Chapter 48 The so-called "Pygmalion effect"

It's the end of the year again, and my original unit is probably busy organizing winter training classes again.Management training courses are definitely indispensable. The professors invited from the business school will probably tell the story of Pygmalion again. Pygmalion, the king of Cyprus who was good at carving, fell in love with Galatea, a beautiful girl he carved with all his energy and enthusiasm.He stared at, obsessed with, poured into thoughts and love every day, and finally moved Aphrodite, the god of love, so she gave life to the statue and made Galatea the wife of Pygmalion.The story of Pygmalion and the resulting "Pygmalion Effect" are told every winter. Leaders must pass on positive expectations to their subordinates, and teachers must place positive expectations on students: think about the best in everything, If you want to give good expectations to life, you will definitely get feedback.

If the old professor had watched the movie "My Fair Lady" adapted from a play by George Bernard Shaw, he would probably be ecstatic, and play it directly, which can completely save the trouble of preaching.In the story, Professor Higgins, a linguist, met Elisa, a flower girl on the street. In order to prove his point of view, and to explain that only the transformation of language and manners can make a lady, he made a bet with others that the Eliza was transformed as a test subject.In the process, he fell in love with her. Although he originally hated marriage and women, he seemed to be able to forgive the perfect woman he created.

The "Pygmalion effect" always seems to pay off—but only in film and in courses taught in business schools.The real example is just the opposite. The relationship between producers and female singers in the pop music industry is like that of Pygmalion and Galatea. They put expectations on them, help them shape their images, and gradually fall in love with them.For example Li Zongsheng and Lin Yilian, Au Dingyu and Chen Priscilla, Li Zhengfan and Zhao Yonghua, and Chen Jiaming and Xu Meijing, but all the romances ended in failure, especially Xu Meijing, she finally went crazy.Chen Jiaming has expectations for Xu Meijing, but why does Xu Meijing have no expectations for Chen Jiaming?Why doesn't she expect him to be dedicated and trustworthy, why doesn't she expect him to reciprocate her reckless, muddy feet, and moths to the flame?She also believed that her expectations would be fulfilled, but obviously the "Pygmalion effect" did not reverse, and all her expectations fell through.

It can be seen that the "Pygmalion effect" is only the effect of the strong side on the weak side, and it is the confirmation of the strong's expectations for the weak.In emotional relationships, it is usually the man's effect on the woman - the basic pattern of which is already illustrated by the gendering of that mythical figure.The reason why it is effective is not to understand it as a positive response from the weaker party, but rather to say that the weaker party will not respond.The expectations of the strong for the weak, and the expectations of the ruler for the dominated, will be fulfilled no matter what, but the reverse will definitely not work.Yes, we have given expectations to this world, and we are still gazing, obsessed, admiring, and trusting. We hope that the housing market will not be so cruel, and we believe that food will not be poisonous, but these expectations have not been fulfilled.Therefore, the relationship between the producer and the singer will not last long, because the "Pygmalion effect" is an unequal effect and a unilateral contract.Our lover-like relationship with this world will not last long, because our expectations have never been met.The old professors in the management class have probably never discussed in depth what the so-called "Pygmalion effect" is.