Chapter 13 Part Two: Be a Man for Your Two Goddesses

Dear Teacher Xu: My name is Zeng Jiannan, male, 22 years old, and now I am a senior student at the School of Finance and Economics in a poor province in the west. I will graduate soon, and I chose to take the postgraduate entrance examination.I like law, so I plan to apply for a Master of Laws, and I have been preparing for it for more than half a year. When I was preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination last semester, I felt very motivated and confident.But this semester has not entered the state since the beginning of the semester. Instead, I have asked myself countless times, is it necessary to take the postgraduate entrance examination?What is the purpose of the postgraduate entrance examination?Does it mean that everything will be fine after being admitted to graduate school?Is it true that postgraduates must be better than undergraduates?

Of course, if I had been asked these questions last semester, I would have had a whole host of answers.The reason why I felt very motivated in the last semester may be that I think that I can be with the girl I like after being admitted to the graduate school (she is my senior sister, and she was admitted to a university for a master's degree in law in 2002), every day The study time can reach about 15 to 17 hours. Every morning before getting up and before going to bed at night, I imagine the happy scene with her after I am admitted to graduate school, not to mention how exciting and romantic it is.Imagine telling my parents the good news after being admitted to graduate school, and all the relatives, friends, and classmates who care about me, support me, and encourage me... I feel that I have endless energy to struggle and work hard .This emotion of mine has also infected many of my classmates.

But now I'm in trouble.I want to temporarily give up the plan to take the postgraduate entrance examination, first get a job (find a job), and then take the postgraduate entrance examination later.On the one hand, I am from a rural area, and I have two sisters who are 3 years younger than me who are not studying, and are working part-time to support my tuition fees. I don’t want them to support me after graduating from university. Families take some responsibility, right?Secondly, the neurasthenia I got during the college entrance examination four years ago has not healed, and I feel very uncomfortable. When I have a headache, I don’t want to do anything, my temper is bad, and I don’t want to talk.This has seriously affected my life and study, interpersonal communication and many other aspects.With the deepening of my study, I feel that I can't cope with the huge financial and mental effort of postgraduate entrance examination and postgraduate study.I think I should look for a job first and then take care of my health.You can also make some money.right?

Please help me out of this predicament!Looking forward to reply! ! ! Zeng Jiannan Dear student Zeng Jiannan: Letter received.I feel strongly about the issues raised in your letter, and I might say shocked, even though your letter does not tell a thrilling story. What shocked me about you is that your two younger sisters gave up their education for you and worked to support you.I don't know how they work to support you, but I know that in the poor areas of China, if those beautiful girls are not educated, they can only earn four or five hundred yuan a month in a sweatshop, or in a mean city Being a nanny at home, or just staying in the country and living a life of bleak hope, what better choice and better destiny do they have?

And you, have successfully grown into an amazing college student with their sacrifice and support.I am not so proud of you as I am shocked by their sacrifices.They have already sacrificed their youth and even the future for your future. Now, it is time for you to feed back their nourishment for your future and lighten your parents' burden of supporting you! Therefore, although life choices sometimes seem to be very many, but fate is actually cruel, harsh and has no choice for you.You are not qualified to think about other things!Because, in your poor fate, you are born with huge responsibilities, which makes you have to be a strong man who faces life, a soldier who challenges misfortune, and a warrior who chokes fate by the throat.

In fact, it is this strong impulse to change destiny that has led to the success of all successful people throughout the ages.Without that strong desire to succeed and hatred of natural misfortune, life is often lacking in motivation.I strongly discourage you from taking the postgraduate entrance examination, and encourage you to start working immediately.The specific reasons are as follows: 1. Work problems: start job hunting immediately, and in the process of earning a living, look for a career.Work hard and get results at work, accumulating experience and income as quickly as possible.When you get your first month's salary and send it to your parents and sisters, they know that years of hard work have finally borne bright and happy fruits.It will be a rich and beautiful harvest of your family's tears and blood.

2. Postgraduate questions: Give up the postgraduate entrance examination for the time being.Graduate school is an alluring call for a kid like you, but thank God you didn't tell me you wanted to study abroad.You don’t want to study abroad because you can’t imagine the financial pressure—in fact, studying for a graduate student is the same thing, and it will also bring financial suffocation to you and your family.Therefore, you have to start working immediately to earn money, and temporarily give up the postgraduate entrance examination.You know, how many people in the world are studying part-time masters and doctorates while working, you can take this path.These people range from provincial governors and ministers to entrepreneurs and businessmen, from salespeople and migrant girls to scientists and engineers.As long as your pursuit is not just a diploma, on-the-job graduate students are also beneficial to your life development.

3. The problem of love: turning love into the power to make money.Love is an absolute value.But love is built on eating.When you are hungry, what your lips need most is not a kiss, but a hot steamed bun.I encourage you to continue pursuing the girl you love, but I oppose you approaching her by taking the postgraduate entrance examination.In fact, you can go to work with her.No one can prohibit you from going to the city where she is located for employment.For you, the best place to work right now may have something to do with where love is.In this way, wouldn't the problem of life choice you face be solved?

4. Development issues: If you accept my advice and start working immediately after giving up the postgraduate entrance examination, you will face another challenge: how to seize opportunities at work, succeed quickly, and develop continuously.This question is a topic of career counseling, corporate culture, and personal development, so I cannot elaborate here.Frankly speaking, from your letter, I am vaguely worried that the unconsciousness of Chinese students' employment has also been seriously exposed in you.Various job hunting skills related to this, professional ethics, how individuals adapt to corporate culture, team spirit, interpersonal relationships... etc. These factors that determine a person's success or failure after work are all challenges you face, and you need to use them. Take the serious attitude of the postgraduate entrance examination to think and study the topic!

5. "Ben" and "Master" questions: In the end, I just want to say a point of view: postgraduates can't find a job, and there are many people who feel desperate.Because, when they take the postgraduate entrance examination, they lack "professional orientation".They only know about the postgraduate entrance examination, but they don't know why they need to study for postgraduate study and what is the way out after finishing the study!Therefore, your employment prospects and development speed are actually not necessarily related to your undergraduate or master's degree, but to the factors I mentioned above.

Well, that's all for writing.Hope you understand and do as I say.I hope that you will not only be a person with a good career in the future, but also a person with a good career, a person who pulls your parents and sister out of the mire of poverty, and a person who changes the poor fate of your family. Such a person is the great person I admire the most, and a real person—a man! And women, they are not ordinary people - they are gods!She is the goddess who gives life to men, guides men to move forward, and nurtures men to grow.Like your two younger sisters. Be a man for your two goddesses! Xu Xiaoping