Chapter 35 talk to him, listen to him

"Pan's Labyrinth" director Guillermo del Toro's film "The Orphanage" set a new box office record for Spanish films and was nominated for 14 Goya Awards, but its story is really heartbreaking: the heroine She took her son back to the big house where she lived, and wanted to turn it into an orphanage.Not long after moving in, her son told her that he had made a new friend. She thought it was his fantasy and didn't pay much attention to it.The child told him one day that his new friend had a mysterious hut and wanted to take him to play.She was busy arranging a party for orphans and interrupted him hastily.After the party, the child disappeared. It was not until six months later that she found his tiny body in a hidden basement under the stairs. It turned out that the mysterious hut he mentioned was this place, and she was in the middle of the party. , unintentionally blocked the basement door, so that the child was trapped inside.If she could listen to him patiently, and even go to the basement with him to have a look, the tragedy that followed might not happen.

My friend Song Hui is very popular with children. Every time we get together, my friend's children will chat with him endlessly.Every time we go to a friend's house, we all open our arms to the children, but the children always jump at him first, leaving us withdrew our arms in embarrassment.He later introduced to us his experience of getting along with children, which is actually not mysterious. He said: "Children are actually very lonely and want to talk to adults, but adults always feel that children's words are stupid and don't want to listen to them. To get on well with them, all you have to do is talk to them."

The problem with most parents and children is that they refuse to talk to him or listen to him.Children's education courses often teach parents to "squat down and talk to their children", but no matter what posture they adopt, talking to their children is the core. What is "chijigu"?How do you say "Ah Wuzi is coming", like pressing a certain button, which will make him laugh non-stop?Four years of undergraduate education, in the end, is it just to discuss the arrival of "Ah Wuzi" with children?It is inevitable that people will have a few moments of mental breakdown and grief every day, and talking to children may be one of them.

But if you don't tell him, someone will tell him.For example, the mysterious friend in "The Orphanage", or an episode in the seventh season of "Crime Scene", where two children disappeared in the community, and the last suspect was a pedophile lurking in the community.There are biscuit candies and cartoon toys in his house, and he always listens patiently to the children.He knows what children like better than their parents.After solving the case, the police cited a survey showing that parents and children spend an average of less than 20 minutes talking each day.Therefore, every time I see a series of new regulations related to the broadcasting of TV cartoons by the State Administration of Radio, Film and Television, especially the expansion of restrictions on the broadcasting time of overseas cartoons, I feel that this is the same as talking to children.If you don't talk to your child well, someone will tell him that if you don't want to occupy the place, someone will occupy it.