Chapter 70 Avoid the pitfalls of the office

When interacting with colleagues, you must practice the advance and retreat coping skills between people.How to play cards and how the opponent will respond, this is more brain-developing and more interesting than playing Go and chess. During his long career, he has to deal with all kinds of people, and at the same time, he will inevitably encounter various unexpected things such as betrayal, hostility, and slander.If you face the traps in front of you, if you can predict the occurrence of these things in advance and break them one by one, you will be able to spend the life of office workers in peace.Here are a few strategies for getting around the pitfalls of the office, in the hope that they will help you navigate complex relationships:

(1) Do not talk casually in the office.In reality, there are gentlemen and villains; there are both smooth roads and hidden reefs.In a complicated environment, if you don't pay attention to the content, proportion, method and target of speaking, you will easily provoke right and wrong, give others blame, and even bring disaster out of your mouth.Only when people settle down and adapt to the environment can they transform the environment and successfully embark on the road to success.Therefore, it is undoubtedly beneficial to be more careful in speaking, be more cautious in being a person, avoid misunderstandings in life, put yourself in a favorable position where you can attack and retreat, and firmly grasp the initiative in life.What's more, a person who has no capital and chatters will appear shallow, vulgar, lacking in cultivation and unpopular.It is natural to attend all kinds of gatherings organized by the unit, and it is also necessary to play a game or two of "social mahjong" with colleagues and superiors, but one thing must be remembered: don't talk casually.

Among colleagues, friendship can exist only when everyone has given up competing with each other, or knows that competition is useless.If you surrender your sincerity and touch your true feelings, you will only ask for trouble.For example, A and B are at the same level, and they are good friends, there is only one chance to upgrade.If A is promoted but B is not promoted, what will B think? If B continues to be friendly with A, people will inevitably be considered as a follower; it is not natural for A to take the initiative to be friendly with B. (2) When fighting alone, you must pay attention to preserving your own strength.One of the differences between blue-collar workers and white-collar workers is that blue-collar workers have little upward mobility and few opportunities for promotion.Therefore, blue-collar workers are playing formal tactics, collective bargaining.White-collar workers, on the other hand, have a lot of opportunities to work hard individually, and getting promoted is the result of fighting alone.Therefore, not only do white-collar workers lack the camaraderie of blue-collar workers, but they often suspect each other and cheat each other.This kind of environment is like a guerrilla army that goes deep behind enemy lines and fights alone.

On the one hand, we must compete in a friendly manner, on the other hand, we must preserve ourselves in the competition of others. When we are alone and weak, we must clamp our tails tightly, and never show the appearance of fighting and climbing, and become the target of public criticism.As the saying goes: "It's a mediocrity to be unattractive." But in a small circle, it's a fool to be jealous.When actively doing things, it is best to adopt a detached attitude of "only asking about hard work, not about harvest". (3) Don't be someone else's scapegoat.In a company or an administrative unit, whether it is good or bad to do things is often determined subjectively by the superior.If the superior will is strong, the subordinates will have to work hard; if the superior is self-righteous, the subordinates will be submissive.But there are some superiors who just hand in homework to their superiors, muddling things along and muddling along.In such an environment, the most important thing is to avoid accidents and keep everything as usual, so as not to arouse the wrath of the boss.But if there is a mistake, the boss will catch someone as a scapegoat in order to explain to his boss.In this case, it is called scapegoating.

The method of not being a scapegoat and not taking the blame is actually very simple.The easiest thing to do is not to take risks, not to be sloppy, to have a basis for everything, to write in black and white, and to have a good reason to explain even if you are wrong.On the other hand, the right and wrong of a matter, the magnitude of the mistake, whether it should be pursued, and how to punish it are all decided by the superiors.It is within the whim of some superiors to make a big deal into a small one or make a big deal out of a molehill.Therefore, in this case, if you have a good relationship with your boss, especially if you have a good relationship with your boss, you will be less likely to be convicted.

(4) Master the propriety of talking with colleagues.In the office, colleagues meet for the longest time every day, and the conversation may involve various things outside of work, and "speaking the wrong words" will often bring you unnecessary troubles.How to control the conversation between colleagues has become a part that cannot be ignored in interpersonal communication. (5) It is best not to debate in the office.Some people like to argue, and they must win over others before they are willing to give up.If you really like and are good at debating, then it is recommended that you leave this talent outside the office to develop, otherwise, even if you win the other party verbally, but in fact you have damaged his dignity, the other party may hold a grudge , maybe one day he will retaliate in some way.

(6) The office is not a place to talk to each other.There are many talkative, straight-tempered people who like to confide their bitterness to their colleagues.While such conversations are humane and can lead to rapport between you, studies have shown that less than 1 percent of people can keep a secret.Therefore, when your personal crisis, lovelorn, extramarital affairs, etc. occur, you'd better not complain everywhere, and don't confuse the "friendliness" and "friendship" of your colleagues, so as not to become the focus of attention in the office, and it is easy to cause problems for the boss. impression.

(7) Don't be an inquisitor of rumors.Inquiry is what is said behind other people's backs. As long as there are many people, there will be gossip.Sometimes, you may accidentally become the person who "lets talk"; sometimes, you may also be the object of "attack" by others.These whispers, such as who the leader likes, who eats the most, who has scandals, etc., are like noise, affecting people's work emotions.Smart you, you have to know that you should say what you should say bravely, and you should never say nonsense if you should not say it. (8) Don't be a boastful braggart.Some people like to share happiness with others, but when it comes to your work information, for example, you are about to win an important client, the boss secretly sent you a bonus, etc., it is best not to show it to others.I'm afraid you're getting carried away and forget that some people's eyes are already red.