Chapter 62 Chapter 9 The Fate of Prostitution

In ancient China, a woman without pubic hair was called a "white tiger" and was one of the characteristics of the so-called Kefu.Therefore, a hairless woman has only the fate of staying alone in a vacant house or selling herself into prostitution.A man can be hairless on top, but not hairless on the bottom.For adolescent boys, the appearance of pubic hair is a symbol of masculinity. I remember when I was in elementary school in Wuxi, one day, two famous skin kings in the school were surrounded by dozens of elementary school students, and they wanted to compete in the toilet.The content of the competition is to see who has the longest pubic hair.The two protagonists of that game challenged each other before the real contest, and the supporters behind them were naturally divided into two factions, each betting on their idol's pubic hair.Fortunately, that match took place during the end of get out of class time, and until the bell rang, the sensational match in a corner of the campus was still just a verbal call.

When I was in East China Normal University, there was a biologist Dr. Li who was my neighbor.Although Dr. Li is very tall, he is only short in stature.Dr. Li is often moved by Lao Zhang's tall and straight figure, and often jokes that he wants me to borrow some of his height.I suggested that he do more hard work on genetic engineering, and I would be willing to donate my precious height genes to rebuild his body in the future. Dr. Li had a low self-esteem in front of Lao Zhang, but on a summer evening, when all the doctors were enjoying the cool with their shirts off, Dr. Li's eyes suddenly shone, as if he had discovered a new world.

"You don't even have hair on your chest!" Dr. Li yelled. "Then you have hair?" "certainly." So everyone's eyes were drawn to Dr. Li's chest, and they found a clump of chest hair that wasn't too thick.Although Dr. Wang, an anthropologist, laughed and called it an atavistic phenomenon, our lovely Dr. Li has since always put his collar down when he wears a shirt, so that others can see his little chest hair. Dr. Li's low self-esteem in height is made up for by his pride in chest hair.The psychological judgment of human beings on their appearance is really very interesting. Facing the inferiority complex caused by appearance, Dr. Li proved to us that a clump of chest hair is more important than a belly knowledge.

Tattoos and Buckles When I first arrived in New York, my eldest sister Liao Tingting told me that the weirdest place in Manhattan was Soho Village.I asked why, and she told me that there are many weirdos in Soho Village.I like to watch weird people, so I made an appointment with Tingting, and two friends from the TV station, Yang Feng and Shi Jun, to go to Soho Village together. Midnight is the busiest scene in Soho Village.It was the first time I visited the world-famous Soho Village, and I expected to have a dreamy feeling.When you arrive at Soho Village, there are a series of bars, restaurants, galleries, and of course the most people.The street lights were dim, and of course there were dim candle shadows in the bar.Standing on the street of Soho Village, I wanted to trace my heart back to the distant past. I found that the scene in front of me matched the faint memory of my childhood in Shanghai.The beauty of Soho Village is actually not very good at that moment. Only when this feeling is brewed over time can it become fragrant.

The weird people in Soho Village that Ting Ting claimed were not as many and weird as expected.Occasionally seen weirdos are nothing more than a few extra buckles on their faces and hair dyed in various colors.As a psychologist, I would like to have the opportunity to interview such weird people and really understand the inner world of such people, and the Fifth Avenue Psychotherapy Center provides me with the best opportunity. Shan Fern is a black single mother with 6 children, all boys, two of whom are adopted.There is no doubt that such a mother has a heavy burden, but Keshan Fern gives the impression that she is an incompetent mother.She has a baseball cap buckled backwards on her head, a large buckle hanging from her nose, three missing upper teeth, and a hippie smile.As a single mother of six, her appearance made me instantly sympathize with her six children.But I don't want to directly challenge her motherhood, because that's just her first impression.In the ensuing conversation, Shan Fern showed severe depression and childish personality.When these two disorders were mixed, it became very difficult for her to treat psychotherapy.When I tried to psychoanalyze her depression, her infantile personality made serious psychoanalysis mere child's play.During the interview, Shan Fern kept playing with her tongue ring, so I changed the conversation to her tongue ring.

"Can you tell me why you got the tongue ring in the first place?" I asked. "Because my son pretended." Shan Fern laughed. "Did you learn it from your son?" "Yeah, my son is faking it, and I think it's fun, so I'm going to do it too." Shan Fern's answer shows her naivety. A mother has to pretend because her son has a tongue ring, which makes people listen. Quite a bit of time and space upside down feeling. "How does it feel when you're pretending?" I'm actually very curious about this question. "The whole tongue was swollen and I couldn't eat for a whole week."

"Then what do you eat?" "Eat ice cream." "How does it feel after the swelling subsides?" "How fun." "Is there anything wrong with this tongue ring?" "Of course I have. Look at my teeth, they were all knocked off by my tongue ring." "In that case, you still insist on wearing a tongue ring?" "Now that I have no teeth, I don't have any worries." Shan Fern's answer made me laugh and cry. "Then why are you wearing a nose ring?" "Looks cool!" Shan Fern's answer was straightforward.I think most people who wear nose rings think about the same.

Another patient of mine, Jamie, is tattooed all over his body and has a dozen earrings in his ears.So I asked him what he thought about the clasp. Jamie smiled and said, "I don't like nose rings. After wearing a nose ring, what's the difference between a human and a cow?" "A cow who has a nose ring can be led away by someone, but a person who has a nose ring also hopes to be led away by a lover." I published my fallacy. "Interesting." Jamie agreed with me. "The inner meaning of the buckle is to attract attention?" I continued my reasoning.

"Yes, my new girlfriend doesn't have big breasts, so she put two small nipple rings on her nipples, which looks cute." Jamie suddenly pulled her girlfriend's nipple rings, and I didn't know what to say for a while. Jamie was obviously intrigued, and added: "Women wear rings on their vulvas, and men wear rings on their glans and scrotums." "Have you seen it?" I asked. "More than that, my brother suggested that I do rings with him, and I think that's kind of crazy." "Put a ring on the glans, so what about sex life?" I simply asked.

"It's insane to have sex with rings off or with them on," Jamie said, laughing.I figured for that matter, the ring tricks were over, so I turned my attention to tattoos. "Are you interested in my tattoo? You see this is my first girlfriend." Jamie pointed to his left arm, which had a beautiful bikini girl on it. "How many girlfriends do you have?" "There are so many, I can't count them, but the ones who can get on me are all the girlfriends I can't forget." Jamie started to introduce the girlfriends on his body while talking.This way of commemoration is really unique, so I can't help but sigh the eternity of the memory of love in this way.

"Won't your ex-girlfriend be jealous?" "There is jealousy. The reason is not because I have too many women on my body, but because there is no decent space on my body for my future girlfriend to show my face." Jamie laughed again after saying that.On the outside, Jamie is a standard American hippie. When I was in China, I was quite curious about such American hippies, and I always wanted to understand the inner world of such people.After I had been in therapy with Jamie for a full year, the tattoos and buckles on Jamie's body had lost their original wonder in my eyes.A Jamie with a tattoo and a buckle is actually not much different from a Jamie without a tattoo and a buckle, and Jamie's emotions are not much different from ordinary people's emotions.Under the fancy appearance, the common psychology of human beings remains.The weirdo is not really weird, because even the weirdo is no stranger to his own weirdness. A tattoo is an expression of one's mind.In primitive societies, tattoos indicated the worship of mystical totems by helpless individuals.In many traditional dramas, facial makeup exaggerates and spreads the meaning of the plot to satisfy the regret that the audience cannot see it.In the crowded world, modern people use tattoos and buckles to send out the cry of wanting to be noticed.Human behavior is actually meaningful behavior. In order to express and publicize a meaning, people have to exaggerate their behavior.Exaggeration often goes to extremes, but the meaning behind the exaggeration is also perceived by the world through extremes. Traditional education is positive education, and the goal of education is to make everything good and everything good.I remember that during the "Cultural Revolution", China's education policy was to train children to be three good students with all-round development of morality, intelligence and physique.Is there anything wrong with such an educational policy?Absolutely right in theory, but wrong in practice.When children are deprived of the right to make mistakes, the growth of human nature is already deformed.In Manhattan, where liberalism prevails, all the weirdness and absurdity have a reasonable room for development.Under the seemingly shocking appearance, the soul tortured by social pressure at least has the freedom to howl. Now, those hippies with eccentric appearances are no longer eccentric in my eyes. They are actually still human beings just like the well-dressed ordinary people.They use their eccentric appearance to send out their unique cries to the world.There are many people who hear the shout and run away, but I hear the shout and understand the meaning of the shout.When understanding does happen, there is no need for shouting, so I can just listen to them whispering to me.