Chapter 50 Section 10 The little man making obscene gestures in front of the female doctor

"I lived in the same room with 5 sisters and my mother since I was a child. Can you imagine a little man living with 6 women?" Leon looked at me with a complicated expression. "Can you tell me some specific incidents?" "Women, all the women in my life are perverts. One of my older sisters likes to wield a sharp knife in front of my head while I sleep. I once woke up in my sleep and saw the knife in front of me. The light was flying, and my sister was wielding a long knife for cutting watermelon in front of my eyes. I asked her what she was going to do, and she suddenly put the knife under my crotch alive, and said that she wanted to cut off my penis." At this point, Leon made a gesture, and his right hand seemed to take a knife to cut at his crotch.

"I see, your demonstration just now must have overwhelmed your female psychiatrist." Leon smiled mysteriously at me and said: "It's nothing, my other sister likes to show me her pussy in front of me." The crotch is symbolically separated. "You know, my behavior made my female psychiatrist turn pale with fright. After that time, she didn't dare to continue to be my psychiatrist. "Why did you make that obvious move?" I asked. "That's my life, my whole childhood in that mess. If my therapist can't stand my real-life situation for even a moment, how can she help me out?" Leon's words did sound quite reasonable.

"I think a psychiatrist must have considerable psychological endurance to be able to understand the sexual abuse you suffered as a child. However, when you describe the scene of sexual temptation in words in front of a female psychologist, you still don't know it." Attaching such an exaggerated gesture, it seems to me that you are trying to symbolically make your therapist a victim similar to yourself." I did a little analysis to point out the subconscious motivation of the patient's exaggerated behavior.Leon, battle-tested (in the therapy room with several psychiatrists over the years), chuckled and agreed with my analysis.

In psychodynamic therapy, there is an important concept called "projective identification" (projective identification).Children will project difficulties they cannot handle to their parents, and usually parents will find ways to help their children solve them.But if the problem is difficult or complicated, even the parents will be helpless, and the child will be recognized by the embarrassment of the parents, so the child will subconsciously get a kind of satisfaction and escape: "I can't deal with this problem, You don’t have to deal with it, because even my parents can’t deal with it.” When a person thinks his problems are unsolvable, he is caught in a dilemma: he can avoid the problem because it has no solution, but the The problem doesn't go away because of his avoidance.The question haunted him like a ghost, and he kept throwing it at others, leaving them in a difficult situation.He felt momentary and fleeting relief when he saw the plight of others.But when the other person is not with him, the problem automatically turns back to bother him further.

Leon's childhood was sexually abused, an experience most people can't imagine.Therefore, in the process of psychotherapy, he projected his past experience to his psychiatrist in a direct and indirect way.When he succeeded in making his therapist feel the pain of his past sexual abuse, he was relieved to temporarily deposit his pain with the therapist.But if his psychiatrist can't bear the big package he dropped and is unwilling to keep it, he can only pick up the problem package again and look for the next object target. Leon's seductive gesture of spreading his crotch apart with his hands clearly overwhelmed his young female therapist, who eventually chose to leave.Since then, Leon no longer trusts all female psychiatrists. He believes that female psychiatrists cannot understand his psychological pain because they are subject to stereotyped female roles.

I gave him psychotherapy for half a year. Although I helped Leon relieve some of his pain, the door of his most painful did not open.He is very grateful for my help and admits that he is not ready to fully enter his mental exclusion zone.If I continue to treat him with psychotherapy for half a year or even several years, I believe his mental forbidden areas can be broken.