Chapter 8 how to get rid of fear

Do we fear things as they are, or as we think they are? Like death, do we fear the fact of death, or the idea of ​​death? The fact is one thing, the idea of ​​the fact is another. Q: How do I get rid of the fears that interfere with all my activities? K: This is a very complex question that requires a great deal of concentration.And if we don't explore enough, to experience every step of our exploration, at the end of the day, we're still not free from fear. What does fear mean? Fear of what? There are different types of fear, and we don't need to analyze each type.But we can see that fear exists when we don't fully understand relationship.Relationships are not just between people, but between us and nature, between us and property, between us and ideas.And as long as relationship is not fully understood, there must be fear.Life is all kinds of relationships.To be alive is to be related, and without relationship there is no life.Nothing exists in isolation, and as long as the mind seeks isolation, there must be fear.So, fear is not an abstract thing, it only exists in relation to something.

The question now is how to get rid of the fear.First, to overcome anything, one must overcome it again and again.But no problem can be finally overcome, overcome, it can only be understood, not overcome.These are two completely different processes, and overcoming them only leads to further confusion and fear.Resisting, dominating, fighting or building walls against a problem only creates further conflict.However, if we can understand fear, step into it, explore all its contents, then fear cannot come back in any form - and that is what I hope we can do now. As I said, fear is not an abstraction, it exists only in relationship.So, what do we mean by fear? Ultimately, our fear does not exist, does not change.Now, when there is the fear of non-existence, of not progressing, or of the unknown, of death, can it be overcome by determination, conclusion or choice? Of course not.Only repression, sublimation or substitution creates further resistance, doesn't it? So, fear cannot be overcome by any form of regulation or resistance.Freedom from fear is not achieved by seeking answers, nor by knowledge, or by verbal explanations.

Now, what are we afraid of? Are we afraid of facts or ideas about facts? Notice this.Do we fear things as they are, or as we think they are? Like death, do we fear the fact of death, or the idea of ​​death? The fact is one thing, the idea of ​​the fact is another.Am I afraid of the word "death" or the fact itself? Because I am afraid of this word and this concept, I never understand the facts, never see the facts, and have no direct relationship with the facts.Only when I am in full communion with the truth is there no fear.But if I am not in communication with the facts, there is fear, and as long as I have ideas, opinions, theories about the facts, there is no communication with the facts.So I have to be very clear: Is it the word, the idea, or the fact that I am afraid of? If I come face to face with the fact, there is nothing to understand, the fact is there and I can deal with it.But if I am afraid of the word, then I must understand the word, go deep into what the word means.

For example, some people are afraid of loneliness, pain, and the pain of loneliness.Indeed, the fear exists because loneliness is never really faced, people are never willing to fully communicate with it.When people open themselves completely to the reality of loneliness, they learn what it is.But people's ideas, opinions, are based on previous knowledge, and it is this idea, opinion, and previous knowledge that creates fear.So, fear is clearly the result of naming, addressing, projecting signs to represent facts, that is, fear and the use of words are inseparable. One of my reactions to loneliness is this: I say I'm afraid of being little.Am I afraid of this fact, or does my prior knowledge of its words, symbols, and impressions evoke fear? How can fear arise from a fact? When I am confronted with a fact and communicate directly with it, I can see Look at it, observe it, so there is no fear.What causes fear is my understanding of the facts, what the facts might be, or what will happen to the facts.

So my opinions, ideas, experiences, and knowledge of facts create fear.As long as a fact is verbalized—a name is given to a fact, and then either approved or condemned—as long as thought judges it as a spectator, there must be fear.Thought is a product of the past, it exists only through spoken words, symbols, impressions.As long as thought interferes with fact, there must be fear. So, it is the mind that creates fear, and the mind is the thinking process.Thinking uses words to express.You cannot think without words, without symbols, without images; and these impressions are prejudices, prior knowledge, understandings of the mind, projected onto facts, and out of which fear is born.Only when the mind can see the truth, without interpretation, without naming, without labeling, is there freedom from fear.This is quite difficult because those feelings, reactions and anxieties we have are quickly identified with and named by the mind.The feeling of jealousy is identified with the word "jealousy".Now, is it possible not to identify with a feeling and to look at a feeling without naming it? Naming the feeling keeps it going and adds strength.When you name a fear, you reinforce it, but if you don't name it and just watch the feeling, you'll see it go.Therefore, if one wishes to be completely free from fear, one must understand the whole process of naming, of projecting signs, of impressions, of naming facts.That is, there is freedom from fear only when you know yourself.Knowing yourself is the beginning of wisdom and the end of fear.

Q: How can I get rid of sexual desires permanently? K: Why do we want to get rid of desire permanently? What you call sexual desire, others call dependency, fear desire and so on.Why would we want to get rid of any desire permanently? Because that particular desire is bothering us, and we don't want to be bothered.That's all we think, isn't it? We want to be in our own selves and not be disturbed.That is, we want isolation, but nothing exists in isolation.So-called religious people who are seeking complete isolation in their quest for God are not to be disturbed anymore, but such people are not really religious.The truly religious people are those who understand relationship completely without problems, without conflict.It's not that they don't get disturbed, but because they don't seek certainty, they understand interruptions and, therefore, don't have a process of self-enclosed by the desire for safety.

Now, this question requires deep understanding, because we are dealing with sensations, which are thoughts.Sex has become a very important issue for the greatest number of people.People become uncreative, scared, closed off, blocked from all directions, and sex is the only thing they find relaxing, a temporary escape.In a short period of self-exile, the "I" with all its troubles, confusions, and troubles disappears, and great happiness arises.By forgetting the ego, there is a sense of stability and relaxation. We are not creative in religion, in economics, in other things, so sex becomes extremely important.In daily life, we just record like a phonograph, repeating the sentences we have learned; in religion, we are robots, following the clergy mechanically; in economy and society, we are bound and bound by the influence of the environment .Can we have any chance to relax? Obviously not; and without relaxation, there will be frustration.This is why sex, which is relaxation, becomes such an important issue for us.And society encourages it and stimulates it through advertisements, magazines, movies.

As long as this mind - which is the result, the focus of feeling - sees sex as a means of liberation, there will be problems with sex; and as long as we cannot create broadly, not just in a particular way, this problem will continue. go down.Creation has nothing to do with feeling.Sexuality is of the mind, and creativity is not a product of the mind.Creativity is never a product of the mind, a product of thought, and sex is a feeling and can never be creative.It may give birth to babies, but that's clearly not creativity.As long as we rely on the senses for relief, for stimulation in any form, there is bound to be frustration because the mind has become incapable of understanding what creativity is.

This problem cannot be solved by any commandments, taboos, social proclamations or sanctions.It can only be solved when we understand the whole process of the mind, because the mind is sex.It is the impressions, fantasies and images of the mind, and these stimuli make it sexual, and when the mind is the result of sensations, it only becomes more and more sensual.Such a mind cannot be creative, because creation is not feeling.Only when the mind ceases to seek stimulation of any kind, whether external or internal, can it be completely quiet, free, and only in that freedom can there be creation.We have made sex into something ugly because it is our only private feeling, all other feelings are public, open.But as long as we use any form of feeling as a means of liberation, it only increases problems, confusion and trouble, because liberation cannot come through seeking results.

The questioner wants to end the sexual desire permanently because he has the idea that all his distractions will then disappear, which is why he is looking, trying.This effort prevents him from being free to understand the processes of the mind.As long as the mind seeks a state where there is never any disturbance, it becomes closed and therefore unable to be creative.Only when the mind is free from wanting to achieve something, from the desire to succeed, so that there is no fear, can it be completely still.Only then is creativity possible. Q: No one loves me, but I want to have love, because without love, life has no meaning.How can I satisfy this desire?

K: I hope you are not just listening to the superficial meaning of words, because they would be another misleading, waste of time.But if you really experience the things we're talking about, then they can be very important; because even if you use your conscious mind to understand words, if you experience them, the unconscious mind is also involved.Given the opportunity, the unconscious reveals its full content, leading to complete self-knowledge.So I hope you're not just listening to the talk, but actually experiencing what we're talking about. The questioner wants to know how to love and be loved.Isn't that where most of us are? We all want to love and be loved.We talked a lot.All religions, all preachers, talk about it.So, let's find out what love means. Is love a feeling? Is love a product of the mind? Can you think of love? You can think of the object of love, but you can't think of love, can you? I can think of the person I love, and I can To have an image, an impression of a person, to recall those feelings in our relationship.But is love a feeling, a memory? When I say "I want to love and be loved," isn't that a reaction to a thought and a thought? Is thought a love? We think so, don't we? To us For me, love is a feeling.That's why we have an image of our loved ones; that's why we miss them and cling to them; that's the process of thought, isn't it? Right now the mind is frustrated in every way, so it says, "I find joy in love, so I must have love." That's why we cling to our loved ones, why we want to possess them both physically and mentally. the reason of the person.We create laws to protect the things we love, be they people, pianos, possessions, ideas or beliefs, because in possession—with all its envy, fear, doubt, and anxieties—we feel secure.So we have made love a product of the heart and filled it.Because the heart is empty, the soul says, "I must have that love." And we fill ourselves up with wives, husbands.Through love we try to become something.That is, love becomes something useful, we use love as a means to an end. So we have made love a product of the mind.The mind becomes an instrument of love, and the mind is only a feeling.Thoughts are memory responses to sensations.Without symbols, words and images, there is no memory, no thought.We know what it feels like to be in love, and we cling to it.And when it fails, we need other affections that feel the same way.So, the more we develop affection, the more we develop so-called knowledge - which is just memory - and the less we develop love. As long as we are seeking love, there must be a process of self-enclosure.Love means vulnerability and fusion, and as long as there is a process of self-enclosure, there is no fusion, no weakness.This process of thinking is fear, and in fear, how can we merge with others when we use thought as a means for further stimulation? There can be love only when you understand the whole process of the mind.Love is not of the heart, and you cannot think about love.When you say "I want love" you are thinking about it, you are desiring it, it is a feeling, a means to an end.So what you want is not love, but stimulation.You need a means to enrich yourself, whether it's people, work, or special stimuli.Indeed, that is not love.Love comes only when the ego is forgotten, and when the ego is freed by the knowledge of the ego.By knowing yourself comes understanding, and when the whole process of the mind is fully revealed and understood, you will know what love is.Then you will find that love is not about feeling, it is not a means to fulfillment.Love is spontaneous without any result.Love is a state of being in which the "I" is gone along with its acknowledgment, anxiety and possession.Love cannot be just an activity of "myself", it exists continuously whether consciously or not.Therefore, it is very important to understand the self and understand that the center of cognition is "I". New York, June 18, 1950