Chapter 5 Four Differences That Can Bring Marriage Trouble

When one partner has a lot of energy and the other doesn't, there's a big problem lurking.The difference in energy can be seen in almost all aspects, sometimes in the bedroom, the wife desires to have an intimate physical relationship more often than the husband, but the husband has no energy.Or it is more obvious in interpersonal relationships. The husband likes to contact people, but the wife just wants to stay at home and read a book.Sometimes it's on the list of things to do at home, the wife has a long list of things that need to be repaired in the house, but the husband is too tired and just wants to watch TV and relax.

When two people differ in this respect, the relationship between husband and wife will gradually be affected.For example: punctuality, tidiness, organization, dependence, responsibility, and weight maintenance.There are also many habits to consider before deciding on a lifelong decision, eg if one partner smokes but the other doesn't, this could be a problem.If one partner likes to eat healthy food and the other likes to eat junk food, there is an underlying strain in the relationship. A different concept of financial management can also put a marriage on the rocks.One side wants to save money and prepare for the future; the other side wants to spend money and enjoy life now.This type of conflict has the potential to destroy a marriage and must be clearly understood before marriage.

What will happen if one party loves to talk and the other party loves to be quiet? If one partner wants to talk more and the other wants to be alone and quiet, it can create a lot of stress! If one partner talks non-stop at meals and on the phone while the other is silent, it can cause serious trouble! Other small things that can cause conflict include: the temperature of the bedroom at night, light and darkness, when to go to bed, get up, the volume of the TV or radio, what language is most comfortable to express emotions and thoughts, what TV shows to watch, where to go Vacation and more!Differences in any of the above aspects will cause great harm to the relationship between the two parties!

, many people say after their honeymoon: "Oops, I did wrong. I chose wrong!" "Falling in love with his attention to detail at first, then mad because he doesn't give you enough space!" "At first I was ambitious in falling in love with him, but later I became crazy because his mind was full of work!" The traits you love most often start to put you off, sparking the worst fights and ultimately breaking relationships. "Falling in love with his insights at first, then getting mad because he knows too much" If the other person attracts you with qualities that are very different from your own, you'd better be careful!

Almost every psychological research has pointed out that it is very important to find someone who is very similar to you!The longest and most successful marriages are those in which the spouses are very much alike.Research shows that you are happiest when you are with someone who is like you. A happy marriage needs two healthy people to maintain for a long time, and the best time to make yourself healthy is before marriage. The health mentioned here does not refer to nutrition and physical health, but the emotional and psychological balance of both men and women. Health, these two aspects contribute greatly to the stability and happiness of a marriage.In fact, when one or both of a couple is mentally unhealthy, it can hurt or even destroy their marriage.