Chapter 19 Studying in the United States is very hard, but not painful

American schools try to educate each child differently.Chinese schools try to educate each child to be the same, just like a production line. ——Zhang Yizhao Zhang Yizhao commutes between home and school every day. The journey is long and takes 20 minutes by car.You may think he is Working hard must be tedious, just like most Chinese children's "two points connecting one line" life, day after day, without change.But this is not the case, and his life soon became rich and colorful.Among his various pleasures, the most important is reading.A person's reading habits and reading content when he was young can often affect his whole life.

This is the fifth year for Yizhao to study in the United States.He is already a tenth-grade student in a middle school in California, which is equivalent to a sophomore in high school in China.The initial feeling of coming to a foreign country still lingers in his mind: everything in this country seems to be very big, big houses, big cars, and wide highways.When he was in Taiwan, he always felt that the space was small and he couldn't even run away. He never thought that the world was so vast. Feelings of novelty surged out one after another, surrounding the Chinese kid.For example, he discovered a lot of strange things in the first class.At school in Taiwan, the students always sat neatly in a square formation. Apart from looking at the teacher, he could only see the backs of their heads.The classrooms in the United States are semi-arc-shaped. There are only more than 20 children in a class, and they are divided into several groups. Each group forms a circle, sits facing each other, and can see each other's faces.When others talk, Yizhao can see their expressions, and when he talks himself, he thinks that everyone is looking at him, so he wants to show everyone a good expression.This change in space made him feel a strange power, he began to pay attention to others, and began to pay attention to expressing himself.

The teachers are also different, not only in skin color and language, but also makes Yizhao feel that these teachers are not like teachers at all.Teachers in Taiwan always stand on the podium and talk non-stop from beginning to end.The teachers here don't have a podium. Although there is a blackboard, they don't always stand in front of the blackboard.The teacher walked among the students, talking while walking, and sat next to the students from time to time to discuss with everyone.Sometimes the children chirp so that no one can hear what the teacher is saying.The teacher was not angry either, he just stood up with a smile and shouted:

"Kids, kids, can I say a few words?" Yizhao also found that the standards for evaluating students in American schools are completely different from those in Taiwan.The most popular students on campus are not those with the highest scores, but those "sports stars".The students who feel the best about themselves are almost all those who have a wide range of interests and are keen on outdoor sports.If there is a student who has mediocre homework but is particularly willing to help others, or participates in many student union activities at school, he will also be praised by his classmates.

All of this surprised Yizhao.However, what surprised him even more was that he felt that studying in Taiwan was not hard but painful.Studying in the United States is hard, but not painful. He hoped to understand what the teacher said in class as soon as possible, so he worked hard to learn English.Mothers know that language is the only door for children to reach the palace of wisdom.So when I left Taiwan, I brought all the textbooks for the three years of middle school to the United States. Now I let my son study one class a day and finish it all in one summer vacation. American schools in the late 1970s were very different from Kaifu in the early 1970s. There were already more foreign children, and there were also many Chinese children.The school always assigns a teacher to teach these children English and how to adapt to the American environment.

Perhaps the biggest difference between American children and Chinese children is that American children have a much wider range of activities, far beyond school and family.Just like the American children around him, Yizhao's energy and enthusiasm have gradually gone beyond the classroom, and the scope of activities has become wider and wider, not only in the "two points and one line" of school and home, but also volunteering in hospitals and tutoring , Go to the library in the city.On weekends, go to the movies, hang out with friends, and have plenty of time to read books. When we Chinese see that Americans have few books in their homes, we think that this is a nation that does not read. In fact, this is a prejudice.When those Chinese who work in the Microsoft headquarters in the United States see that their children have a library card, they will not doubt that one of the most important things in the spare time life of American children is reading.Zhang Zhengyou is a researcher at Microsoft Corporation and owns a beautiful home in Redmond, Washington.Usually very busy, every weekend, I take my daughters to the library (every small town in this city has a library).The teacher at the school always gives her daughter a reading list.The youngest daughter is only 5 years old and has not yet gone to school. She also came to find her favorite books, and then happily took out her own library card with her name written on it, swiped it on the computer, and took the book home go.Some books were not available in the library, so she left the title of the book and her home address, and within a few days, the book would be delivered to her home. "I think the library system is great." Zhang Zhengyou said, "I was at their age and went to school in China. I only read textbooks, not extracurricular books. I only read "Lin Haixueyuan" in junior high school."

Zhang Yizhao also likes to read books. When he was in middle school 20 years ago, he always went to the library to find all kinds of books and magazines. These books had nothing to do with learning, but he still spent a lot of time reading them.He was having a lot of fun there.It was during that time that he read the complete works of Jin Yong.It's really strange to say that most of the "Microsoft boys" had a love for Jin Yong when they were young.Li Kaifu, Zhang Yaqin, Shen Xiangyang, Zhang Hongjiang, and Zhang Yizhao are all "Jin Yong fans", and they all have the experience of forgetting to eat and sleep.They obviously absorbed endless things from Jin Yong's novels: crazy, persistent, passionate, full of fantasy, and using human power to resist those supernatural forces.

By the third grade of junior high school, Yizhao's English was good enough, so there was no need to take English tutoring.He feels that he has more and more time for himself, and he has a clearer sense of the characteristics of American education: American education doesn't care whether you put all the knowledge in your head or not, they try to encourage everyone to develop their potential.Every child has his own pattern, his own personality, his favorite things and his special dislikes.In China, everyone is required to learn every subject well, and everyone is shaped into a person who is complete in all subjects.China's education is like a production line. Every child enters in various shapes and forms, and when they leave, they are all the same, because there is a unified standard.

As he talked, he thought of the schools in Taiwan, and he couldn't help but feel very lucky. "Although studying in the United States is very hard, it is much easier than those students in Taiwan who are preparing for high school." The choice is your freedom. ——Zhang Yaqin Wu Biwen, a reporter from China Youth Daily, published a survey result in her emotional book "Escape from University": In China, 40% of college students don't like their majors.How many middle school students don't like their current What about the way you read?No one investigates, but we can believe that it must exceed 40%.

In fact, in most families in China today, children play a central role. They enjoy unprecedented material conditions, but their passivity, inability to control and inability to choose their own lives are more serious than any generation in history. much.At least 90% of their troubles come from learning.This phenomenon is indeed worthy of attention.Because most of the time before the age of 20 is spent on study.If he wants to study for a master's degree and a Ph.D., he will have to study for at least 21 years.Study occupies 90% of the time except sleep. If it really brings so much trouble, then trouble not only controls the child's time, it must also control the child's spirit.

When parents reprimand their children who refuse to stay up late to do exercises for "not being able to endure hardship", they must have forgotten a simple fact: children are annoyed because they don't like it, not because they don't like it.In fact, every child has the experience of forgetting to eat and sleep, or even staying up all night, for something he likes.They are all looking forward to the magic of learning, looking forward to a learning environment that matches their nature, and looking forward to learning to bring them happiness.They want to learn what they are passionate about, and they want their parents and teachers to share their desire. Pan Zhenglei has been studying for 12 years with such hopes, but she has not been able to achieve her wish. Then she went to the United States to study at a university.Years later, looking back on the first time she came to the United States, she began like this: "I was stupid at the time, really stupid." In fact, this girl is not only not stupid at all, but also very smart.It’s just that I have been studying in China for many years. I follow the teachers and textbooks every day, and learn what I want to learn. I never have to decide things by myself.When she walked into Washington State University, she immediately found that almost everything had to be chosen by herself. In American universities, choice is a daily occurrence for students, and even an institution of the school.The first thing a freshman does when he enrolls is to choose what courses to study.Each subject will be scheduled at a different time, so again you will have to choose for yourself when to study – whether it is in the morning or afternoon each day, this term or the next.Each course is taught by a different professor, for example "Calculus" at Washington State University, there are 6 professors, so you also have to choose the professor for yourself, you can choose a Nobel Prize winner, or you can choose a An obscure but truly learned man.Different teachers may use different teaching materials and teaching methods when teaching the same course.If the student finds that he doesn't like the teacher within two weeks, he can refuse to attend the class again (this is a bit like "fire the boss" in Chinese), and he will not have to pay tuition until he chooses a new teacher.At the end of the course, each student can not only get their own grades from the professor, but also have the opportunity to evaluate the professor, and the student's evaluation will be recorded as one of the basis for the professor's performance evaluation and promotion. Pan Zhenglei said that she has "always been very interested in education" because "education is the only way a person can change himself." But she never thought that education would change her in such a way.Sometimes thinking of the way she studied in China, such as memorizing those political classes, she "felt it was ridiculous. It took so much time to pass the exam again and again, what good is it for your growth?" But students have no choice power.The courses are not chosen by themselves. On the first day of each semester, students bring back the textbooks, and then the curriculum. Whether they like it or not, they have to follow it. "I have been doing homework with the teacher every day since I was a child. I have never thought about what I like, and I have never had a hobby of my own. From the perspective of education, I think many courses I learned at that time were a waste of time." In the United States, she saw some completely different ways of learning.This makes her more free and has the power to choose.It was also from this time that she realized that the choice is a more challenging realm. "I remember a project class that made me do it to death." On the first day of the class, instead of saying what she wanted to talk about, the professor asked her, "What do you want to do?" She said she was going to make a vending machine , the professor asked her "how to do it", and it took her several days to answer the "how to do it" question.Then the professor invited two students to be her customers and told her that the "customers" would be the "purchasers" of her vending machine, and she wanted to satisfy them, and they had to check and accept the final "product".As a result, as she said herself, this course made her "half-dead", but her grades were outstanding.However, what she got was not just a score, she really understood what "choice" is. After graduating from university, she came to Microsoft and worked here for 9 years. During this time, she had many opportunities to continue her studies. Famous universities like Carnegie Mellon had already admitted her, but she chose to stay at Microsoft. "I think this environment is very good. I have learned more than ever before. Why do I still need to study?" A few years later, she has become the development director of Microsoft Corporation. , she is not envious. "What I think about is what I like and what I want, not what others have," she said. Except that they are both women, Juliet and Pan Zhenglei have almost no common background. She is an American and knows nothing about Chinese schools, but her views on education coincide with Pan Zhenglei's.She was a secondary school teacher in Ireland a few years ago and is now the manager of the natural language group at Microsoft.Her son, Warren, is a bright, 14-year-old who has finished high school and is ready for college. One afternoon in the fall of 2003, we talked with the mother and son about the issue of "teenage geniuses."Under such circumstances, most Chinese parents will proudly describe their children's success, but unexpectedly, the mother and child have a different view. "I don't want him to go to college right now," Juliet said. "I want him to enjoy his childhood more. Let him do what he loves." "Does the school think the same way?" "Yes. The school just wants to keep him interested in learning." "I was never forced to study," Warren said. "I just learned what I was interested in. I was very upset when I didn't enjoy it." "In one ear and out the other?" "I can't get in at all, and it bounces back as soon as it hits my head." Warren said while gesturing with his hand on his head to pop out. "If it's something he's interested in, he's a quick learner," Juliet added. We wrote four words in front of Juliet: achievement, interest, happy childhood, morality.Then ask her, "As a teacher, what do you feel is most important to your students?" "Interest! Interest!" She pointed with her finger and said without hesitation, "Interest is always the first. Without interest, there is nothing. With interest, great achievements will follow." "So, as a mother, what do you feel is most important to your child?" "Interest, or interest." She hesitated, and said: "I hope he has a very happy childhood. However, interest is still the first. Happiness comes only when there is interest." That's when Warren interjected: "It's impossible for a school to produce a genius if the student isn't interested in his work." Love is the most powerful force in the world, whether it is life, work or study.This makes no difference to people from different countries and cultures.Unfortunately, in China, most parents and teachers don't think so, and few people talk about it, whether in class or at home.We have a strong feeling that passion, important as it is, is most lacking in all places of education.When most people talk about learning, they always have the concept of "hardship is the only way to be a good person" from the subconscious mind. Hundreds of millions of children have read in elementary school textbooks that "the head hangs from the beam, the awl pierces the bone" In the story, teachers and parents are instilling this state in children, and they are using pressure to stuff countless knowledge into children's brains.Most of the students also use pressure as motivation. Their most common feeling is to live under pressure. Since the first grade of elementary school, they have worried about poor grades, worried about being ranked behind by teachers in school, and worried about being stared at by their parents at home. .This situation continued until I got the university admission letter.In the months before receiving the notice, the pressure in their hearts reached its peak. Anxiety, nervousness, fear, nervous disorders, and even suicide usually occurred during this period.Since ancient times, there has been a so-called "ten years of hardship in the cold window" in China, which shows that Chinese children have not been able to feel the joy of learning for many years. But none of our study subjects had all the space taken up by homework.What they have in common is that they all have a wide range of interests outside of homework.Zhang Yaqin likes Go and painting; Lee Kai-fu likes to play bridge; Shen Xiangyang likes football and bridge.In addition, there are Wang Jian, Liu Ce, Guo Baining, Gao Jianfeng and Xu Yingqing who like painting.Those who like sports include Zhu Wenwu, Ling Xiaoning, Lin Bin, Chu Min, Zhang Qian, and Gao Jianfeng.There is Zhang Zheng who likes poetry. Every child has something that he particularly likes, and there must be something that is especially suitable for him to do.As long as he looks for it, he can find it. As long as he finds it, he will feel a kind of passion bursting from his heart. On the other hand, parents and teachers can force their children to study, they can force their children to get 100 points, they can force their children to work hard to get a college diploma according to the wishes of adults, but you can’t force him to be enthusiastic about it, you can’t force him to get hapiness.Finally, as Warren said, you can't force a child to be a "genius." For a child, the "enthusiasm drive" is particularly important, because there is a major difference between being driven by enthusiasm and being driven by pressure: one is active and the other is passive; one has a clear goal and the other is at a loss; Happy, one is not happy even if it is easy.The former will become "E students"; the latter can only stay at the "third level", and may even slip to the "second level". Let's appreciate how closely your deepest desire and learning are related.You just need to think about which morning you felt particularly happy when you woke up, think about what your lessons were for that day, and think about whether there was a moment that touched your desire that day.If so, what is it? Desire is based on love and nourished by your own achievements and self-confidence.It is these factors that determine Zhang Yaqin’s point of view: "Choice is your freedom. Students who give up this freedom will find it difficult to understand what is true interest, passion and the joy of success." If an American child doesn't like the school curriculum, but prefers to draw pictures, parents will also say: "He has his freedom." ——Zhang Yizhao At the age of 14, Yizhao had to decide which school he would go to for high school. He knows that children on both sides of the Taiwan Strait are extremely nervous at this moment, and they all hope to go to a good high school. This is called "Star High School" in Taiwan and "Key High School" in mainland China.He also knows that American education is different from China.In the United States, there is no national unified education system, and each state has a different approach.Every city has different school districts. School districts have great power, and schools have great power. They can make their own rules, set their own courses, and choose students in their own way, as long as they do not violate basic laws (for example, not in Religious education in the classroom), and no one will interfere with you. In this way, in the United States, the significance of choosing a school is even greater.However, when Yizhao started to think about this matter, he unexpectedly discovered that there is no such thing as a "star high school" or "key high school" in the hearts of American children. From the perspective of the education system itself, the United States implements "12-year compulsory education", so both the government and the family have the obligation to let children study for 12 years.Children go to high school after graduating from junior high school, and there is no problem of elimination.The only reason a kid doesn't go to high school is because he doesn't want to.Some kids choose not to go to high school because they feel that learning at home is more freeing and effective than learning at school.Others don't like the school curriculum and prefer painting, music, art, or sports.His teachers and classmates will respect his choice.Mom and Dad will also say: "He has his freedom." In a way, many of the dreams of American kids do not align with getting a good education.The sports stars, singers and Hollywood movie stars they admire are often very bad students, but they have achieved both fame and fortune.Their road to success has great appeal to many children.However, everyone knows that very few people are walking on this road. For most people, receiving a good education is still a way to obtain a stable job and income, so the motivation to study exists in a wide range of people .In fact, the per capita study time in school in the United States is much more than that in China. From this point of view, the difference between American children and Chinese children is not that they can not study, but that they can study according to their own wishes.The concept of "school choice" among Chinese children does not exist among most American children, nor do their parents.No American family would go out of their way to travel several blocks to choose the school they thought was good, spend a fortune, and have their children spend hours on the road each day. This is not to say that there are no good or bad schools in America.There are always good schools and bad schools, and this is the same in any country.When Yizhao was a junior high school student in a public school, he always felt that public schools were not good enough, while private schools were much better, with good facilities, good teachers, and good curriculum, but private schools cost a lot of money. The family cannot pay.At a young age, Yizhao has already discovered that only Chinese and Indian families send their children to schools far away, while American families always send their children to the nearest school in their own community. One of the peculiarities of this country is that the level of education in schools usually matches that of the community.There will always be good schools in high-end neighborhoods, and schools in lower-class neighborhoods are usually not high quality either.If you look for listings on Homebuyer's Guide, you'll find that homeowners often cite the quality of schools near their home as an indicator to attract buyers.Therefore, a good school can greatly increase the surrounding housing prices, and a piece of luxury housing can also attract excellent teachers to run a good school.This also shows that American families do not care about their children's education, but they are not as anxious, excited, exhausted, life-and-death, and at all costs than Chinese families. It is precisely because of these differences that Yizhao still feels the need to investigate.This high school student discovered that American high schools also have indicators. For example, on the "Education Network" in California, all the enrollment rates from elementary school to high school are recorded, and you can also find out which school performed well in which exam. You can see high school Which university did the graduates attend.However, the principal does not use the concept of "enrollment rate" when expressing his achievements.They're not saying "90 percent of our graduates go to college," they're saying "90 percent of our school graduates go to college." It sounds like, "You can go to college if you like it." college," not "If you work hard, you can go to college." Yizhao made some investigations like this, but in the end he found that it was all meaningless.Since his community had four junior high schools but only one high school, merging 500 junior high school graduates into one high school would be considered a success.There is no mobilization for higher education, no "pre-war drills", no "first choice" and "second choice", and there is no such thing as "first model", "second model" and "three model" by Chinese students, let alone that "The Last Gamble", none of these.Anxiety, anticipation, excitement... none of that either.It was still these students, everyone walked and came together, but just changed the door, and he became a first-year high school student. But Yizhao knew in his heart: "There are about 20 graduates from this high school who enter the best universities in the United States every year." This number satisfied the psychological expectation of this Chinese family. "In a few years, I will be one of these 20 people." Yi Zhao thought so. Every time I go to see my daughter's teacher, I have to ask: "Which number is she?" The teacher just doesn't tell me.I can't help it, because American parents don't ask these questions. --Kai-fu Lee "I belong to a generation that has been devastated by the Chinese education system. I passed the 'cram-duck' education and passed the exam level by level." Han So to speak. Han is now a department head at Microsoft Corporation.Also a Chinese, he was born in Beijing.He said that he went through a "childhood without happiness": from the primary school attached to Tsinghua University, to the high school attached to Tsinghua University, and then to Tsinghua University.Such a student must have an unforgettable understanding of the phrase "Fen, Fen, the lifeblood of students", and understand that it is the only criterion for him to gain social recognition.However, an incident he encountered when he entered the Business School of the University of Chicago in the United States completely subverted his concept. That day, a group of students at the school launched a campaign to vote on whether graduate grades should be made available to recruiters.As a result, more than two-thirds of the students objected to publishing their scores.The teachers are dissatisfied with this. In their eyes, this school has always been one of the best business schools in the United States. In the past few decades, there have been many Nobel Prize winners, so they have always been proud of the excellence of the students, and also Willingly disclose student grades to recruiters.Even so, the school still had to respect the students' decision and announced to the outside world that in the future the school would be obliged to keep the students' grades confidential, and recruiters would not be allowed to ask about the students' scores and rankings. Han had never heard of such a thing, and could not even imagine it.In fact, he voted for it that day.He considers himself a good student, so he never worries about publicizing his grades.On the contrary, he is worried that if he does not state his excellent scores and top rankings, it will affect his future employment opportunities.What surprised him was that at that time most business schools in the United States had already adopted the system of not disclosing student grades. What surprised him even more was that they did not ask grades when he applied for a few times after graduation, and this system did not affect his academic performance at all. employment.Only then did he realize that grades really can't decide anything on a student's future.This is very different from the educational experience that Han has accumulated in China. In a sense, China's educational culture is a "queuing culture", which contains two things behind it: 1. Everyone must follow the same standard - score. 2. Everyone wants the same thing - a college admission letter. In the three months before the college entrance examination, the "culture of queuing" radiates the most dazzling brilliance. You not only need to know where you are in the class and what is the number in the school, but also be able to calculate. Where is the city you live in, or even in the whole province?Then all parents lead their children to "volunteer".There are fifteen blank fields on the volunteer form, so you could theoretically fill in fifteen colleges and majors.At this time, "ranking" is both exciting and sad, and no matter how good it is, it can't make people feel at ease.If that "ranking" can go to an ordinary university, parents will think: why not a key university?If you can go to a "key university", your parents will think, why not Tsinghua University and Peking University?If I can go to Tsinghua University and Peking University, my parents will think, what are the most popular majors, and Harvard and Massachusetts! But in the United States, whether it is school, society or family, the standards for judging a child are very different.Some parents pay attention to their children's mathematics, and some parents pay attention to their children's speech.Some students went to Harvard Massachusetts after graduation, and everyone knows that he is very good.Some students went to ordinary universities, and everyone didn't think there was anything wrong with them.Some kids don't want to go to college, and their parents won't force him to.American parents feel honored when their children get an A, but Chinese parents only say hello if their children get all A's.Those "Microsoft boys" who have studied in the United States have a common experience: they don't know what their grades are.When they become parents, they never know what their child's academic performance is. Now let's go back to Juliet and her 14-year-old son Warren. One day, a Chinese reporter told them that in China, sometimes schools would rank students' grades and post them on the wall. The American mother was surprised when she heard that: "How could this be?" Warren: "Every student should be equal, whether they do well or not." Juliet: "American schools encourage you to compete with yourself, to be better than yourself, not to compare yourself with others. When we were in Ireland, the schools there encouraged students to surpass others. This may be a bit like China." Reporter: "Are you two years younger than the other students in your class?" Warren: "Yes." Reporter: "Has anyone said you are a child prodigy?" Warren: "No. I don't want people to say that, everyone is equal." Reporter: "Did anyone bully you?" Warren: "No." Reporter: "Do you know what your score is?" Warren: "I don't know, and I don't want to know." Reporter: "Did the teacher say that you are a role model for everyone to learn from?" Warren: "No. My teachers never said I was a role model." Juliet: "I also don't want him to be a role model. If he is the best, then another student will be used for comparison, which is not good for that student's self-confidence. For example, you are learning to draw and a teacher takes Come to the 'Mona Lisa' and tell you, you see how well others draw, but you don't. Is this good for students to learn?" This kind of thinking is very natural in American education, but those Chinese students who study in the United States will be surprised by the "no queue" in American schools.When Kai-fu Lee went to study in the United States in the early 1970s, he discovered that "American students have no concept of queuing, they don't care about their scores, and they don't know their rank." About ten years later, Zhang Yizhao went to high school in the United States. I also have some feelings, exactly the same as Kai-fu Lee: We Chinese families all hope that our children will read good books.However, the concept of "ranking" hardly exists in American schools, and American parents have no sense of "ranking".This information simply does not exist.American schools generally make a graph of students' grades, such as how many students have a score of 100, how many have a score of 90 or more, and how many have a score of 80 or more.When you see this curve, you will know where you are roughly located.Everyone's score is only given to the individual, and others do not know it. The school gives the report card to the parents, but the parents don't know your location.Parents just see A's, B's, C's.If you're all A's, it's definitely good, but if you're all B's, it's not necessarily bad because you don't know where it is . I never know what number I am.American schools emphasize the development of your personality, your uniqueness, not your ranking.Of course, there is no distinction between good and bad.When American children graduate from high school, the top 20% of students may award something like a ribbon to show that you are a relatively outstanding student as a souvenir.The last 80% of the students will not be listed for you. No matter the front or the back, they will not be announced. Your position is a private thing.Some people are satisfied, some people are not satisfied, it is their own business, it is up to him to decide whether to work harder or keep the status quo, no one else cares. After another 20 years, Li Kaifu's daughter also reached the age of school. After entering the school, there was an exam. After the exam, she was divided into three classes, named "Yellow Class", "Blue Class", and "Green Class". Successively, as for which class is good and which class is bad, neither the child nor the child's parents care.Every time Kai-fu Lee went to see his daughter's teacher, he always asked, "Which number is she?" The teacher just refused to say.He had no choice but to go back home and ask his daughter, but she didn't know. My daughter is studying in a private elementary school.Located on a hill surrounded by lush redwoods, the school is small, with only about 100 students and nine teachers.The vice-principal's name was Dovit, a tall, middle-aged woman. "We have an exam every semester, and we have quizzes every week, but we don't publish the grades, and we don't rank them," she said firmly. "Americans don't like to classify children into good and bad. It hurts children. , affects the growth of children. Whether it is good or bad is a personal matter and has nothing to do with others. This is American culture." Kai-fu Lee spent his childhood in Taiwan, where the education is exactly the same as in mainland China.He still remembers that at that time, he was very clear about how many times he had taken each class, what his average score was, what his score was in the final exam, and where he ranked.He said: To be honest, I have not completely given up this "queuing" mentality until now, and I always want my daughter to have a good ranking.One day her report card came, with 100 points in three subjects and 95 points in three subjects. For her, this is a very good result. It may be her best test, and she may be the first in the class.我跟她开玩笑，说：“你的成绩怎么越来越退步啦？”她说：“是吗？可能是没有很努力吧。”她考了3门100分啊！可是她的脑子里完全没有这个概念。虽然她也想有个好成绩，她也知道我们在乎，想让我们高兴。她也知道考试成绩好了有奖励，可她还是不知道“3门100分”算个什么。