Chapter 45 Never force a child to grow up

I saw a mother in a certain forum who was very frustrated and said that she had been training her child to hold a water glass for the past two days.Because the child is already one year old, but still drinking the bottle.According to the textbook, he should be trained to hold a water glass, so he started the devil-style training of "drinking a cow and pressing his head".If a child does not drink from a cup or drink from a cup, he is hungry.Children drink only a few sips of fruit juice a day.She secretly fed the child a bottle of milk at night, and was also trained by the labor force, saying that all previous efforts were wasted.

To be honest, I feel very distressed.My son is the same age as this child, and I can't bear the pain of my son starving just because he can't hold a water glass.The growth and development process of each child is not as neat as a textbook or a pruned leek.Every child develops on his own terms.Don't compare your own children with other people's children, and don't backfire. I am not in favor of potty training children.Although I am a preschool teacher myself, it will bring me a lot of trouble if the children can't control their bowel movements.But I have never asked parents to potty train their children at home.Because this process is very cruel, it makes young children nervous and stressed.When he makes a mistake due to lack of self-control, he will panic, cry and be nervous.This kind of ideological burden should not be borne by children.No one will lose control of urine and urine at the age of 8 or 9. This is maturity, compared with two or three years old.There's nothing to be ashamed of or worry about being half a year late.

Likewise, I am not in favor of training a one-year-old to drink from a cup.I don't see any advantage in kids who can drink from water glasses over kids who can't.Everyone ends up drinking from a cup.Some children walk early but speak late, and some children grow teeth early but grow up later. You can't ask your children to always be ahead of others, or to always catch up with those who are faster than you. Walking leisurely at his own pace.Give him free space to grow.Every child will suddenly see the light one day.When he sees children of his size drinking from a cup, he will naturally ask for it one day.

Don't train him to sleep by himself, leave the loneliness of the night to the child.Don't train a child to grow, he will grow naturally. All parents have to do is to be themselves.You are the child's mirror.Your behavior is your child's mirror.Instead of teaching your children according to the book, it is better to teach yourself according to the book.