Chapter 44 emotional equation

In "Sleepless in Seattle", the protagonist Sam's wife passed away, and when he returned to the company after the funeral, his colleagues went to comfort him.Someone gave him a business card and said, "This is my therapist, call him." Sam pulled out a handful of business cards and showed him one by one: "Widowed Aid, Chicago Cancer Families, Single Parents , bereaved couples..." He even read out the above slogan: "Hug yourself, hug your friends, hug a psychiatrist, work hard, save yourself, use work to eliminate grief..." He has been comforted countless times, And in exactly the same way.

Zhu Xiaofen, the heroine in Tie Ning's novel "Encounter on Sunday", obviously took the initiative to divorce and got rid of the boring married life with relief, but people around her must think that a woman of her age must be abandoned if she divorces. Yes, so he treated her with unprecedented kindness and care, and poured out endless sympathy and comfort to her with a high profile.She was as happy as ever, and others thought she was hiding herself. She was jumping rope in the yard, and everyone thought she was mad with pain.In the end, she finally shed tears, and everyone was satisfied, even though it was her urinating.

The space between people is sometimes too wide and sometimes too narrow.The relationship between people is sometimes too thin, and sometimes too thick.When some accident brings people closer, the most terrifying thing is not the sudden over-caring, but the mechanization and stylization of emotional expression.Everyone feels that they have the need to express, but it is not from the heart, and there is no vivid way of expressing emotions, so they have to express according to the established emotional formula, not only demanding themselves, but also forcing others, trying to bring everyone into the same track.If someone fails to follow the equation, be sure to get an explanation within the equation.Just like "Encounter on Friday", divorce is a relief for Zhu Xiaofen, but it is too difficult for others to understand this.They are only willing to understand according to the way they can understand. She must be in pain. If she looks happy, that is because she is too painful.

But emotional equations and various expression equations often pass unimpeded.Because it is fast and convenient, it does not cause trouble for users and people around them to understand, saves everyone time and effort, and is the safest.Over time, it becomes Stockholm Syndrome.A friend of mine posted a picture of himself on his blog, and immediately someone scolded him for his self-love. Once he posted it again, but no one scolded him. After waiting for several days, he still didn’t get it. It was like stepping on a flight of stairs.Finally, one day, a female ID came up to leave a message scolding "narcissism", and he was finally relieved.I imagined that the owner of that ID had a pair of dark and dumb eyes, and felt that it was necessary for him to have a soul, but he didn't know how to have a soul, so under the influence of the surrounding air, he did something consistent.

But not everyone can do it well.I used to live in the West, and I only saw professional weepers and strippers at funerals in newspapers. Since I came to this small seaside town, I finally saw them one by one.One day in a community, I saw a family lined up in two rows in front of the mourning hall, with expressionless faces. A tall man, probably this type of professional, took a painful step and howled. There were no tears, and the cry was like It was like an opera performance, unspeakably weird, I walked past it, but felt the hair on my back.When emotions tend to dry up, even the most practical equations have to be done by others, so that people around them can see it, which will lead to such weird and terrifying results.