Chapter 26 Part Four: Tailoring clothes to suit the individual's needs--On the individualized principles of life design

Dear Teacher Xu: I am really disappointed in you!I have read all of your "Tuqiong Dialogue Records", but why is there no case like mine? I was born in an ordinary family with a strict mother and loving father, and I was the only daughter.It was smooth sailing from elementary school to university.Now I am studying at a hard-won engineering university and studying a fairly satisfactory information management major, as if everything is going smoothly. But the biggest problem is: Many children like me across the country have no opinions and opinions since they were young, and walk the road paved by their parents until they grow old.The next thing my parents asked me was to take the postgraduate entrance examination and go abroad.But to be honest, "Tuqiong Dialogue" really touched me: Do I still have to live under the shadow of my parents like before, without my own thoughts and soul like a walking dead?

Myself, a cheerful, enterprising girl who plays the piano with both hands on the violin in her left hand and calligraphy in her right hand (all my mother asked me to learn); a hope of the motherland who yearns for the New East, for studying abroad, and for all new things Will a future pillar who aspires to be a stewardess, a model, and a host, really lose his way in a lonely hut (from the dormitory to the classroom) under the command of his parents in the endless sea of ​​books? I prefer liberal arts majors, love communication, love life, and love you (Its ture).But I don't know where my way out is, how will my future go!I really really need your help—Teacher Xu!

So, Mr. Xu, please tell me where is my own life path.As a freshman, I still have a long way to go in life. I believe that with your guidance, there will be another glory in Chinese history.It will be your pride! Mr. Xu, if you help me, you are helping thousands of students who are not mentioned in "Picture Poor". We are an extremely important part of contemporary China, and we need your clear and keen guidance and vision! prosperous Dear Fanyou: I finally have time to write you a valuable letter carefully.Sorry for taking so long.I am answering your letter in Canada at the moment, and it is the second morning after I have just arrived.In Beijing, I couldn't sit down and write anything because there were so many things to do.Sorry again for making you wait so long!

Although I haven't met you, you said that you once wanted to be a "model, stewardess, hostess". Those who want to do these jobs must be more beautiful girls.Because if you come out and keep people's eyes lightened and refreshed, you might dream of studying -- say, dinosaurs, and fossils at that -- instead of doing jobs where you first have to entertain people with your appearance.congratulations! A professor of youth development at Beijing Normal University said (sorry I can't remember the name): "Beauty is a kind of wealth." It seems that you should be a richer girl!

Don't think I'm complimenting you.In fact, I am doing a personalized analysis on you.The problem you mentioned in your letter actually involves how to teach students in accordance with their aptitude, tailor their clothes, and carry out personalized design according to their external and internal conditions. Have you ever made clothes?As a girl who loves beauty, of course she has this experience.Since people need to use a tape measure to make a skirt, why do we always forget that when designing a young person's career and future, he or she also needs to design according to his or her various life indicators?

These life indicators are: height (yes, height!), image, hobbies, personal strengths, personality, voice (yes, voice, think if Zhao Zhongxiang has the same hoarse voice as mine, it will definitely affect stability and unity. The suspicion of being asked off the screen!), personal experience, work experience, family background, social relationship, etc. I think I have found the core of your troubles: your problem is that you want to work with people and pursue your life dreams in the fields of media and management.Unfortunately, you were admitted to an engineering university. On this campus whose main purpose is to train engineers, if you want to be a host, model, and flight attendant, you feel a bit like trying to catch a turtle in the sky.No wonder you are not lost!

Your engineering school, as you can tell from its name, is left over from the era of separation of departments in China.Such schools abound, including Tsinghua University more than ten years ago.Their professional settings are odiously single and gray, without social sciences and humanities.Their campus culture, due to the monotony of professional settings, must be relatively single-minded and lack richness.Universities are originally temples for disseminating knowledge, cultivating ideas, cultivating values, and stimulating the spirit of freedom. The division of departments systematically divides the humanistic spirit and ideological tradition that universities should have.Even some of the surviving "comprehensive universities" have been severely dismembered, and Peking University has lost humanities such as art, journalism and publishing... Tsinghua University and Beihang University have become purely cradles for cultivating technical talents.

Shake, shake, shake to grandma's engineering school--as for the humanistic spirit, ideological innovation, critical awareness, social responsibility, historical mission, civilization exploration that an intellectual must have... these things, in the 1950s, 1960s, In the 1970s, from the perspective of the government, it was consciously and systematically distorted, stifled and obliterated. Mao Zedong once said during the Cultural Revolution: "Universities still need to be established, and I mainly refer to universities of science and engineering." "Universities" still "have to be established, and" mainly refers to "science and engineering universities!"Chairman Mao, Chairman Mao, how old you are in your old age.This is what makes Chinese universities so in today's world.

Over the past 20 years of reform and opening up, China's education, like Chinese society, has undergone fundamental changes.The vast majority of universities and colleges - if not all - are trying to change the situation in single subjects.Tsinghua opened schools of journalism, management, Chinese, and fine arts, and Peking University added majors such as art, advertising, medicine, and publishing (I myself was the first batch of art teachers who entered Peking University in 1983!).Beijing Foreign Studies University also has economic management and computer departments!And the Central Conservatory of Music, my alma mater, has also set up majors such as music teacher training, electronic music, and music therapy to meet the diverse needs of talent development-by the way, how I hope that the Conservatory of Music will merge into Peking University one day, so The soul of art and the essence of thought collide, sublimate, shine and burn above Yanyuan.

The diversification of campus culture brought about by the educational reform has made it a passionate time for college students to seek all-round development on campus.The all-round development and diversified development of college students, as well as the individualized development that will inevitably be brought about by the above-mentioned educational innovations, are the spring of Chinese university education and the hope for the career development of Chinese college students. Universities in China are changing rapidly.But it is conceivable that a system that has been accumulated for decades, and today's university leaders who have grown up in this system, can hardly completely change the campus culture of Chinese universities in a short period of time.Chinese society may have entered an era of diversification, but the spirit of freedom on many university campuses still needs a period of warm-up before it can sneak into the depths of the soul of youth, stir up ripples of spiritual joy, and wrinkle the longing for the sea in your heart A pool of spring water!

Your troubles are actually a kind of "cultural conflict"-the relative lag and backwardness of campus culture (how should the "advanced nature" of campus culture be reflected? I think it is also after the 16th National Congress that Chinese university leaders should think and implement Let’s talk about the problem!), collided with your natural dreams and acquired hobbies, resulting in a "cultural conflict" in a small environment. The essence of this cultural conflict is that you suddenly discover that the college life in your dream can’t actually meet your needs for personality development, can’t help you advance in the direction of life guided by your instinct, and it’s even more difficult to satisfy your spiritual depth. A series of desires and pursuits such as the value of struggle, the meaning of life, the free development of spirit, thought, and personality, the pursuit of a unique positioning in life, and future career goals... When Haike talks about Yingzhou, it is hard to find letters in the vast mist. The more people say Tianmu, the clouds can be seen or faded. The infinite possibilities of the future and the invisible constraints of reality are bound to produce strong conflicts in the hearts of young people. Where is your future?How is your path?What kind of youth battlefield should you put your energy into?How should you design your own life blueprint with the greatest wisdom based on reality?Do your best to pursue your future dreams? Here is the solution I propose to solve your dilemma: Although you have entered this engineering school, don't be bound by the atmosphere of this school. Thoughts break out of the cage! The plan for a day lies in the morning, the plan for a year lies in the spring, and the plan for a lifetime lies in the personalized development plan based on the comprehensive and diverse development of personal abilities during the university period. Knowing the historical cause of your troubles, you can see the future way to solve this trouble.The historical reason for your troubles is: China's university education system is going from walking with one foot (seriously biased) to parallel with both legs (comprehensive universities), there must be problems.Our universities are not yet capable enough to provide a good environment for the unique need of each individual student.Many policies and conditions related to the lifelong development of talents, such as: allowing transfer of departments, transfer of schools, transfer of subjects, joint degrees with sister schools, double degrees of the school, free elective courses of interest, clear employment orientation and career pathways career path. What is job orientation?What is a career path? Job orientation is to design your own degree plan according to the career direction of employment, and after you go to college, you will start to worry about the career direction like you.The Career path is a process of education and employment that focuses on careers. For example, if an American student wants to be a lawyer, he will study philosophy, history, political science and other undergraduate courses, and then enter the law major for three years after four years. JD law degree, then become a lawyer.If you want to be a doctor, you should first study for an undergraduate degree in natural sciences such as biology and chemistry, then get an MD degree in medical school, and then become a doctor.If he wants to be an accountant or a computer engineer, he may go directly to a four-year university and directly connect to related companies after graduation. The educational environment is not only the campus and school buildings, the most important thing is the educational environment, but also includes the above-mentioned supporting guidance that seems to have nothing to do with professional teaching, but is actually directly related to the teaching results and professional outlets.But it's a pity that they are so backward on Chinese university campuses. Look, this is the historical background, social environment and educational policy root of your troubles.Under such a background, after entering this university, you start to dream of your youthful dreams, and the bed of your dreams is still a simple camp bed, or a bed that has not been covered yet.This sweet dream of yours, even if it doesn't turn into a nightmare, will still make you wake up trembling, sweating profusely and exclaiming: Help!Where is my future? My article is not written for people in charge of education—meat eaters despise—the pressure they perceive on the development of talents caused by lagging or low education levels will never be as strong, profound, and painful as you and me. , Therefore, they also cannot experience how the education system lagging behind social development corrodes and erodes the beautiful dreams of a beautiful girl—and countless beautiful boys. I suddenly remembered the profound practical significance for the field of education of the "love for the people" proposed by General Secretary Hu some time ago!General Secretary Hu's words are mainly aimed at leading cadres at all levels and in various fields! People - from leaders to students - I love you, but try to reform! Therefore, before the reform directly benefits your personal development, my correspondence with you is very necessary. Although this is not something I really want to write, I prefer to write songs.But times forced me into this role. For your future, my specific suggestions are as follows: 1. If transferring departments and schools is not a complicated process (it is easy abroad), you can consider transferring departments and studying any major you like, including: Chinese, journalism, or various social and humanities majors.If you really want to pursue a career that is based in the humanities. 2. If transferring between departments and schools is a very labor-intensive and difficult goal (I guess most of them are), then is it feasible to study a double degree that you like?Such as literature, English, etc.?I understand that your major is economic information management, but it can be imagined that this major in this school must be more technical.This can become a trap for your full development.Because managers will face people in the future, and it is not enough to just know management theory. He must also have a wealth of knowledge and background in the humanities. 3. If you can’t do it with a double degree, then you should study and audit some liberal arts courses. It’s best to have credits, but it doesn’t matter if you don’t have credits. The key is to diversify your knowledge and enrich your knowledge in the humanities change. 4. If the school does not offer the course you want to study, then you can go to a sister school to audit it!Nanjing University, Central China Normal University, Nanjing University of the Arts, there must be countless valuable courses that are worth listening to. You can pretend to be their students and sneak into the classroom to attend the lectures!Here I have to praise myself by the way: When I was in the third and fourth grades of the Conservatory of Music, when I found that I couldn’t do Tan Dun and Ye Xiaogang, I started to attend lectures at Peking University, just like Mao Runzhi did in the past. pregnancy!What an honor.This experience has affected my employment, occupation and career throughout my life (my employment and career is to be a teacher at Peking University and New Oriental, and my career is to pay attention to the education and employment development of contemporary youth). 5. Actively participate in campus student activities and extracurricular activities - this is the most important second class in college life.Your university must have youth league committees, student unions, clubs, school magazines, radio stations (if you are lucky, there will be closed-circuit TV stations and student reporters are being recruited!), interest groups... If there is no suitable one for you, organize one yourself, such as "Science and Technology HKUST University Fashion Show Team", attracting sponsors, looking for stars, organizing activities, arousing everyone's attention, creating a sensational effect, disturbing the dull life, and bringing fresh air, you have succeeded! 6. While making the above efforts, never give up your love of dealing with people, love of communication, and love of expressing your own personality. On the contrary, you must actively develop it.At New Oriental, we repeatedly tell students that the decisive qualities of future talents include the ability to express themselves, to persuade others, and to deal with people (presentation, communication, and people skills).These abilities are like the last 20 degrees of boiling water. After you have acquired the knowledge and technology of 80 degrees, without these 20 degrees, your life may be like hot water, but it is relatively lukewarm and relatively mediocre.If you heat up these last twenty degrees, your life will boil and become hot! Finally, we must remember: In China, it is not easy to go to a university. Since you are admitted to a university, it is very important to get a bachelor's degree.You have paid the price and obtained this privilege, you must get the most out of it to make the best use of it.Remember, all my suggestions above are based on respecting the reality. Since the reality is not so loose and free, you have to get this damn bachelor’s degree while pursuing your own preferences anyway. No matter how much you dislike this major. In fact, having said that, if you hadn’t been admitted to a university, you would not have this trouble. In fact, your trouble is not so much the shadow brought by the university, but the value created by the university!Otherwise, your troubles will be other much worse things--inferiority, depression, despair, hatred... This is also a wrong emotion based on the imperfection of China's educational development.I'm definitely going to take stock of this, but I won't say much here. Those friends who broke with the system or even dropped out of school in pursuit of personality development, there are also some successful people-it is said that Xuecun dropped out of the German Department of Peking University-but the price they paid in life is often too high.Although this shows the urgency of the reform of China's education system from the negative side, it also shows from the positive side that since we cannot change the world, we should not let the world destroy us, but let us change ourselves while taking advantage of the world ! There has never been any savior, nor does it depend on a fairy emperor!To realize the dream of youth, it all depends on ourselves! Although we no longer claim to liberate all mankind, the spirit of the Internationale can still be borrowed: college students can liberate the productivity of the whole society only by liberating their own productivity.Only by improving our own "advanced culture" can we promote the "advanced culture" of society. Where is your productivity?Your productivity is rooted in your own favorite major, it is hidden in your own career you want to do, it is what you love: love networking, love life, love work related to the humanities, love a career with people --but besides loving me!Love me may represent an advanced culture, but it must not create advanced productive forces, let alone represent the interests of all the people in your world: father, mother, grandpa, grandma... They heard you say "I love you" to me, They will definitely faint! You are gold.But mere gold doesn't shine -- it needs someone else to dig it up; you're the horse.Just a horse can't go thousands of miles - it still needs Bole to use spurs to motivate it to go thousands of miles a day!You are talented.But only talents—poor talents—can’t get a future. They need Mr. Xu, and Mr. Xu’s countless education and career consulting colleagues who have not yet been born, to personalize their future. It turns out that there are so many factors that affect talent development.In addition to classroom education, there are campus activities, as well as expert consultation!When Chinese university campus life becomes as rich and colorful as Peking University, and Chinese education and career counseling become a professional service that everyone can get access to, the worries of Chinese college students about their future will actually disappear... The era of personality awakening and choice will come gloriously! I think I have answered your question clearly, there is no need for you to come to Beijing to meet me! goodbye!Let us meet in the future -- let me realize that the girl in front of me may be you who I have never met before at a certain moment in a certain year, a certain month, a certain day, and feel the impact of my communication consultation on you !Whether it's the model on the catwalk with cat-like ferocious expression on the catwalk, or the hostess on the TV screen with big brass bell eyes catching my eyeballs, or the beautiful woman with her beautiful face when the plane is violently turbulent. The gentle smile makes many men think that even if it is worth dying in front of her, the lovely stewardess... Or, even if it is the oily face that makes people look at it and never want to live again but excludes a person before the plane takes off The fatally malfunctioning female mechanic, or the paleontological archaeologist who discovered a dinosaur fossil in the Loess Plateau and spent his whole life studying how many boyfriends this dinosaur had before his death, but his own boyfriend disappeared like a dinosaur-- A colorful society needs colorful people! And education is for such people, it is for them to find their own sky and color! congratulations! Xu Xiaoping