and praise you, how could he say such discouraged words when he was dying?The old lady said: You took a bag of things under my pillow, it was this kind of copper coins, and there were two hundred copper coins in it.Everyone opened it and saw that there was indeed a pack of two hundred copper coins, and each copper coin was shiny.The old lady said: Do you know? This is my tool for widowhood.She said: I am young, my husband died, and I sleep alone at night.When the lights go out, I sometimes miss my husband and men, but what should I do?I have to take out this bag and scatter the two hundred copper coins on the ground.The lights were gone, and the candles were all extinguished, so I knelt down and picked up these copper coins in the dark, and put them back into my pocket one by one, picking up all the two hundred copper coins.After I picked it up, I was sweating profusely, and I was so tired that I fell asleep when I went to sleep again.There were no sleeping pills at that time, she said: This is a tool to help me stay widowed.If there are widows who can keep it, then keep it, and if some people can't keep it, don't force it. Find a way to remarry and forget it.

This is a reasonable testament of an old lady who had obtained the chastity archway in the Qing Dynasty when she was dying, and told her family's daughter, granddaughter, and daughter-in-law who were about to marry off.Therefore, (we) know that widowhood is not easy.This kind of encouragement was only available in the Qing Dynasty. When you have been a widow for many years, sixty years, seventy years, or eighty years, and your son has a head and face, or has power and power, this chastity archway will be built for you. The story of Ji Xiaolan I just told tells everyone that she is an ancient person, but her thinking is newer than modern people.Now if a girl is raped, why does she have a psychological breakdown?Physiologically, although it changes a lot, it’s not a big deal. From an objective point of view, the psychological pressure is particularly heavy.Why is it so big?It's just that she can't explain it, can't explain it.The ancients couldn't explain it even more, so they believed that rape was completed and attempted rape was different.

Why do we now have a crime called rape in the law, which is called telling Nailun.What is telling Nailun?You have been raped, you go to the court to sue me (sue me), Nailun (my judge is in charge of this matter), if you don't sue me (don't sue me), I don't care, don't sue me.Why is it like this?Who are you protecting?Rapists were protected.Why are rapists protected?Why don't you come and sue?Because according to the general social saying, saying that I sue you becomes the second gang violence, the second rape.why?Because I want to describe the fact in its entirety, when, where, under what circumstances, and how I was raped. The rapist (defendant) is standing next to you. You can imagine what his expression is, whether he is confessing or grinning. ?There used to be an incident in Taiwan where a woman was raped by a driver in her home.After being raped, he went to sue. In court, the driver suddenly told the judge: What is rape, what is rape, she loves me, and we slept together.As a result, the girl was raped, and she was so angry that she hanged herself after she came back.This happened in Taiwan, so the average girl who reported the crime was less than the one who was actually raped.Why didn't you report the case? It was because I felt that after reporting the case, a quarrel broke out, and people said that this woman had been raped, which was even more detrimental to the girl.Or during the litigation process, I am afraid of being humiliated and feel very humiliated.

For the crime of rape, Nailun should not be informed.But why tell Nailun?It is the chastity concept of women that has been handed down from ancient times to the present. Being raped is tantamount to turning you into a flaw, you are not perfect, you are not a good woman, because you have been fucked by others, that's it. , on this concept.Therefore, in order to protect the so-called reputation of a woman, if she is raped, she will be dumb and refuse to sue.So, who did you protect by telling Nailun?It is to protect the rapist.But this protection is light, and the long-standing thought of women's chastity is stinky and has been passed down to the present.

I tell this story to tell you that we think we are modern people, but in fact our thinking is very old. We think that the thinking of ancient people is very old, like Ji Xiaolan, but in fact his thinking is very new.In particular, I would like to cite a new thought for you to read. Take a look at our classical books, there are many great concepts, and these concepts are really worth thinking about.