Chapter 12 Chapter Twelve: A Gift for the Hooked

"The hooked fish does not need to be fed with bait." The men talked about it happily, but the women gnashed their teeth when they heard it.However, this is a man's sincere vernacular. Most men, in order to win a woman's heart, are really sincere and considerate when they first fall in love.He spared no expense in time, money, and eighteen martial arts skills, as long as he could use them all—trying his best and dedicating himself to chasing his girlfriend. But in this state, the good times don't last long. As the romance dies, the flame of love burns out and is replaced by sabotage and cutting corners.For men, the mind is settled, and the nature comes out; for women, the hidden vices, slovenliness, and resistance are revealed one by one.

There is no way for the two to get married and stay together.But the more the most original things about each other are exposed, the more the tension between the young couple will disappear, and the "high temperature" of love will gradually decrease. Especially men, once their wives are obtained, they will never take their wives to high-end restaurants, nor give gifts, nor will they travel together, and start to be sloppy-it really is "not feeding the bait". Love is like an instant phantom. It is even more difficult to withstand the scouring of the years and always maintain the temperature of love.

Hearing this, most women frowned and sighed in disappointment. Let’s be honest, the so-called tenderness and consideration of a man in his first love is just a decoration to satisfy his own sexual desire. Men will be as loving and loving as they can until they are satisfied.Once satisfied, it is easy to turn to indifference. This kind of selfishness is not so much the nature of men, but the instinct of male animals.It can also be said that it is a man's innate quality. Falling in love is the "non-daily" daily life of men and women, while marriage is the "daily" life in which both men and women share everything.Therefore, the shadow of burnout and negligence is always cast somewhere in the corner.

In addition, burnout and peace of mind are two sides of the same concept. That is to say, once the joy of peace of mind is obtained, the price is to give up the excitement of the heart, and pursue the excitement of the heart without getting peace of mind.It is necessary to be at ease and tempted, and you cannot have both. To reiterate, a man in love is doing everything he can to show that he is actually trying to take his girlfriend as his own.If you don't have this desire, you won't take your girlfriend to a high-end restaurant or go for a drive. If you have invited several meals, but still do not see the trend of the girlfriend intending to have sexual relations, knowing this, the man will immediately wake up, become indifferent, and will never invite dinner again.

Once the judgment fails to get the other party, at the moment of judgment, the man turns his face and refuses to recognize anyone. The burning and extinguishing of the fire of love is not necessarily related to the appearance and character of the woman in the relationship.Whether it is worth pursuing is all about being a sexual object. In other words, for women, men's so-called thoughtfulness is related to sexual desire.It is precisely because of the desire for a physical relationship, or the next best thing, that men are caring. A man with a strong prey nature will naturally lose interest in his wife once he enters the siege of his family.There is also no need to worry about your wife running away.It is also a natural tendency to lose interest in prey that is available when you want it.

"The baited fish does not feed the bait" - a man's sincere confession, but for a woman, there is nothing more chilling than this. "I used to be so considerate, but now...", "Once I get married, I seem to be a completely different person." The woman complained and sighed. What attitude should a man take when a woman complains like this? "Reborn, I will be considerate of you in the future." "I'm sorry, I will pay attention to it in the future." Even if he saw his wife's unhappiness and comforted him urgently, it was only a temporary prevarication, and soon he was passive and sabotage.

So, what should a husband do in such a situation? By the way, "the baited fish is no longer fed with bait," yes, but it doesn't mean that you hate your wife. Although he will not be as serious as in a passionate relationship, he still cherishes his wife and has no intention of breaking up. Moreover, most wives will not break up immediately because their husbands do not care enough for them. The key to this relationship is words.Even if you don't have to take your wife to fancy restaurants or travel, words can bring reassurance and comfort. "I like you!" "Today is so beautiful!" Such words are enough.If you are too shy to say it, it is enough to say "Thank you!" or "Thank you!" softly.

At this time, don't be too serious, natural and casual words are enough. In short, easy confession is the secret. Influenced by Confucianism in Japan, famous sayings such as "smart words make color bright and benevolent" are widely circulated.But this sentence only applies to treacherous officials who serve the king.Nowadays, among common people, especially between men and women, it is absolutely necessary to say some clever words that make each other feel happy. This is the lubricant of interpersonal communication, and it can even trigger the potential and dormant abilities of the other party.

Looking at the reality, Japanese couples, especially mature couples, basically don't communicate much. One day on a business trip to Kyoto, I went to the restaurant in the morning and found that couples were dining, and of course there were also mature couples.But which pair is a couple, you can tell at a glance-the pair who are eating in silence. It's rare to come to Kyoto, so it's fine to talk about travel, even if you have nothing to say "Wow"... But the two of them still ate there silently.After eating, the husband also started to clean his teeth with a toothpick without hesitation, and after that, he drank a sip of tea and rinsed his mouth "gurgling".When it was over, the two stood up——the face of the wife who left silently behind her husband was full of expressions of "I'm so full of this man"...

This is too unsightly, too desolate. Look at the young couple, chatting lightheartedly and occasionally with hearty laughter. Perhaps the silent mature couples used to be like that. Could it be that the years have made them silent. There is another pair, which is eye-catching: the man looks old, but he is talking and laughing happily.Apparently, it was a couple having an extramarital affair. Regardless of whether it's an extramarital affair or not, seeing people chatting happily, at least having an extramarital affair is good for your health, don't you think so? In short, I hope that mature couples can have more conversations.

There's no need to say any more, the two of us vent our breath together -- that's called a tacit understanding.Maybe it's the man's theory.The wife doesn't think so.In short, talk more.Even if you say something meaningless. If you have nothing to say, praise your wife: "You are so beautiful today!" "Here again, there is something wrong with this person." The wife may be taken aback, but this is only the beginning. Talk too much, listen too much, there is no woman in the world who will not be happy.Slowly she will glow from the inside, young and energetic.This is exactly the kind of light that the platinum generation has. It is a pity that Japanese men are either too introverted, or too serious and rigid, and they cannot tell "lie". As mentioned earlier, it is necessary to adapt to the requirements of the new era and pour out sweet and pleasant words without discrimination.Whether she was hooked, not yet hooked, or willingly hooked... Always remember, don't be too serious and too deep.Without forgetting shyness and honesty, there is no sense of light-heartedness and joy. Especially when complimenting each other, there is no need to stare into their eyes.If you don’t believe me, try it and stare at your old wife, how much beauty can you find?Sometimes, it's wonderful not to look at it. Suppose on Sunday morning, the husband gets up early to read the newspaper.Just at this time the wife got up - one can imagine the face of just getting up.At this time, I continued to read the newspaper without raising my head: "Good morning wife, today is so beautiful" - the important thing is to speak first, what to say is not important. Don't worry about talking less and less.The faster you speak, the better you will feel. "The tongue is spring-loaded again..." Your wife gave you a white look.In fact, speaking comes down to speaking, as long as it is happy to say, women love to listen.Bathed in praise, women will indeed become more and more beautiful and feminine. If you still refuse to speak, and think that "that kind of words can't be said" and shrink back, you might as well recall the scene when you flattered the leader in the company.If you can say something to your boss, how can you say something you can't say to your wife? ! The key to saying everything well is to pick out words that make your wife happy.In the process of continuous retelling, you will naturally understand the key to praise. Women are like this, if they are surrounded by "so beautiful", they will naturally become more beautiful. On the contrary, if they are always squinted, they will really become uglier and uglier. Words are such magic. The Japanese have a bad habit of often calling their wives "stupid wives" and belittling their wives.If you continue to call "foolish wife" and "foolish wife", you will really become a foolish wife.Such a habitual husband is a real fool! In short, there is no hesitation in praising your wife. Husbands who are stubborn and unwilling to speak, let me tell you a little trick that is easy to say. That is: "Don't pay attention." Yes, don't put your mind to it, you can say anything in this way.It's the key to a happy couple, and it doesn't get so cheap and affordable anymore. When it comes to gifts, it is always easy to think of expensive and expensive items, but words are the best gift, the gift that touches people's hearts most directly. Wedding anniversaries and birthdays are important days for women that they will never forget.Once hooked on a man who a woman marries back home, it is most likely to be negligent.It's better to write it down in a notepad in advance. Two or three days before the date is approaching, your sentence "It's almost the wedding anniversary!" is enough to make your wife pissed off. Though words are the best gift.However, for women, on special days, besides language, gift giving is still very important.But it doesn't have to be an expensive gift.It doesn't matter whether the gift is expensive or not, the important thing is whether to give it or not. A rose, a bottle of nail polish, or a postcard from a tourist attraction, it doesn't matter.The important thing is: "I am the one who cares about you". "That man is a talkative guy" someone would say so in a teasing tone.But the tongue is a great talent.Compared with the so-called superiority in the society, women prefer men who are talkative. Learn to be diligent, learn to speak well, and learn to give gifts. Gentle words, modest gifts, the trick to make things happen naturally is "don't put your heart to it".This is also mentioned in "Chapter Seven" about "Ladies First", don't do it with your heart - just say something, just send a gift. Maybe someone thinks, "Isn't that too...?" Yeah, don't take it too lightly, it's enough to do that.These slight and small actions, from small to large, will slowly bloom into rich and beautiful flowers. Why do you have to please your wife? Stubborn men often complain: I have worked so hard to earn money, but haven’t I already supported my family well? ! " Forget it, let's be gentle and considerate to his wife, and give him a small gift—and don't think about the way out after retirement? !Don’t imitate the old people’s prestige and prestige, “Come with me, I will guarantee you a good food and drink.” Look at you who have retired, with less income and fewer friends, how lonely you are. That is to say, at the juncture of retirement, the wife's counterattack against her husband began.Resentments that have been repressed and repressed for a long time may explode all of a sudden. At this time, the repeated words of love and humble gifts in daily life will come in handy. "My husband treated me well before, and now I should treat him well." The wife's tenderness and kindness reappeared. Husband and wife, it was you who supported me and walked hand in hand. They are considerate and caring for each other, and they must be consummated in love. Some people may be surprised: "What, isn't this a small calculation?" Yes, it is a "small calculation". However, reciprocating peaches, small favors, small favors, you are considerate and caring for me, and I will return your tender care-human feelings, before the invention of small abacus, have long been shared by human beings.