Chapter 2 Prologue Conquering Happiness

People who are afraid of success will never succeed.Those who dare not pursue happiness will never taste happiness.Frustration or even failure in a person's life is largely psychological rather than realistic, technical rather than fatal.Reality at best provides an excuse for the loser, and the belief in fate ultimately ruthlessly extinguishes any hope of success. What is the ultimate goal of education?Is it the pursuit of knowledge?Is it to gain wisdom?Is it to become a god-like perfect person?maybe.But I want to deliberately misinterpret the meaning of the word "student", preferring to understand it as "study life".More precisely, it is about learning how to live happily.In this way, in my opinion, "learning how to live happily" has become the ultimate goal of education.In this sense, in front of the world of life, who has the guts to say that he can no longer be a student?Because if the world built by knowledge and wisdom cannot be organically combined with the colorful life world, how can education be connected with the real world we are in?Reading the book of knowledge, gaining knowledge and wisdom is just to understand the mysterious big book of the real world.When we put down the book of knowledge, completed the education in the early stages of life, and embraced the world with dreamy desires, are we already qualified to be the conquerors of happiness?

The case provided by Xiaoping here is a very powerful answer to this question: Although many people have completed academic education and even many people have struggled in the world of life for a long time, when the ruthless life in life When choices or tests are placed before them, helpless despair tells them that they are not yet qualified to conquer happiness! Xiaoping is an adventurer, because on the platform of New Oriental, he is the first person who consciously, purposefully, strategically, and tactically takes on the important role of life designer for students.His adventurer's guts and courage come from his unwavering love for his students who linger at life's painful crossroads. "Love" is no longer his working attitude when analyzing student cases. "Love" is the whole connotation of his well-thought-out life design prescription.A person who is not full of love in his heart cannot make others happy.

Xiaoping's life design reached a systematic and theoretical level.Although the cases he handles are very different, it is not difficult for us to grasp his logical thread from his handling methods: from the fragmented life information of the desperate, first sharply capture the huge potential of the desperate who has not yet been highlighted, and then Based on these potentials, quickly make the design of the most practical new goals in life, and then proceed to the careful arrangement of detailed implementation details.The pleasure brought by reading his case actually comes from the repeated experience of the above-mentioned clear logical thread, because the final direction of this logical thread falls on the two "happiness" without exception. Literally.This reminds me of the British philosopher Russell.Russell once wrote a very influential little book in the 1930s called "The Conquest of Happiness".Russell demonstrates the following logic in this work: he first asks what is happiness and is happiness attainable?Then he analyzed the symptoms and root causes of people's unhappiness in the world of life from the perspective of a philosopher; finally he clearly pointed out the way for people looking for happiness.I don't know whether Xiaoping has also read this work.If not, he is just using his life wisdom to do almost the same work in a more concrete and technical world as Russell did for Westerners.

Now that Xiaoping has opened the door to the life design of Chinese students, he will definitely embrace all those who want to stand up from the desperate situation of life and finally conquer happiness with more mature professionalism and more effective life design. Wang Qiang May 6, 2002