Chapter 10 Chapter 3 The Peers of the Gods

I remember that the great Indian poet Rabindranath Tagore said that in front of love, all of us are peers of the gods, that is, no matter who is enjoying love, life is like a fairy, and everyone is equal here.However, as time passed, the gods came down to earth.Whether men or women, they have the same role in the development of modern society. The chief natural differences in physiology of the sexes appear in the speed and dexterity of locomotion.Young boys are more dexterous than girls in throwing.The main difference lies in the strength of the hands.Generally speaking, men's movements surpass women's in strength and speed, which can be easily seen from the performance differences in weightlifting, throwing and running in sports meetings.In terms of dexterity, men and women have their own strengths. Men are more dexterous than women in throwing, but women are more dominant in minor activities (such as operating computers, etc.); Generally good at dancing than men.In terms of shape, men tend to be straight or broken lines, while women tend to be curved. For example, men tend to stand up straight with their legs slightly apart, while women tend to use one leg as the main leg and twist their hips in reverse. more.But women are no less dexterous than men, and often even surpass them.Observations show that women can quickly get used to various complex movements from an early age.They are easier to learn to require accurate and deliberate hand movements, combined with certain physical activities that require a high degree of concentration.Girls tend to be able to dress themselves earlier.Psychologists pointed out: "It can be seen that there is a certain basis for thinking that women are 'weak', because on average, women are much weaker than men (although women are equally dexterous), but this is basically determined by genetics. However, in many respects, it should be admitted that men are weak.” In general, men’s movements tend to be rigid, fast, and straight, while women’s movements tend to be soft, slow, and curvy.

Artistically displaying the characteristics of these two groups of people has been around since ancient times.The distinction between the sexes of man is brilliantly and gracefully represented in the marble statues of ancient Greece.Aphrodite of Milo embodies pleasing harmony and mythical femininity.The vigorous figure of Hercules embodies strength and austere beauty.His strong body is slightly bent, with plump muscles, and groups of iron bumps seem to be about to jump out, which is the majestic condensation of vitality.The artists of the Renaissance also made the types of men and women beautiful.It is enough to cite two images: Leonardo da Vinci's Mona Lisa and Michelangelo's David.Mona Lisa is gentle, elegant, and affectionate, and her subtle smile is fascinating.David's shapely figure is boldly bare, with a serene air, proud of his physical and moral prowess.

No matter how the difference is, the biological difference between men and women is obvious.The most divergent opinions are the spiritual and psychological (emotional, intellectual, aesthetic, moral) differences between men and women. First, there are certain differences in temperament.However, in people of different genders, this characteristic has a certain swing range.Generally speaking, there are four basic types of characteristics shared by both sexes: sanguine, choleric, phlegmatic, and melancholic.These are the image expressions of human temperament by ancient Greek thinkers.The strength, smoothness, and alertness of neural activity vary from person to person, so what is the scientific explanation?

Choleric quality is a metaphor for irritable temperament.Passionate, optimistic, straightforward.They are hot-tempered, impatient, have fiery passion, and act swiftly and decisively.The character is resolute and energetic.Such people are prone to recklessness, poor self-discipline, and are prone to extremes and extremes.Headstrong, irritable and even provocative.Once the energy is exhausted, the mood will be low. Sanguine is a metaphor for lively people.Extroverted, lively, flexible and energetic, he maintains a good curiosity about new things, but he will change every action easily and casually. He is constantly pursuing changes, easy to get close to people, good at cooperation, and quick and capable in his work.But these traits can also manifest as being unsustainable, sloppy, not hardworking enough, or not keeping promises.Wide range of interests and impetuous, easy to change one's mind.

Phlegmatic temperament is a metaphor for the temperament of a quiet person.Introverted, stable, stable, even a little pedantic, no matter what kind of environment he is in, he can be calm and at ease.Serious and meticulous work, organized.Not good at talking and communication, silent and patient.However, we cannot act decisively and stick to the old rules.He behaves in a low-key manner and is depressed. Depression is a metaphor for a melancholy person.Seriously introverted, weak, sensitive, shy, indecisive.lack of confidence.Reticent and depressed.Work in an orderly manner, good at discovering subtle details.But slow, hesitant, exaggerated difficulties, not social.Emotionally withdrawn, sentimental, often inexplicably worried.

Each of us can be seated according to the above rough description.To a certain extent, temperament is adapted to the physiological state and psychological environment of different ages.It has been pointed out that the reaction is usually phlegmatic in children, sanguine in adolescents, choleric in adults, and melancholic in the elderly.There is some truth to this statement. There can never be a "pure" temperament in a concrete human being.Today's research shows that human temperament is actually a compound of four temperaments. Any person's temperament contains these four temperaments. In the final analysis, every person has certain characteristics of irritable, lively, quiet and melancholy.One or two of the main components can be called a person's temperament characteristics.

As far as men and women are concerned, men's violent temperament often prevails.Men are often reactive, willpower, resolute, emotionally intense, and energetic.Statistically, men typically display more frontal strength, are more ambitious, and are also more tenacious, able to withstand rough pressure.To put it figuratively, he is a "long wave radio station".Of course, what we're talking about here are typical, regular trends, a broad-brush overview, and exceptions are common. The nature of women is most compatible with sanguinity.If masculinity is characteristic of men, the typical tendency of women's behavior is mental and physical grace, responsiveness, flexibility and tact in manner.Even when women's emotions are difficult to extricate themselves, they are often internal and reserved, not as explosive as men's.Women are more delicate, fragile and gentle.It can be said that women are often "short-wave radio stations" when receiving and transmitting information.

It can be generally said that the character of the man is actually expressed as fighting, while that of the woman is expressed as tenderness. Simone de Beauvoir mentioned a fact discovered during the excavations of the city of Pompeii, which was buried by volcanic lava and ash. "...the charred male corpses are in a state of resistance, as if they are fighting against the sky or trying to escape, while the women are curled up, prostrate on the ground, enduring pain." Differences between men and women are also expressed There are different levels of feeling.Women are more sensitive in all aspects of feeling.Under normal circumstances, women can distinguish more nuances of color than men.This may be due to the natural body structure, which is an unconditioned reflex.

It is also widely believed that women respond more quickly to frequent external stimuli and are therefore more adaptable.Psychologists studying this issue pointed out: "In terms of speed of perception and psychomotor, women clearly exceed men. For example, women's reading speed and comprehension ability exceed men... Women rarely stutter... Women's Facial expressions are richer than those of men. Observing the faces of passing men and women on the streets of a big city, it can be found that men usually have dull faces and stiff expressions, while women, on the contrary, often change their expressions, especially the creases at the corners of their mouths. ..."

The vacillating mind of women is liable to shift from one mood to another.The heightened sensitivity of women is striking.Even the smallest misfortune can make a woman weep, while a man weeps only on occasions of extreme sorrow, and any event of joy can cause a woman to immediately express her joy.Men are not always eager to express their emotions.There are also differences in how long the relationship lasts.A crying woman can stop her tears and forget her pain with relative ease.And it is difficult for a man who is crying bitterly to calm down.Women's laughter is mostly like a burst of silver bells, passing by in a flash.Men's laughter is not often heard, but it is often infectious.

The question of intellectual differences between men and women is especially hotly debated today. The first is the difference in memory.Many scholars are convinced that women have an advantage in this regard.Psychologists say that "a strong memory ... is an inherent characteristic of women ...". "For example, female medical college students have outstanding performance in the examinations of anatomy, physiology and general pathology. They can describe various facts and their interdependencies very accurately. But when they enter the clinical diagnosis, they are obviously inferior to boys." The conclusions drawn are: 1. In terms of mastering and memorizing specific facts, phenomena, words, etc. for future reproduction, women’s abilities and potentials are more developed than men; 2. For women, mechanical memory is typical, while For men, it is logical memory, internal associative memory. Modern research results show that girls have a clear advantage in terms of language association response ability ascertained through experiments.They retain this advantage into adulthood.Women are easy to understand and understand things, and understand things by analogy, which is in line with their lively temperament.However, generally speaking, people with a lively temperament remember quickly, but they also forget quickly.Memorizing materials quickly is a woman's strengths and her weaknesses.For male intelligence.His weakness is that he is slower than women in memorizing material, but that is not necessarily a bad thing.Slow memorization also means slow forgetting, and knowledge can be remembered more deeply.Memory is absolutely indispensable to the creative activity of the intellect.However, a good memory does not mean a strong thinking ability.Some people with great memories do not exceed mediocrity in their talents. In fact, the natural difference in intelligence between men and women is definitely not qualitative, let alone disparity.Both sexes can constantly develop their logical thinking (analysis, synthesis, etc.), imagination, intuitive ability and pioneering courage.In this field, traditional viewpoints, value orientations and thousands of years old habits still play a role.Women are seen as illogical but emotional, or special types of people with relatively low levels of deep thinking, who are only good at using superficial concepts on a daily level, and cannot penetrate into the advanced realms that men can reach , the creative domain of the intellect.The difference lies only in the quantity of the individual elements of the intellectual activity of the sexes. Apparently, women are "more practical" in their lives, focusing on specifics.Applied and near-practical sciences are generally said to be the domain of the female intellect.Men are more inclined to gallop in the realm of abstract thinking.They prefer to treat reality with a comprehensive attitude, and prefer the ability to generalize.Men engage in the abstract sciences (mathematics, philosophy, logic, etc.) with higher enthusiasm.Fourier once said: "Women are good at using individual concepts, rather than generalizations and abstractions. They pay attention to facts and details." Women generally "don't like to make philosophical discussions."Their thinking and ability to "directly" observe various "reality aggregates" are more developed. Women pay more attention to the parts of the whole, to the details of the whole. The characteristics of female thinking are beautiful and harmonious arguments, elegant, delicate analysis, intuitive and profound, innocent and straightforward in exploring the mysteries of things and phenomena.As a result of research and creation, women's logical reasoning often impresses people with powerful arguments, unique solutions to problems, rich imagination, witty mind, and enduring patience.In professions such as education, linguistics, journalism, etc., women undoubtedly occupy the first place.In the most typical life situations, male thinking is relatively abstract, and often perverse and arrogant.They are characterized by a spirit of heuristic boldness that allows the imagination to run wild. The difference between men and women is also reflected in the aspect of creative ability.Though women have a delicate and rich aesthetic sense, in all the arts men are more exemplified of creative talent.But women, as performers, outperform men in many arts.The first competency of women is the competency of stage performance.Because of their natural lightness, handsome appearance and graceful figure, women also surpass men in ballet art.Women are also highly accomplished as musical performers, especially in terms of vocal technique.Some authors have noted the fact that women lag behind men in areas that are more likely to be women's natural strengths.The best lullabies were written by male composers, while the singers were more likely to be female.Women are more in charge of the house and cook hard for the whole family every day, but the famous chefs are dominated by men.Today, with the improvement of women's status and conditions, their role in social life is getting bigger and bigger.Sexual differences profoundly affect every aspect of human nature.Kant was the first to describe the unparalleled harmony of the coexistence of the sexes with philosophical depth.He wrote: "The first person who called women the beautiful sex, maybe he just wanted to flatter them, but in fact he expressed more than he expected...their faces are more friendly, playful, and kind than men. Stronger and more touching... The structure of women's minds takes beauty as the main symbol... However, it must not be interpreted in this way: women seem to lack noble character, while men seem to lack beauty. Instead, it can be considered that both men and women are both, and women All other qualities on the body are combined to set off their beautiful characteristics. Among the various qualities of men, the sublime as a distinctive symbol of men is the most prominent. Women are very fond of dressing beautifully since childhood, and take pleasure in grooming They are clean freaks and sensitive to anything that is offensive. They like humor, as long as they are in a good mood, you can use some trinkets to make them happy... Women are very considerate, kind-hearted, and full of compassion , beauty rather than practicality... They are sensitive to the slightest insult, and can detect the slightest slight and disrespect. In short, thanks to women, we can recognize the beautiful and noble characters in human nature ; woman makes even man finer." "Women's wisdom is equal to man's, only this: women's wisdom is beautiful wisdom, and man's wisdom is deep wisdom, which is nothing but sublime wisdom. Another manifestation. An action is beautiful, first of all, because it is easy and natural, as if it requires no effort; but the exertion of energy and the overcoming of difficulties are always admirable, and therefore belong to the class of noble actions.... The most taboo of beauty It is disgusting, and the furthest thing from sublime is making people laugh. So what embarrasses a man most is being called a fool, and what embarrasses a woman most is being called ugly." From Kant's words, it can be understood that the sexual difference between men and women determines that they must be united as two aspects of equal value in life.Individually different tendencies always compensate each other. Here we are not talking about every man and every woman, but what is being described mainly refers to the general characteristics of both sexes.Their wording is undoubtedly too general and general.This characteristic is a reflection of the average statistical value.Therefore, real-life scenarios are very different.Deviations are merely variations of basic, lawful tendencies. Physicians in the past believed that men with female faces were sinister, while women with male faces were irritable and rebellious, but they were open-minded and aboveboard.What is the truth? When we speak of a specific man, we mean a particular combination of masculine and feminine qualities in a unified "entity."This is a man, but how many percent of a man is he? Although this statement is too rough, fundamentally speaking, it still has some truth and is in line with reality.Likewise, when speaking of women, we mean a specific combination of "female" and "male".There were unfeminine, strong-boned, energetic, muffled-talking, distinctly "bass" women, and unmanly, beardless, slender men. Michelangelo, the "often furious," constantly burning, exuberant genius, was broad-shouldered, muscular, and so ugly that he was ashamed to meet Leonardo.He is not as handsome and mighty as Da Vinci.Not to mention the arrogance, conceit, and fury of Raphael.Beethoven is a talented and majestic music saint. He created music full of sunshine and volcanic eruption, and he has a strong and unyielding will. However, although the facial features of some men dilute the unique "hardness" of men, this does not prevent them from becoming aggressive creators of human culture.These are men with delicate emotions, gentle manners, and extraordinarily rich imaginations. Raphael has a handsome appearance, a pair of beautiful almond eyes, soft body lines, and long hair like a woman.He looked like a teenager to the end of his life.Chopin is also a woman: weak and elegant, with a beautiful figure and slender fingers.He showed the wonderful world of music, weaving charming "lace" with harmonies and whispers.They have "high sensitivity" and "feminine intuition".Thick and fine, bloody temperament and depressive temperament dominated his temperament. Likewise, women can also have certain masculine characteristics.George Sand, a gifted female writer, was a "pretty savage" until she was thirty-five.She has some "manly habits", wearing men's clothing, riding a horse, and trying to imitate "manly demeanor".All this shows not only the influence of circumstances, but also personal idiosyncrasies.So people don't see her as a woman. Shakespeare's works can rightly be called an encyclopedia of male and female archetypes.Coriolanus is arrogant and domineering.Henry V had endless perseverance.Richard III's bravery turned into diabolical menacing.Othello is ruined by his credulity, mania and strong lust. From the images created by Shakespeare, we also see some gentle and gentle men.The king was like that in a way, he was easily swayed and moody.This tendency can be seen even in Antony, commander of the Roman legions and military governor of Caesar. Shakespeare vividly portrayed the charming charm of gentle women through artistic images.He is like an alchemist, mixing drops of magical juices with different temperaments together, and wonderful harmony and beauty emerge spontaneously.Juliet is soft-tempered, and Juliet is full of the magic of sweet music.Her image is the embodiment of ideal female beauty, just like the perfect human body described by Renaissance artists, without blemish.And this kind of image can be added a few beautiful lines by imagination at any time to make it more perfect and richer.Portia is lively and optimistic, chatty and witty.Desdemona is as elegant as poetry.  However, Shakespeare's works are also full of masculine images of women.Cleopatra tends to appear more decisive and resolute than Antony. The categorical and sexual essence of the individual always ascribes some value or another to the individual's being.These values ​​make people have an idealized conception of the image of men and women.The most important thing in a man is masculinity, fortitude, courage, and decisiveness.The most important thing in a woman is that she is gentle, soft and shy, full of noble beauty, as clear and mysterious as the Venus born in the sea and sunshine in the works of the Italian painter Botticelli.If some qualities of the opposite sex are accumulated in individuals, but not too much, it will not only enrich the personality characteristics of people, but will undoubtedly be more humane and closer to reality. A man's true strength lies in his masculinity mixed with a little feminine tenderness.Henry VIII's sympathetic heart and erratic vivacity made him famous in the history of literature.If the masculine qualities are absolutely concentrated in one person, the extreme one-sidedness will be creepy.Men are born and live in very different "proportions."This makes men richer, more interesting, more distinctive, more "majestic." Women's beauty and charm show a variety of female beauty.Women are soft but strong, such as the murderous Queen Margaret, the cruel Lady Macbeth, and the fanatical Cleopatra in "Henry VI", they can't replace their charming side at all. It is impossible to predict whether there will be gender discrimination in the future society. Historical and human factors often make the problem extremely complicated.  According to the survey, most of the companies with effective advertising careers are led by women.Americans joked about this point: "Advertising depends on ingenuity and innovation, and women are well versed in this." One can doubt whether these explanations are scientifically justified, but the natural formation of the division of labor between men and women does not violate equality. In principle, this fact is a fact after all.  The impact of gender on career orientation is a residual problem of historical customs, or even a residual problem of old thinking.Many occupations which are monopolized by men by virtue of their dominance in society, women can also be qualified for.After all, physiological and psychological differences determine to a certain extent whether an individual is suitable for a certain occupation, and the development of modern technology can be said to inexplicably increase the difference between the sexes. It can be seen that even in modern times, the trendy trend of blindly pursuing equality between the sexes, resulting in the uniformity of the sexes, really does not understand the true meaning of women's emancipation. "Getting rid of" the old social shackles does not mean eliminating the existing, innate biological differences between men and women.The masculinity and femininity passed down from generation to generation enriches the inner nature of human beings.They constitute the vitality and beauty of human beings.