Chapter 52 Section 12 Sexual temptations that often occur in life

"How are you feeling?" I asked routinely. The pair of eyeballs glanced at me and didn't reply. "You look tired and don't want to talk." I asked thoughtfully. "Hmm" was a bit of a response. "The topic we discussed today is, what do you like most and what do you hate the most?" "I like to take off my clothes the most." The pair of eyes suddenly came alive. "Why do you like to take off your clothes?" I thought this was a topic that could be discussed for half an hour, but my buddy stood up suddenly, and the next scene was that he, with lightning speed, put him The nightgown he wore was taken off, and of course he was completely naked underneath.

I hurried over to help him dress, but he struggled and resisted.I feel like a father trying to dress his precious son who likes to be naked.Fortunately, he didn't resist strongly, and I managed to put the nightgown on him in the end. Like many people, I've only heard about nudity in mental institutions, and it's kind of weird when it happens to me.Fortunately, my patient is a man. If I meet a woman, can I help her dress?If I don't help her dress and let her run around naked in the ward, wouldn't I also be responsible?Well, there is probably no standard answer to such a question, let's talk about it someday.

From symbolic seductive actions, to asking for masturbation, to suddenly undressing, we can see that patients have many tricks in front of the psychologist.In fact, the doctor-patient relationship in psychotherapy is no different from the interpersonal relationship in our daily life, except that the doctor-patient relationship is a little more dramatic than the daily interpersonal relationship.Sexual temptations that often occur in daily life cannot be avoided in psychotherapy. can i date you “Jenny really makes me hot.” ​​Mike, a new patient of mine, was telling me how he felt about his previous therapist. "I didn't feel anything at first either, but somehow, I got more and more hot with her."

Mike looks like a hippie at first glance, with tattoos all over his body, and he never leaves the American three-character scripture "fake oil".When he described his feelings for Janie, he used the milder word "hot." "What does your fever mean?" I asked knowingly. "Of course you understand what I mean. I want to date her, and then????" When the cunning Mike brought the three-character scripture to his mouth, he swallowed it back abruptly. "She's different from your other girlfriends, isn't she?" "Jenny is really making me hot all over. I don't know if it's my fault or her fault." Mike continued: "I told her that I wanted to go out with her. She said to me, this is Impossible, because she is my psychiatrist."

"You stopped there?" "Where, of course I wouldn't let her go easily. I asked her if she wasn't my psychiatrist, would she go out with me on a date." "What did she say?" "She said of course she would." "Oh!" I couldn't help but lose my voice.Jane's answer made a common mistake of many young psychiatrists. On the one hand, she refused the patient's current sexual temptation, but on the other hand, she left the patient with itchy expectations.This is by no means a good thing for patients caught in love entanglements.

"When I go to the clinic, she usually waits for me at the door. When I get off the motorcycle, the look on her face just drives me crazy. I really want to fuck her." Mike finally couldn't hold back his stinking mouth. In this koan, is it Mike's problem, or is it a seductive message that Janey unwittingly sends out? I think both are involved.Although a psychiatrist has received professional training, it is undeniable that a psychiatrist is still a person, and he also has the emotions and desires of ordinary people.As a psychiatrist, he or she must be very careful to remain aware of his or her behavior at all times, especially not to send overtly seductive messages to the patient.

A comment I just made makes me appear to be a moderate judge in the court of human morality.In fact, human emotions are the most complex and incredible.If all human emotional exchanges can be measured by rationality, human psychopathology can be reduced by half. The story of Janie described above seems to me to be Janie unconsciously provoking Mike to satisfy her subconscious narcissism.Now, if the doctor-patient relationship is further extended, a question will naturally arise, will the psychiatrist really fall in love with the patient? you make me mad Fanda is a psychotherapy intern, with long hair, clear blue eyes, and a graceful figure, she naturally exudes seductive charm.She came to New York alone from out of state, apparently without a boyfriend.During a group mentoring discussion, Fanta spoke candidly about her admiration for a patient.

"Richard is a handsome man. He is rational, open, and willing to analyze himself in the communication with me. Therefore, I have a good impression of him, but this good feeling is just a good feeling. One day, Richard walked into the clinic room, complaining that it was too hot, so he took off his coat naturally. When he took off the coat, he inadvertently lifted up the undershirt, allowing me to glimpse his belly." Fanta paused, with a slight smirk on his face flushing. "His firm belly made me suddenly distraught, and I immediately realized the change in my heart. Although I didn't let my inner feelings express, it still made me very disturbed." Fanta finally revealed her inner voice.

Such a topic immediately made everyone lively.Obviously, everyone has their own secret story.The eldest sister Lina smiled and said: "My male patient is more extreme than yours. He just lifted up his clothes and let me see his abs. After I saw it, I said to him, yes, very good." Ah." Lina's response seemed to be teaching Little Sister Fanta, it's okay, there's no need to be shy.Finally, our esteemed Mr. Sweeney couldn't resist joining in to share his secret story. "I also had a female patient who really attracted me." As our tutor, Mr. Sweeney sometimes seemed like an old urchin.When he was talking about his pride, he waved his arms covered with redbud flowers and put his stinky feet on the table. Sitting at the table, I had to let my sound wave go around those feet and enter the space. Mr. Winnie's eardrums.It should come as no surprise that Mr. Sweeney said he, too, had a secret story.In fact, it would be strange if Mr. Sweeney had no such story.

"I was deeply attracted to my female patient, but I remained aware and wanted to understand the true meaning of the relationship. It was not until years later that I saw clearly behind this powerful attraction, It's her hunger for attention." It took Mr. Sweeney, a master of psychoanalysis, several years to figure out that the unsettling emotion was simply the patient's hunger and thirst.Readers who read this may not understand whether I am praising Mr. Sweeney or ridiculing Mr. Sweeney. In fact, what is the difference between a psychiatrist and an ordinary person?The slogan commonly used to criticize the "Cultural Revolution" is: Marxism to others, capitalism to oneself.I am here to expose my faults, just to show that psychiatrists are not so mysterious or weird. They are actually just like ordinary people, amiable, lovely, and lamentable.

female patient who wants to hug me Marilyn was a tall, beautiful woman who worked as a fashion model until her drug addiction cost her everything.When she first met me, she told me frankly that she had a fear of men and that she didn't know if she could get along with me.I also told her frankly that if she didn't like my psychotherapy, I would try to try a different psychotherapy model even though I made it clear.If it still fails, then I will recommend her to other therapists. During the first sessions of therapy, Marilyn kept her distance from me.But as the treatment progressed, she began to reveal the secrets in her heart without reservation.She talked about being raped by her uncle when she was nine, about being pregnant when she was 13, and having her first child when she was 14.She talked about how her current husband cheated on her, she also talked about her beautiful ideals, and she also offered to change the weekly therapy session to twice a week.I am very happy for such a doctor-patient relationship, but at the same time, I am reminding myself to pay attention to the empathy of the other party. One day, Marilyn told me she had a dream last night and wondered if she should tell me.I replied: "There is nothing to say in psychotherapy, as long as you want, you can say anything, don't take my thoughts into account." "This is a secret matter related to you." Marilyn showed a little shyness.Of course I knew what that meant, but I encouraged her to speak up anyway.