Chapter 7 Chapter 06 Why Our Youngsters Don’t Have a Chance

This summer, what people talk about the most is no longer "fast men and super girls", but a group of "leftover men and leftover women", gold worshipers, rich girls, sharp sisters, pornographic girls, one by one, it's amazing .With the popularity of dating programs on several major provincial satellite TVs in China, the ancient and private event of dating has not only become a stage for some people to show off, but also gave birth to the "blind date economy". The naming fee of a blind date TV program can reach Tens of millions, and blind dates organized by various dating agencies ask for 500,000 membership fees, which are also sought after.Even the foreign media were surprised by the enthusiasm for dating in China. "USA Today" commented that "Chinese people have been conquered by TV dating shows." At the same time, it also distorts the true colors of love and marriage.

Recently, the TV media is a bit interesting. You can see that a few years ago it was a national talent show, and for a while it was a national KTV, and this time it was a national blind date.Moreover, this kind of TV dating show has been jointly "certified" by "People's Daily" and Xinhua News Agency. Although it is a rectification, it shows how influential it is.The dating programs are the "Three Kingdoms Performing Arts" of the three major TV stations, one is "Forward for Love" and the other is "Let's Date". The subject of the show is either sex or money.

There is no shortage of hypocrite moralists in our society. These people often stand on the commanding heights of morality and wield their sharp swords at will.In fact, in this day and age, sincerity is a scarce resource, and we should cherish it even more.I think some people, even if they say something that may not please many moralists, I think it is still understandable.For example, like Mano, her trouble is that she said these words on a place where the TV media is highly communicative, but it was amplified by the public media and accused of misleading the public.In fact, in private, many girls have the same views as Mano—I would rather cry in a BMW than laugh behind a bicycle.In this sentence, let me talk about its rationality.The rich and beautiful women are scarce resources in society, just like Cowherd and Weaver Girl, who can’t see each other across the vast Milky Way.If there is an intermediary agency that can match these two scarce resources and charge some intermediary fees, it seems normal.What is there to judge?Even if you hate the rich, you can't be blind. What we hate is getting rich in the sun and getting rich illegally. We can't say that we hate all rich people.

The most popular dating show is "Forward for Love", but it is also the shortest-lived, being abolished in 17 days.In fact, the TV station itself is the culprit, because they often actively induce guests, for example, the host said, "Oh, this man is so rich, and the salary I earn can only buy one wheel of this man's car", isn't this misleading? ?What is the purpose of the host talking about such a disgusting topic?Of course, it is also a high ratings.Isn't one of the reasons for Cui Yongyuan's depression is the ratings?If he gets high ratings, what good will it do for the TV station and for him personally?There are many benefits to this, including personal bonuses, naming rights, advertising fees and so on.Readers will find that there is actually a very long industrial chain behind the dating show, and the dating show is only one link, and it is the most important link, which affects the interests of every link in this industrial chain.As long as the TV station distorts this link, everything that other programs could not get in the past can be obtained.This is the distortion of the dating industry chain, and this is the real problem.

The second most popular dating show is .This show magnifies and extremes the factors of the rich and the beautiful.If they magnify the inspirational spirit of Mr. Yuan Longping who studied hard in the fields and carried out rice breeding, then there is no problem.But what it magnifies is showing off wealth, such as how rich he is, how many mansions he has, and so on, rather than magnifying the process of hard work of the rich to become rich.In the end, the TV station only talked about how to go on a blind date after you have money.To put it even harder, it is how to play with women when you have money.This kind of topic will only bring value distortion to our society.

"Let's Date" basically has handsome men and beautiful women, and there seem to be not many rich men and beautiful women. This program is probably the better of the three programs, and the topics are not so explicit, so its ratings are also the worst among the three programs. Let's make a horizontal comparison of these three programs, and readers will find that the more explicit the program talks about wealth, sex, and gold diggers, the higher the ratings of the program will be.So this is no longer a problem of a program, nor is it a problem of gold diggers, but because the whole society has bred such a money worship industry chain, and these programs are only to cater to these needs of the society.So now it is not Mano's problem, but a major crisis in our society as a whole.And when we face this crisis, we actually want to use a fig leaf to cover this crisis, instead of facing this crisis fundamentally and solving this crisis.

These dating shows have received so much attention because they have taken off the fig leaf, allowing the guests to "run naked" and the whole society to "run naked".At this time, a group of hypocrite moralists suddenly jumped out and said, "Oh, you can't do this, quickly hang up the fig leaf." Our media, whether it is print media or online media, began to beat the "reservoir dogs" together.I usually don’t realize that there are so many people in China with extremely lofty morals and extremely holy hearts. How could something like this come out so quickly? This really puzzles me. All of them seem to be full of fat, red-faced, and quite social.Some moralists can't wait to brandish their moral swords and slash at dating shows before they have clearly explained their misdeeds of playing with women.

Interestingly, China is not only rich in moralists, but also abounds in "immortals" among the people. For example, "Mung Bean Immortal" Zhang Wuben is the most representative one.He was too self-restraining, and touched the cheese of "Famous and Upright", so "Famous and Upright" was very angry, and the consequences were very serious, so he mobilized relevant organizations to deal with this "big fairy".In fact, I agree with the criticism of these programs by the "Famous and Decent School", and the "Great Immortal" is definitely wrong, but don't the "Famous and Decent" feel blush, you hold the truth and justice, and you can't compete with the "Great Immortal", don't you? Does it mean that the "famous and decent" are mentally handicapped and their level is not good?Do we need to do more homework to understand the psychology of the audience and grasp the laws of the market economy, so that we "reputable and decent" can make money, so why always suffer from "pink eye disease".After thinking about this issue clearly, and looking at it from this perspective, is it true that most of our TV programs, especially mainstream TV programs, have far-reaching production concepts, production levels, grasp of public psychology, and the use of various advanced methods? Behind these shows we are now criticizing?Should these "well-known and decent people" conduct some business discussions, find ways to improve themselves, and make themselves bigger and stronger.If our mainstream creative ability improves and attracts the public, won't these "big immortals" die automatically?

Now that we are rectifying and rectifying the dating show, we can only transform these "leaves".What about "trees"? What about "forest"?Can you change it?So the host defended himself after this rectification movement, and his words were very accurate. He said: "We Chinese have become numb to the state of confusion between truth and falsehood. It sounds so pleasing to the ear, I can say that there is no other country in the world where people’s desire and greed for money and material things can surpass today’s Chinese people. But we are quite serious on any occasion, so When girls say on stage that they want BMWs and houses, we can’t bear it.” I think what the host said makes sense, and what he describes is the society covered by the fig leaf .

People like Mano are indeed not good, and they cannot represent the direction of our society, but if you judge her now and let everyone spurn her, what effect will it have?Because I believe that there will be Zhang Nuo and Li Nuo in the future, who will be cultivated by this system soon.Isn't there a "broken window effect" in psychology, that is, after a window is broken, if it is not repaired, others will "suggestively condone".Therefore, what we should seek is why such a Mano was produced, and what is the real reason?Then seek a more in-place solution, instead of simply covering the fig leaf again as it is now.

Let's take a look at what kind of strange talk it is after tearing off the fig leaf.I excerpted some of the words from these programs, and first I would like to talk about what the guy named Leopard said. He said, "Girls, let me tell you, if you marry a man or a husband, don't marry without a diamond ring over 5 carats." , and said, "Come here, as long as I let Lao Tzu fall in love with you, you will definitely not regret it."Alas, this person seems to be a Wenzhou businessman again. They speculate on real estate, garlic, and mung beans. Now they are speculating on dating shows again, which is really unbearable.There was also a foreigner named Alex from London who participated.According to the habits of foreigners, you have to introduce your interests first. He said that he likes swimming, music, and is a DJ in a bar, earning 300 yuan a day.These beauties lose interest as soon as they hear it. Think about it, how much money can a DJ make.In the end, he said that he pays great attention to environmental protection and loves the environment. At the same time, he also has the habit of collecting waste products. I don’t know if you have watched that episode. It’s very interesting. It means no one likes him anymore.Is there anything wrong with this lad?No.If readers don't believe it, they can go to Europe to see it. The whole of Europe is like a big garden.Why?Because everyone pays attention to environmental protection, everyone picks up the waste and can use the waste. This is the awareness of environmental protection.From the perspective of our country that does not pay attention to environmental protection, his behavior of picking up waste products is purely a fool who picks up waste. Which girl would like him?Ironically, the host actually announced in the end that Alex's father is a banker and his mother is an artist. The family is very rich, but he loves environmental protection, so he collects these waste products in China.Because he loves music, he says he works as a DJ in a bar.Missing such a wealthy son-in-law, I don't know if the girls on the stage who have the same mentality as Mano will shout it's a pity. In fact, for people, money is never the most important thing, but it is always the second most important thing, so worshiping money is not a crime.But there is a prerequisite for money worship. You have to find the most important thing, which is your "soul". This soul may be true love, justice, conscience, or other virtues.Everyone must pursue the soul, otherwise, the money worshiper will become a monster, and then magnified by some media, it will inevitably cause very serious consequences, poisoning our next generation, so that our next generation will become a soulless money worshiper Activists.But what exactly is a soul? In 2003, American Fox (FOX) TV station launched a TV program "Who is going to marry millionaire Joey".The program said that Joey inherited a legacy of 1 million US dollars, so he is very popular among ladies.The show arranged for many women to date him, and in the end they chose layer by layer, leaving a woman who seemed to really love him.In the end, the organizer said sorry to the lady, because Joey is not a millionaire, all this is fiction, he is a poor man.This time is a test for this lady.You said you will marry or not?If you don't marry, it means you are a gold digger, and the whole society will despise you.If you marry, you will marry a poor man.For those of us who now generously admit that we marry rich people, there is nothing to worry about, just don't marry.But this woman chose to marry Joey in the end.After getting married, the column team actually rewarded the newlyweds with 1 million US dollars, and everyone was happy in the end.This program is the highest-rated program on Fox TV since its launch, but it is not like our dating show, which only advocates vulgar money worship, but through such a roller coaster plot, it advocates a correct view of marriage and love. That's what I mean by soul. In fact, the master version of our TV dating show is a British show called "Take Me Out".These programs of ours are all plagiarized from others.For example, we also make short films for other people's programs, but the realm is completely different.The short video was broadcast like this, a young man went to seek marriage, the program described that this young man likes to ride a motorcycle, instead of showing off what kind of Mito he drove, what he showed was just a hobby of this kind of sports.Our short film will definitely tell the audience and guests vaguely but eagerly, what brand of car this person owns, what kind of house he owns, and other things, while the British short film describes what I love, which is Two completely different realms. This reminds me of Disney, the greatest entertainment company in the world. We always think that creativity is the core competitiveness of Disney, but Disney's answer is "No".On the surface, Disneyland is about creativity, but in its core, it interprets the simple emotions of warmth, kindness, love, care, sympathy, bravery, and compassion through movies, thus building a soul, which is called the American spirit, or even the human spirit.Therefore, Disney can become a Fortune 500 company with the sixth largest brand value in the world.In addition, there is a very famous magazine in the United States called "Reader's Digest". We always think that the reason why "Reader's Digest" is popular is because of its twists and turns, bizarre and touching stories.But this is not the case. The reason why "Reader's Digest" attracts people is because "Reader's Digest" pursues a concept, a kind of perseverance, struggle, and mutual help that human beings show when they encounter difficult environments. Special spirit, this is the soul of Reader's Digest. What is the soul of the media?The Pulitzer Prizes in the United States are the best journalism awards. What they pursue is not circulation, but the highest ideals and conscientious and legitimate behaviors.Only a sound perception of the issues involved and a genuine sense of moral responsibility can keep the press from swaying commercial interests.And this is what we lack the most. Our media completely disregards their social responsibilities for the sake of commercial interests, and has no moral bottom line.For the Pulitzer Prize, circulation is very important, advertising costs are very important, but even more important is the social responsibility of the media.This year, the Pulitzer Prize was awarded to a website for the first time. This website is translated into Chinese as "For the People". It seems that "literature and art serve workers, peasants and soldiers" is still valuable today. Guangzhou once conducted a survey among college students, and more than 50% of them said "I would rather marry a rich second generation than a poor ghost".Recently, there is a post circulating on the Internet - "It is better to marry an old rich man than a male classmate", and there are a lot of people who like it.But have readers noticed a phenomenon, that is, those who say these words are basically not children from rich or powerful families, but poor college students.This phenomenon is really terrible. Does it mean that "class solidification" is already a terrible reality?Thinking about it carefully, these poor people seem to have no other way to rise besides marrying rich people. This is the reason why so many people have such distorted ideas.To put it another way, when we scold these people for worshiping money, have we ever thought that this society does not actually give them a fair chance to grow up.The channel of our entire society's ascension has been controlled by a few people.When these young people feel that their future is hopeless, they find that there is only one boat they can take, which is to marry. What kind of person can they marry to have a chance to succeed?For them, marrying a rich man is a good choice.For farmers, in the past, rural children could leave the countryside and enter the city by studying, so as to get rid of poverty and become rich.Now this way seems to be blocked, relying on reading alone is not enough, because after finishing the book, you can’t find a job, and then you can’t find a job after you go to graduate school, and then you can get a doctorate... Have you noticed that we The society has deprived rural children of opportunities for advancement.These young people seem to be money-worshipers, but in fact, it is back to the topic we just talked about. Money-worship reflects a problem in the entire society. In fact, behind every gold-digging woman and man, there is a bitter heart.For example, you often hear people say, "Finding a good job is not as good as your parents", and now it is more popular to say "It's better to marry well than your parents", and finding a big money is the most convenient channel for this class to rise . So at the end of the talk, I come back to the question I mentioned at the beginning. Isn't what "Happy Girls", "Super Girl" and "Blind Date Show" are pursuing is a reflection of a social problem?Because you haven't given these people equal opportunities, when they feel that their future is hopeless, they will naturally have this idea of ​​worshiping money. If there are too many people like this, it will naturally become a phenomenon. It's just that we used a fig leaf to cover This social problem was covered up, but Mano and others ruthlessly tore down this fig leaf through the dating show, and our media took advantage of this golden opportunity to immediately construct this distorted dating industry chain for their own benefit.So many hypocrites and hypocrites jumped out at once and began to criticize. I have to praise the United States again. What is the value of American society?That is to give everyone a smooth upward channel, which is the so-called "American Dream".See how US Secretary of Commerce Gary Locke talks about his American dream?He said that he is a third-generation immigrant. His grandparents were poor when they immigrated to the United States, but they achieved an American dream.Gary Locke's parents worked hard to send him to college, and the United States gave him an equal platform. This platform allows everyone to have a fair opportunity to develop their abilities, so the phenomenon of money worship in American society is not very serious.Therefore, the reason why we worship money is because our society does not give everyone an equal opportunity. In addition to the road of worshiping money, there is another road that is diametrically opposite, called laughing poor.During the recording process, a male guest came on stage and said that I am very rich.Then the host asked him, how much do you make a month?He said that I earn 3,500 yuan a month, but the audience burst into laughter.This irony is of great significance. This guest is really courageous, because he dared to say it. Let us ordinary people say it, but we still can’t say it, because most people think it is embarrassing, and this guest used his own He feels honored to earn 3,500 yuan, so he thinks he has earned a lot.Do you have this kind of courage, and what response did we give him?A laugh. Therefore, blind dates set up a stage, economic singing, and then all the ills of the entire society are displayed on this platform.We often use the banner of the economy to pay attention to society and people's livelihood. Just like these entertainment programs, which seem to be blind dates, they actually expose the cruel reality that money is the key to everything in our society through the phenomenon of blind dates.To put it more bluntly, through the blind date show, the fig leaf of this social injustice was stripped off, and the reality of a social injustice was nakedly shown.But this fig leaf has been hidden by us for so many years, and we have been covering it up all the time. Now that it has been picked up like this, it has not only created a distorted dating industry chain, but also become a platform for hypocrites and moralists to display.We are now the whole people picking up other people's clothes, even our own clothes. This ability is unparalleled, but we seem to lack the ability to help others dress.I appeal to give our young people a Chinese dream similar to the American dream.Only by giving us young people an equal opportunity to rise up can the soul behind our money worship covered by the fig leaf slowly sublimate into a noble soul that breeds virtue. Gather information consciously so that you can build up your knowledge.For example, you have 3 hours of free time on a Saturday afternoon. You usually go out to play, sleep late, or watch TV during this time. Now you have to use this time to learn the method I taught you.You can first set a topic for yourself, such as "If you want to build a craft beer factory in Japan, what should you do", and then set yourself to complete the business plan within 3 hours. Today, the production methods of beer have all been made public on the Internet, for example: where is the beer production machinery excellent?Where are the hops sourced from?what is the price?Where is the barley produced of good quality?Which consultant firm has the most experience selling beer? - All of this information is freely available online. Then you can use the distribution map of Japanese breweries to find areas without breweries yet, and search for the areas with the highest population density among them, and use this as an ideal place to start a business.Then you can write a business plan, including "what is the market situation", "what is the competition situation", "where are the technical obstacles", "how to solve this technical obstacle" and so on. 3 hours must be able to complete these tasks. In fact, as early as 5 years ago, I used the method of formulating a business plan as a topic to ask business managers to do the above exercises.For example, I once made such a topic: "If you want to study a drug for Alzheimer's disease, and the company does not have this technology, then which company in the world should you cooperate with?" Please use business trips to conduct investigations and write Report. Under normal circumstances, people may think that it is to buy a plane ticket to go to a field trip, but my proposition is to use the "network" for business trips, because many companies have announced their professional fields on the Internet.In this way, the business trip report can be written and the business plan submitted within 3 hours.As long as you repeat this training process 1, 2 or even 10 times, you can accumulate the abilities that entrepreneurs must possess.In the real world, you may never know people, but you can get to know them through the Internet.In the past, it was almost impossible for young, poor, and unsupported people to get the favor of consulting companies when starting a business, but in the network society, this is very possible. This is a kind of "energy" (enabler), just like the spinach of Popeye in the cartoon.Even if entrepreneurs themselves do not have that kind of ability and status, they can also obtain power from other sources. Just because Google can play this role, Google itself is energy. This article is excerpted from "Entrepreneurship Bible" by Kenichi Ohmae