Chapter 19 Shi Jieao, the eighteenth child education expert

A benefactor once asked about refraining from anger, would a wish to the Buddha be successful?Jie Chen finds it difficult to answer this question.Although the donors feel that if they worship Buddha sincerely and work hard enough, their wishes will come true, but in fact, if the wish is unrealistic, it will be difficult to achieve the wish no matter how much incense is burned and how much thought is put into it. It should be said that the atmosphere of education is not bad in the small town where Jiechen lives. Even if the economic conditions of the small place are mediocre, most families with children will regard their children's education as a very important part of life.

The people Jie Chen has seen who have strictest requirements on their children are Yu Shizhu and Liu Shizhu in the small town. Speaking of it, the circumstances of the two benefactors Yu and Liu are quite different. Their jobs, ages, and family backgrounds are different. The only similarity between the two is their strict education methods for their children.According to Jie Chen's understanding, both of their children are considered very good, but the two benefactors themselves are not very satisfied. Jie Chen remembers that once, benefactor Yu complained to Jie Chen with a sigh, saying that his child did not pass the exam this time.Benefactor Yu's sad look made Jie An think that her child either got the bottom one in the class or the bottom two in the exam.However, Jie Chen was very surprised by what benefactor Yu said later, it turned out that benefactor Yu's so-called poor grades meant that the child did not take the first place in the class.

Hearing such a result, to be honest, Jie Chen didn't know how to comfort Master Yu.Because in Jiechen's heart, being in the top ten of the class is already a rare good grade, not to mention Yu Shizhu's child is one of the top students in the class. However, Benefactor Yu has her own reasons. She said that today's society is highly competitive, and life is like a racing car. People who run slowly can only be disgraced by the dust raised by the car in front. If they want to breathe fresh air, they have to Speed ​​up to win the first place. At the beginning, Jie An felt that she was worrying too much, and always felt that if the life was lived like this, it would be too hard. But later, Jie An found out that it was not only Benefactor Yu who had such thoughts, but also Benefactor Liu in the town. Similar thoughts.

Benefactor Liu said that the conditions of our small town schools are actually quite poor, and it is impossible to compare with schools in cities. If you fail to get the first place in the exam here, then if you go out to develop in the future, you will definitely suffer. After listening to the words of the two benefactors, Jie Chen found himself confused. He always felt that he had lived in the mountains for too long and didn't know the dangers of the world and the importance of hard work. Both benefactor Yu and benefactor Liu are pilgrims who often come to the temple. They are most interested in Jie Ao, the younger brother Jie Ao, because he likes to read books since he was a child, and he knows a lot of messy knowledge. He is very famous among the benefactors. The benefactors recognized that Junior Brother Jieao was very knowledgeable and could solve various problems, so when the two benefactors came to the temple, they would definitely bring Junior Brother Jieao to discuss the child's learning problems.

Faced with such a problem, Junior Brother Jieao was also very hardworking. He said that although he felt that the goal of the two benefactors' children competing for the first place was a bit high, but considering that the two benefactors' children had good backgrounds, maybe a little effort would really help. It is possible to get the first place.Moreover, Junior Brother Jie Ao also said that it happens that the two benefactors have the same problems, so it is good that the same energy can be used to achieve two things. For this reason, Junior Brother Jie Ao deliberately searched the Internet for a lot of articles about educating children, and then specially put forward teaching suggestions for the children of the two benefactors.

Seeing Junior Brother Jieao's serious look, Jie Chen broke into a cold sweat, because Junior Brother Jieao usually has too many tricks, although he did solve some problems, it also caused quite a lot of problems to develop in the opposite direction.In the past, the arrogance mostly dealt with trivial matters, which was fine, but this time it was about the children of the two benefactors, and it was a lifelong event that must not go wrong. When Junior Brother Jieao's teaching plan came out, Jie Chen went to check it out. After reading it, his confidence in Junior Brother Jieao increased greatly, because Junior Brother Jieao's plan was quite satisfactory, and several innovative suggestions were not out of line.Jie Chen even felt that if he followed this line of thinking, it might really have the effect of improving his grades.

A few months after the children's education plan of Junior Brother Jieao was handed over to the two benefactors, according to his feedback, the grades of the two little benefactors have improved, but it is still not possible to achieve the first place every time, and the rankings are still the same. It used to be about the same, sometimes first, sometimes second. Through Jie Ao's description, Jie Chen is basically sure that Junior Brother Jie Ao's plan has failed. After all, if one of the two little benefactors succeeds, it can also be explained that there is a problem with the way the other little benefactor learns. Even the little benefactors failed to complete their goals, so it can only be said that there is something wrong with Junior Brother Jieao's study plan.

Jie Chen thought to himself, it seems that the saying that lines are separated by mountains is correct, just like Junior Brother Jieao, although he has spent so much time sorting out the learning secrets, but the facts have proved that the progress of Junior Brother Jieao’s students is not as good as Better than children who read normally. This matter also made Junior Brother Jie Ao depressed for a while, after all he had spent energy but had no effect, so he was naturally a little unhappy. This matter was brought up again because of a teacher in the school in the small town. He didn't know where he heard about Junior Brother Jieao's teaching plan, so he asked Junior Brother Jieao to provide him with the document for reference.

When he asked Junior Brother Jieao to make a plan, Junior Brother Jieao also felt quite embarrassed.Junior Brother Jie Ao felt that since it was an immature plan, it would be better not to provide it, otherwise it would be bad if it misled others.But the teacher said that the problem is not actually with Junior Brother Jieao, because the children of Donor Yu and Donor Liu are actually classmates. wish, because there is always only one number one. Sometimes when we avoid anger, we think that in fact, many things and many wishes in our world are unrealistic.Perhaps since we were young, we have been taught countless times to strive for success and compete for championships.In fact, empty inspirational stories and chicken soup for the soul outline unrealistic life goals for us, which are far more harmful than ignorance.

The so-called success is always just an individual case. The proposition of "conquering the number one forever" can be proved to be a false proposition as long as it is placed on two people.But in reality, too many of us regard it as the creed of life and take it as the goal of lifelong struggle. The result can only be that the vast majority of people who fail can only look up to the few successful people who stand at the top cry. Perhaps the belief in life must be perfect. We not only need aggressiveness, but also peace of mind.We can only accept that a successful life is negative and dangerous, and we must accept failure and all the results of hard work frankly.