Chapter 5 Chapter 5 How to Get a Thick Skin

Having a thick enough face can protect us from the wind and rain, let us not be afraid of any ridicule and ridicule, and stride towards success in life.However, thick-skinned is what good fortune calls for, such as Liu Bang's thick-skinned, which ordinary people can't cultivate even hundreds of armors. What should I do? The first person in history to encounter this trouble and consider a solution was Su Qin, a strategist in the Warring States Period. Su Qin had great ambitions in his early years, unwilling to be buried in the grass, and wholeheartedly wanted to stand out.So he studied hard and felt that he had almost learned, so he said goodbye to his family and embarked on the road of seeking wealth.He went to lobby the Lord of Eastern Zhou, but unexpectedly he was not successful, so he returned home in a state of disgrace.

After he came back, he was stared at by his family, and his sister-in-law spoke ill of him and only gave him leftovers.Ordinary people would give up if they felt ashamed at this point.But Su Qin is a smart person. He knows that the cold reception he has encountered from his family members is only caused by the setback and failure caused by his lack of ability. Unless he can improve his ability and make up for his shortcomings, otherwise, he is Impossible to achieve your life goals. If a person wants to make up for his lack of ability, there is only one way throughout the ages: reading.So Su Qin began to study hard again, and when he was tired, he would doze off involuntarily, so Su Qin tied a rope to the beam of the house to tie his hair to prevent himself from dozing off.This is not enough, in order to cheer up his spirits, he also used a sharp iron awl to stab his thigh from time to time.This is the origin of the idiom "the head hangs from the beam, the cone stabs the thigh".

Su Qin put in such a lot of hard work, and the books he read were called "Mo Qing" and "Yuan Yi".You know, on the negotiating table, the thickness of the opponent's skin means the bottom line. If your face is far less thick than the opponent's, then you will not be able to know the opponent's psychological activities. downwind. What Su Qin learned is such a lesson, as long as you know the thickness of the opponent's skin, know the bottom line of his psychology, and know what the opponent can give up, you can win these from the opponent.It is from these two books that Su Qin got the trick to crack the thick skin - if you want to make your own thick skin enough, you must study the thickness of other people's skin, unless you stand at a higher height, Otherwise you will not be able to defeat them.

So Su Qin knew that the thickness of the family's skin was limited, and the most they could do was give themselves a cold face, and the possibility of being beaten out of the house with a stick did not exist, so as long as he had a thick skin and continued to eat and drink at home, the family would have nothing to do.The princes and kings of other countries have much thicker skins, but their bottom line is that they are just greedy for the power and high position in front of them, hoping to take advantage of other princes and states. After understanding these principles, Su Qin became the thickest-skinned person in the world at that time.He first went to Qin, then to Yan, then to Zhao, then to South Korea, then to Wei, to Qi, to Chu, and finally with his thick skin, he convinced the six countries of Yanzhao, Han, Wei, Qi, and Chu. , Organize the trend of unity and unity, and unite against Qin.And Su Qin, as the "command leader", concurrently served as the phase of the six kingdoms, and realized his desire to live a happy life and be powerful in the world.

Some people read it, and they often say without thinking: "No wonder I always failed in doing things before. It turned out that I was not thick enough. From now on, I don't care about anything. For my own life ideals, from today In the beginning, I want to become thick and dark..." If anyone really thinks this way, then he has made a mistake of not understanding it. A thin-skinned person who is good at heart suddenly becomes thick and dark, but he doesn't know the opponent's Where the bottom line lies.The thick black at this time is just a kind of dog jumping over the wall in a state of psychological breakdown, and it is far away from the wisdom of life.

Looking back at Su Qin's growth process, we will understand that if a person wants to "thicken" his face, he cannot rely on anger and willfulness.You have to study human nature, study other people's profit-seeking patterns, and study other people's psychological bottom line. If you don't understand human nature and hope to rely on "thick black" to defeat others, you can only seek fish from trees, make fire through ice, and let you get away from yourself. Success in life is getting farther and farther away. Unless you know how thick-skinned someone is, you'll never be thicker than him--that's the secret to thick-skinnedness.