Chapter 8 One step at a time (12 weeks)

My husband always said that the past is too bad to look back on. Her husband's life has never been decided by him.When he was admitted to university, he could go to Peking University, the physics department he yearned for.But was rejected by the father-in-law.One is that he is reluctant to travel far away with his only son, and the other is that the father-in-law feels that he has a good network of statistics, which will help the child's future. So, the son inherited his father's career, and the husband reluctantly went to the Department of Mathematics of the University of Science and Technology of China.

In the later work arrangements, my husband did not enter the banking system with good benefits, but entered the scientific research institution where my mother-in-law works.Later, he was transferred by his father-in-law to teach in a university, and he was pressed on the head by his father-in-law. He left his well-developed business IT and came to Singapore to study for graduate school. Except that he chose his wife himself, of course he wanted to give up at one point, but was beaten by his father. After living for more than thirty years, her husband has no choice but to follow the track set by his father.The father-in-law is very complacent and feels that the future he arranges for the child is bright.My husband has gotten used to it from the previous rebellion and struggle, to the final silence and giving up, to the current mess.

In the past few years, what my father-in-law has been nagging most often is, alas, everything is going well with the child. If you can give me a grandson, everything will be fine. This is what my husband hates the most. We give birth to the children, and we take care of the elderly, but all the burdens and pains are borne by us.The husband flatly refused.I couldn’t resist the gentle wind and drizzle, and my parents-in-law were so earnest. Every time I returned home, I held a family meeting as an important topic, and invited my parents to form an allied army. They also organized us to visit and educate on-site, and took us to the house of the cousin of the newborn child. The room is full of urination and the warmth of the baby crying.

"We don't have any demands on you anymore. Don't have too many children. It doesn't matter if you are male or female, just have one." The parents-in-law always whispered in their ears. I finally discovered the importance of political work. I have to talk about a problem repeatedly, every year, every month, until you are brainwashed, when you feel guilty and sorry, and when you gradually change from resistance to acceptance and expectation. In the middle... After several years of stubborn persistence by the parents-in-law, they finally won again. I have been pregnant for three months, and I am so uncomfortable that I have been wondering how anyone can forget this pain and suffer a second time.When I vomited to the extreme, I vowed to my husband: "One time in this life is enough!" My husband also couldn't bear to see me exhausted, and he didn't see him waiting to see the child. Just go up the ring."

I told my mother-in-law on the phone, and the mother-in-law smiled and said, when a woman is lying on the bed, she scolds and swears to the sky that she will never have another child, and once the pain is over, she forgets all about it, one after another.Don't worry, after giving birth you'll want another one. I asked, why did you want one in the first place? She said, sorry, I want to win a round from you. I have recently gained weight, or rather a big belly, and I can't fit my pants.I'm worried, it's only been three months, and I've already started to blow up balloons. If I'm 10 months old, won't I be fat and out of shape?

The father-in-law sent the highest order again: Get fat if you are fat!Don't lose weight, make persistent efforts to have a second child while you are fat, and lose weight together after giving birth. Every time I call back, I ask my parents-in-law to guess whether this is a boy or a girl.The mother-in-law grinned and said, grandson. The father-in-law laughed and didn't answer directly, but just said, "I want a boy and a girl." Many friends once sighed and told me that a woman's life is incomplete without children.Then I started to chat with me on the topic of children.Of course, the first half hour was basically approval, and after the approval, there were bloody and tearful accusations, and the final conclusion was: I really couldn't figure it out back then, why did I have to have a child?Afterwards, he patted me on the shoulder and added: Of course, the fun is beyond your comprehension.At this moment, I suspect that this is the mouse that will set me up to join the meeting!

I really had a child and joined the mouse club. I sighed proudly with my mother-in-law on the phone: Oh!My life is finally complete. My mother-in-law told me firmly on the other end of the phone: "Yes, you are complete, but not consummated. To truly achieve consummation, you need to have two children!" have to!I just joined the Rat Club, and the Falun Gong started to preach again.You said that my mother-in-law's tone is a bit of a true biography?