Chapter 10 I also have a sense of fear

Sometimes I feel that I am a genius and omnipotent; sometimes I feel that I am nothing and I am always afraid of losing. ——Shen Xiangyang We all take it for granted that smart kids always get more praise, and we all take it for granted that smart kids always have more expectations.However, the smarter the child, the greater the psychological pressure. Big, do we have enough estimates for this? Praise and expectations come from being smart, and pressure comes from praise and expectations.According to a survey, at least 50% of children cannot free themselves when faced with stress. They are surrounded by nervousness, irritability, guilty conscience, and fear, even the smartest children.

"I still feel that junior high school and high school are my smartest stages." Shen Xiangyang said.At the same time, he also felt that "that was the most stressful stage." In the environment of his own life and study, Xiang Yang has decided that "it should be the first".The people around him have more and more hope for him than his own inner desire. He knows that the whole family is proud of him, and he is also happy when he thinks that his good grades can bring happiness to his mother.Strangely, there was always an inexplicable fear in his joy, "to the extent that he couldn't afford to lose", and this feeling became stronger every day.He started to get nervous, and when he saw the forest of strong players around him, he became anxious. He felt frustrated when his grades were not good, and he was not happy when his grades were good, because he was afraid that others would surpass him.

Diarrhea before every exam has become Xiang Yang's routine, which lasted from high school to college.At that time, he didn't know what was going on, and he hadn't seen a doctor. After thinking about the situation many years later, he realized: "This is not a physical problem, but a psychological problem: exam syndrome. Too much pressure, so I am always nervous, as if I have been deeply trapped in a contradiction. Sometimes I feel that I am a genius, and I have all the questions. Can solve, omnipotent; sometimes feel that I am nothing, have a sense of fear, always afraid of losing. I didn’t understand until I graduated from university that the real healthy pressure does not come from the outside world, but from a person’s heart. A truly successful person does not never lose, but "can afford it and let it go". A person should be able to afford to lose, and then he will slowly become a person."

Therefore, if you want to stand on the starting line of "E students", then establish the seventh concept: the smarter you are, the more you must be prepared to withstand greater pressure.