Chapter 59 Chapter 6 I'm ugly, so I can't be gentle

Zhuangzi traveled all over the world and came to a friend's house.That friend has two wives, one is beautiful and the other is ugly.What surprised Zhuangzi was that the beautiful wife was like a poor maid in the family, and all the hard work was done by her, while the ugly wife was like a queen in the palace, who didn't know what else to do except enjoy the blessings.Zhuangzi asked why.The friend replied: "A beautiful wife thinks she is beautiful, but I don't feel her beauty. What's the use of being beautiful? An ugly wife thinks she is ugly, but I don't feel her ugliness. What does it matter?"

All the ugly women in the world probably hope to find such an ugly husband.But unfortunately, such husbands are very rare in reality.As a result, the days of ugly girls are really not easy. ugliest woman in the world One of my black female patients, Qi Li, suffered from depression due to the death of her husband.She told me how much she loved her husband, how she destroyed herself after her husband passed away, how she lost her job, how she lost her house, how she gave up the care of her children, all because she loved her so much husband. Logically, such a husband seems to be the best husband in the world, but from another point of view, the death of this husband makes his wife feel the pain of the destruction of the world, and this husband must have some strange psychology Problems distort his wife's perception of the world.With such a basic expectation, I began to explore her husband.

"You said your husband is the best husband in the world. I really want to know how he is." "Lot was the best husband in the world, he was everything to me. When he died, everything was gone," Qi Li muttered with her eyes fixed. "I understand your feelings for Lot, I just want to know how Lot treats you." "Luo loves me very much. He said he is the only person in the world who loves me, and no one else can love me." Qi Li still didn't look at me directly. "How can Lot say that no one else in the world can love you?" I realized that Qi Li's dead husband seemed to cast a hypnotic spell on Qi Li.

"Lot told me I was the ugliest woman in the world. No other man would ever love me but him." "You just believed his words, you are the ugliest woman in the world?" "Of course not. In fact, in order to prove that I'm not the ugliest woman in the world, I secretly went out and had an affair. I just want to prove that besides Lot, there are other men who will love me in this world." "What was the result?" "Lot found out my secret, and he beat me up." "Lot beat you?" I was amazed that the best husband in the world beat his wife.

"He hit me because he loves me." This absurd logic is familiar to me, because our ancient Chinese tradition has always preached the same absurd logic "Hitting is love, pain is harm." "So you still believe Lot's words, he is the only person in the world who loves you. If he is gone, no one in this world will love you." I reiterated Lot's absurd logic, and at the same time thought of what Zhuangzi said. I don't know what her husband told her about the spoiled ugly wife I saw.If the same logic was instilled by the husband, then life would be difficult for the ugly wife when the husband died.

"Are you now convinced that no one in the world will love you?" I wanted to clarify Qi Li's self-image. "I'm a piece of shit, no one wants shit." "Dung is the most popular thing among farmers." I blocked Qi Li's self-denial in time. "Then I'm not a shit, I have nothing." "You are talking to me, the you who spoke clearly exists, how can you say nothing?" "Then I am a cartoon, a cartoon without ego." Qi Li racked her brains to belittle herself. "I remember the cute cartoon rabbit in "Who Murdered Roger Rabbit", full of emotions and desires. You know, cartoons are children's favorite." I followed closely.

Qili glanced at me, and she burst out laughing suddenly, a spark of joy sparkled in those straight dead fish eyes.I fixate on that little spark, trying to pass my fire through eye contact.Qi Li obviously felt my anger, she turned her head away, but her body posture has gradually become relaxed.I knew it would take a long period of therapy to free her from her husband's spell, but I had successfully taken the first step. I thought it was a pile of dung, But it turned out to be a farm treasure. Changing your mouth is nothing, But it cannot deny its own existence. Then call me cartoon,

Isn't that a favorite of the kids?