Chapter 19 Chapter 5 Love Is Making a Person-2

freedom, inspiration, happiness Love is the most important aspect that embodies the mystery of human personality, and at the same time it fulfills important social functions.In the first place, love plays a large role in the synthesis of individual liberty, which is experienced directly by every human being.  Political liberty (and social liberty in a wider sense) is the condition of the possibility of love.Social institutions that suppress individuality always distort, to a greater or lesser extent, the content of intimacy.Liberty necessarily requires a good atmosphere of every kind conducive to the intercourse of affections.In the era when political interests are paramount, men and women of the royal family have no right to choose their own love.The advanced form of the beauty of the relationship between the sexes is love, and the crystallization of love is marriage.

Yet throughout human history, marriage has often been a means of political necessity.The most dramatic was the marriage of the Roman Emperor Maximilian.When Maximilian was the prince, Charles, Duke of Burgundy, offered to marry his daughter Mary to Maximilian in exchange for a title of king, but the marriage failed.Four years later, Charles died, and the newly succeeded Mary asked Maximilian to marry again in order to fight against the French invasion.Maximilian rushed to get married, with the purpose of bringing the Netherlands into the territory of the Roman Empire through marriage. In 1482, the Netherlands rebelled, and France took the opportunity to push in. In order to compromise with France, Maximilian married his four-year-old daughter Margaret to the French crown prince Charles. In 1488, in order to control Brittany, Maximilian took the initiative to be engaged to Anne, the newly succeeded Duchess of Brittany. Because he could not separate himself, he sent a representative to hold the wedding ceremony.But at this time, King Charles of France married Anne first in order to fight for Brittany, and returned the ten-year-old Marguerite to Maximilian.There are many other examples like this. In the face of political needs, personal freedom of love is stifled, which is a major feature of feudal society.In most cases, the influence of politics on love is negative, and the success of political transactions is almost always accompanied by the tragedy of love.

We have long been tired of hearing the slogan of equality between men and women, but what is the real situation in the relationship between lovers?Are there conditions for free expression of opinion? In other words, is the love that has been produced conducive to the equality of both parties in the intimate relationship between two people, or is one party domineering and superior to the other? The various answers to this question are often is very interesting. In Turgenev's "January to the Countryside", Rakitin declares: "There is no equality in love. There are only masters and slaves, so the poet said that love is a chain, which is quite right. Just wait and see ! You will probably see how tormenting those tender little hands are, how tenderly they tear a heart to pieces... You will see what it is like to fall under the skirt of a pomegranate... This slavery How embarrassing and annoying."

In , Potukin also said similar things: "Men are weak, women are powerful, and chance is infinitely more powerful. It is difficult to be content with a life of indifference... There is beauty and compassion here, and warmth and light here,—how Can you resist it? You run towards it like a baby jumping on a nurse... Anyway, the rabbit will fall into someone's hands." This kind of slavery is inevitable, as irresistible as iron filings to a magnet.Until one day, "death comes to set us free". Since woman is like a magnet and man is like iron filings, man must have the right to be free.Equality between the two is only in name, because the liberty of the woman suppresses the freedom of the man.But the opposite position between men and women is more common.Men have historically suppressed women's freedom.This is indeed a common occurrence in traditional monogamous old-fashioned families.This inequality is gradually eliminated by the true depth of love that is being produced, and promotes the freedom of both lovers.In the process of communication, the deeper the intimacy, the more obvious the tendency of equality.

Love cannot tolerate oppression, bossing around and giving orders.Russell once said: "Love can flourish only when it is free and unrestrained. The idea that love is a certain obligation can only kill love. Just one sentence: You should love someone is enough to make you feel that way. People hate it to the bone." The love relationship is the most intimate, and both parties have to bear the responsibility of the "two-person alliance".Inevitably there arises a commitment from one person to another, the keeping of which may constrain their freedom.But the feelings of both men and women are still intimate, and the two parties are so perfectly integrated that they are indistinguishable from each other, which makes this obedience and commitment have another nature.Due to the same interest and desire, the practice of adjusting actions is no longer like a rigid injection from the outside, but to a large extent, people are given greater freedom to reach a tacit understanding and agreement.Mutual responsibility often becomes a free choice of action, in other words, "I will" also means "she will", and vice versa, "she will" is "I will".In this way, responsibility is transformed into freedom of expression.In a shared life, men and women coordinate their actions together to achieve common life goals without feeling driven.

Of course, love is by no means pure comfort and tranquility in mutual relationships, and it is by no means a complete fit of the expression value system.In some cases, one party's ideas do not meet the other party's wishes.Differences in personality are natural.But as long as there is love, then on the main issues of living together, the wishes of the two parties can still be agreed or similar. The more conflicts between "I want" and "she wants", the more degenerate love will be.Mutual responsibility begins to translate into the suppression of individual freedom.This is the process of mutual love gradually extinguished.Freedom in relation to one another takes on the character of coercion.Restriction and suppression of individual nature prevent love from truly developing.

The freedom of men and women in love means that everyone chooses their favorite love object according to the wishes, thinking, emotions, intuition and evaluation of their hearts, without being restricted by any external self-interest.The intensity and duration of his love are determined by each according to his perception of his duty.If both men and women respect each other's freedom, love can be happy for a long time and be continued continuously.For it is this relative freedom within the sphere of agreement which promotes and enriches affection.In Chernyshevsky's novel "What to Do", Ropukhov said to Vera Pavlovna: "To love someone is to want him to be happy. But there is no happiness without freedom. You don't want to be bound. Me, I don't want to bind you. If you are bound because of me, you will cause me pain."

Love helps people to use their free space of possibility wisely.Therefore, love helps to enrich the spiritual outlook of a person.The development of social freedom plays a role in the complex web of human interrelationships.The extent of social freedom has historically shown the limits of the realization of freedom in love.Sandor Petofi once expressed the value order of these two characteristics of human beings in a poem. All I want is—— Love and freedom. I am willing to use my life  in exchange for love,  for freedom What a pity for love. Many great thinkers of the past have pointed out the great role love plays in a person's life.Love can deepen a person's perception of the world and stimulate his vitality in all aspects.Therefore, love makes men and women energetic and refreshed.

Dante, the pioneer of the Renaissance, wrote passionately that love is "the radiance of heaven with the sun," which "illuminates the reason of man."Love enlightens thoughts and opens up a vast world for the spiritual development of society.Petrarch said in the "Songbook" that true love is a mysterious force that raises people to "the peak of light". According to Rousseau, the lover's intellect becomes "more acute".Love is "the all-consuming fire which sets the rest of the passions ablaze...infusing them with new strength...that is why it is said that love creates heroes".

As an economist, Fourier asserted that love has the function of production, but the power has not been well exerted.He included this great power of human beings in a reasonable social system in the future, specifically in economic life.He said: "Love, which in a civilized system is the germ of unrest, idleness, and consumption, is in a harmonious system the source of income and miracles of production." The connection between love and the perfection and acceleration of labor has been repeatedly pointed out.Van Gogh had a saying: "Those who know how to love will live, and those who know how to live will work." Love invigorates a person's physical and spiritual strength, prepares him to make a difference, and gathers the courage to live.

Love, as an expression of instinct, can intensify the tension of organic life.Love can make the body in motion maintain balance.Love is connected with other aspects of a person's external environment and internal situation, and can increase the vitality and initiative of the organism. This favorable physiological basis determines a certain state of mind.Immersed in happy and deep love, people don't know what depression, loneliness, and indifference are.There is only joyous excitement and a special lightness in the lover's mind, as if they experience a kind of inner purification, "sublimation of the soul."This state of mind enables people to give full play to all their powers. Love drives all the forces of man from within to best overcome difficulties.In Bruno's comedy "The Priest", Marta said: "Love is enough to make any heavy labor not only easy, but enjoyable." On the other hand, some special tendencies are bound to appear psychologically.A person who is in love always has a strong desire to do something extraordinary, to be successful, or to do something that others cannot do, in order to win the favor of the love object, to get him, make yourself worthy of him.Women want to be more beautiful, sexier, and gentler; men want to be more heroic, witty, original, and humorous. The individual's impulse to develop himself on the basis of love naturally manifests itself as inspiration.This form in which the spirit is active from within has been depicted in literature and art.Inspiration is a state of excitement within consciousness, an aspiration of consciousness to create and overcome difficulties.The arrival of inspiration is difficult, it is the crystallization of people's long-term thinking about problems, and it is produced by people's inner enthusiasm.The role of inspiration is progressive, because it first mobilizes a person's physical and mental powers, thereby enhancing the effect of his activities; in addition, it can also make this activity pleasant and full of emotion. Inspiration doesn't always come from the same social sphere.When it comes to him, we mainly think of it as poetry and literature. In fact, it can exist in political life, labor achievements, morality, science and other fields.Inspiration inspired by love has great action.Inspiration can be said to be the product of a person's accumulated self-cultivation. It is a profound emotional force that seems to be able to fundamentally transform a person's spirit and body.And the accelerator of inspiration is the love that people look forward to.Women are the source of beauty, giving men the fragrance of life and the spark of wisdom.Perhaps it is for this reason that those philosophers, wise men, and artists, such as Goethe, Hemingway, Rodin, Picasso... have changed their lovers many times in their short or long lives. work.In art, they look for women and love; in love, they look for the spirituality of art.What they are looking for is not this woman or that woman, but abstract women. Their women are their hearts, and their hearts are so wide that they seem to be able to accommodate all women.Morality!We can't reprimand them like this, in addition to the physical and mental scars, there are also works.They really didn't get much joy, for love or for art, they spent their whole life looking for it, no one can tell whether they found it or not.But one thing is clear, they cannot do without women to the death. Shakespeare's comedy "Love's Futility" says that love "doubles the potency of every organ".Love is surprisingly powerful. "It makes the eye brighter, and the light in the lover's eye can dazzle the eagle; the lover's ear hears the slightest sound, and no furtive plot escapes his perception, and the lover's feeling is better than that of the shelled snail. The antennae are more subtle and sensitive; the lover's tongue dulls the discerning Bacchus; . . . Love is as cunning as the Sphinx; Harmony is sweet to the ear; when love speaks, it is like the chorus of the gods, and the whole heaven is intoxicated with celestial music." Balzac wrote in the book that love breathes life into sad eyes and rosy pale cheeks.When Parisian women "really fall in love with each other, they rise above their wretched character and become spiritually sublime." Love is the source of inspiration for artists.From the bewitching magic of love come beauty and wonder in all forms of art.Thousands of years of human history have convinced people of this. The energy of love is sometimes a catalyst, giving people the vitality of thinking and inspiration for innovation.At all times and in all over the world, many men became so-and-so "home" because of their love for women.Pushkin's "To Keith" was written in 1819 when he met a beautiful girl named Keith in Petersburg and was inspired by love at first sight; Petofi's "Little Tree Trembling" and other impressive poems were written in 1664. The poems written by the poet when he fell in love with You Li in the autumn of the year; the "Fantasia in C Major" written by Schumann when he fell in love with the female pianist Clara can be said to be his soul call to her with musical notes.He said: "The spark of love fueled my creative enthusiasm." Inspired by love, Mozart wrote a series of great works such as "The Marriage of Figaro", "Don Juan", and "The Magic Flute".He said to his lover: "The reason why I can write these works so quickly, half of the credit belongs to you." On the contrary, the loss or interruption of love sometimes destroys a man's spiritual world.Schubert obtained inexhaustible creative inspiration because of love, but the loss of love plunged him into extreme sadness and disappointment, and he died at the age of 30 amid countless sufferings in life and ravages of diseases... Countless examples All illustrate the power of love to inspire inspiration. Love, Ovid said, is not the "idleness" of profligacy.He wrote in "Love's Elegy": "If you don't want to be an idler with nothing to do, then love." The ancient Roman poet Tuxian knew the power of love's kindness very well: "Song produces love, and love also produce songs." The inspiring power of love was particularly vividly expressed in the art of the Renaissance.The passion of love constantly drives the innovations of poets, painters, architects and musicians.Love illuminated Petrarch and Boccaccio, Cervantes and Shakespeare, Goethe and Schiller, Byron and Shelley, Stendhal and Balzac, Pushkin and Lermontov and many other poets aesthetic vision. In the internal atmosphere of literary and artistic masterpieces, happy love is also strongly reflected by the inspiration of the creator.Happy love makes the feelings of these works full of vitality through psychological generalization, and the view of the world is optimistic and fearless, which dispels the mood of depression, pessimism and disappointment. Love is also an inspiring force in science.It is difficult to examine the role of love in the life and creation of scholars, because it is far less direct in this respect than it is in literary and artistic creation.Only a few occasional confessions partially lifted the curtain.Werner writes: "In telling my experience as a scholar, I do not hesitate to leave out those episodes of my life with my wife that moved me the most, if they had no direct connection with my intellectual activities. However, if this gives people the impression that my inner life is only concerned with my own future and neglects my faithful and loving wife who is always there to help me, then I can live a normal life for so many years , that displeased me. I am convinced that family life is a purely private matter, which makes it difficult for me to speak about it. I feel that in order for the reader to understand this aspect of my life, it is necessary to talk about the two of us. something of." It is difficult to point to a social activity which is not positively affected by love, or which may be said not to be affected at all.Each of us experiences the inspiring power of love all the time.However, this has not been faithfully recorded in the results of their production activities. Of course, lovers may also have little enthusiasm for labor, but would rather idle around and live a leisurely life.Such cases are rare, but they show that love does not automatically work well.Love, together with other factors such as education, the example of someone close to us, has a beneficial effect on human consciousness. Love inspires people to overcome difficulties on the way forward and to create miracles.Jack London idealized women in the context of world history in his novel "The Girdle". "I sometimes feel that the history of a man is the history of his love for 'a certain woman...I've been in love with her. It's her that haunts my dreams, and whatever I'm thinking about during the day, it's always about her. She. She is everywhere... Like all the sages before me, I know the real face of a woman and her various weaknesses... But the fate is always inevitable: her legs are beautiful Yes, her eyes are captivating, her hands and breasts are heaven, and her allure is irresistible to the giddy man... Woman attracts man as the North Pole attracts the needle of the compass." "Because a woman in the eyes of a man...is absolutely wonderful. He tastes her sweetness, smells her fragrance, she makes his blood boil...that's why a woman has the power to shake that Hercules of light and darkness can't make it of a trembling man's heart." "For her, and for her future child, I lay dying on the top of a big tree, fought against the enemy at the entrance of a cave, stood behind the earthen wall in a siege. For her I drew the signs of the zodiac in the sky .I regard the ten jade stones as the months suitable for cultivation, and when I worship them, I pray to her." "Women are like hens that protect their chicks, always clinging to the earth. But my desire to roam the world always leads me to a shining journey." Love is associated with the highest state of personal happiness.The interdependence that exists between the content of these two experiences is long-standing and closely linked.The associations of daily life are very strong, and two words are often closely linked, and speaking of one aspect will summon the appearance of the other.A person cannot be said to be completely happy if he has not experienced the deep passion of love.This point of view is constantly confirmed by examples in life. Naturally, happiness is not limited to love and the intimate experience of love.Happiness involves all aspects of a person's entire life.Happiness has been hotly debated since ancient times.The meaning that people usually assign to happiness is different. Hedonists, from Aristotle and Epicurus to Spinoza, Helvetia, and Holbach, saw happiness as the long-term, reasonable personal gratification, the highest good.They regard this purpose of life as the main one, and they steadfastly fight against asceticism. Ethical seriousmen, from Plato and Seneca to Epictetus and Kant, believed that their highest moral task was not personal satisfaction, but rational obedience to "fate" or duty.They direct consciousness to another reality, the reality of Transcendentalism. By posing the question in this way the elements common to love and happiness are made more apparent.The problem is directly related to fulfillment and obligation, because love is not only a pleasant, long-term personal experience, but also a concrete realization of some kind of social connection in reality.Thus, love brings enjoyment to man and at the same time conforms to his sense of obligation.It is also the different aspects of love that infiltrate the individual's psychology as a whole and form the feeling of personal happiness.  Different people have different understandings of ideals and their own obligations, so they endow happiness, the highest need of personal existence, with different contents.Personal perceptions of various life values ​​play a large role here.Some people think it is happiness to work for the arts and sciences, some people think it is happiness to have material wealth, and so on.But, in either case, happiness requires the fulfillment of emotional needs at the societal level.Individuals, therefore, express themselves to their fullest in pursuing their highest aims in life. Love is concerned with the fulfillment of social obligations, which gives intense, long-term satisfaction to ordinary life, and opens up the deepest and most intimate sources of emotion.Thus the personal life of the loving partner is more fulfilling, full of beautiful and pleasant feelings.Love plays an important role in establishing a particular emotional and spiritual state of personal inner happiness. Generally speaking, love has a wonderful function of increasing the value in the individual's eyes of that which it touches.In this way love gives new and higher meaning to the ordinary, ordinary life of the individual.In "The Triumph of Love", Schiller expressed people's subjective understanding of this state with the realm of poetry. The gods are happy because of love, We have love, Like a fairy. Where there is heavenly love, Everything in the world there,  seems to be heaven. The development of society is indispensable and also requires the development of love.The content of love has become an important criterion for measuring a person's spiritual height.The spiritual essence of love is constantly enriched, and it accumulates the aesthetic value and moral value of the growing spiritual civilization.