Chapter 42 Section 2

According to the theory of classical psychoanalysis, the ego is caught between the id (instinctive impulse) and the superego (ethics and moral norms) like a mouse in a bellows, and the ego must adopt a self-defense mechanism in order to find itself in the conflict between the two. halfway point.When the power of the superego is too strong, the ego has to become the thug of the superego, strictly prohibiting the "evil impulse" of the id, which is originally the instinctive sexual response of human beings, and often produces serious distortions and deformations. Impotence and premature ejaculation are the two major pathological symptoms of the aspirational and difficult to stretch type.It is an open secret that impotence and premature ejaculation are so common, yet so commonly concealed and denied by men.In front of women, impotence and premature ejaculation are the biggest shame of men, and this shame is often ignored by women.The most terrible thing is that some women regard impotence and premature ejaculation as a man's neglect of his lover's charm or the disappearance of his lover's love.In this way, after bearing the unspeakable shame, the poor man also has to bear the frustration caused by his lover's incomprehension.

In fact, impotence and premature ejaculation are mostly functional disorders, which can be cured with the cooperation of both men and women and a little adjustment. Taiwan's second master with long sleeves and good at dancing A Taiwanese man steals a beautiful "mistress" in mainland China, which makes the mainland man grit his teeth but has no choice.When I was in the mainland, I only heard of Taiwanese men being uncles and "second wives", but I had never heard of Taiwanese men being "second wives".The so-called second master, as the name suggests, is the face or concubine of a rich woman, and the more ugly one is called a duck.In the United States, I met Taiwan's "Second Master".

The Taiwanese "second master" named Wu Qing is an amateur ballroom dance teacher, and this job is the easiest to make friends with women.My friend took me to the ballroom, and of course I met this dance floor prince.Wu Qing looks like a creamy boy, he treats people politely, and treats women with a peachy face.I am not good at dancing, dancing is like boxing, so I spend more time just watching the excitement there. My friend introduced me to Wu Qing, and Wu Qing exchanged some polite words with me, and then devoted himself to his teaching.I saw that Wu Qing was in high spirits during the ballroom dance, and he never felt tired for several hours.From the point of view of martial arts, this dance is actually a physical and mental exercise.The dance ended late at night, and my friend invited Wu Qing and several other friends to have a late-night snack, and Wu Qing happily agreed.

During the dinner, Wu Qing knew that I was a psychiatrist, and his breezy face suddenly showed a trace of sadness.He said he hoped to find a chance to chat with me.I know this is a Chinese habit, even if I have psychological problems, I hope to have a private chat with a psychiatrist. I asked Wu Qing to sit in a coffee shop on weekends, and Wu Qing came as promised.After a while of polite greetings, his face darkened. "Women, alas!" Wu Qing sighed, "Women are the most ruthless things in the world." "You teach dancing and deal with women every day, why do you feel so emotional?" I asked.

"They are playing with you, sucking your energy, you are just a doll. When they get tired of playing with you, you will be abandoned like shit." Wu Qing's eyes revealed a look of resentment. "From your tone, you seem to have a lot of experience with women." "Yeah, actually, I said that women are playing with me, and I am also playing with women." In my opinion, Wu Qing's words have revealed his inner truth, but he is still obsessed with the mentality of being played by women. "Who's playing whom?" I asked. Wu Qing glanced at me, and a smile appeared on the corner of her mouth, "Who knows? But there are really countless women who have slept with me in this life." Wu Qing said this somewhat to show off.

"Countless?" I repeated deliberately. "That's right, countless." Wu Qing repeated these four words in a long voice, which contained strange and complicated meanings. "The basketball superstar Chamberlain claimed in his book that he had slept with 20,000 women in his life, but his evaluation of women seems to be less negative than yours." I mentioned the hero Chamberlain in color, just to find a comparison for him Your own position and the crux of the problem. "Twenty thousand, that's a bit exaggerated. But Chamberlain is rich, and his relationship with women is backed by money, so everything is easy to handle."

"Then you have no money?" "Well, men without money have a different status in front of women." Wu Qing didn't directly admit that he belonged to that kind of man without money, but his tone of voice had clearly revealed his helplessness. "How many girlfriends do you have now?" I asked a little abruptly. "To tell you the truth, there are currently 4 people I keep in touch with. My problem now is that my visa has expired, and I don't want to go back to Taiwan without a penny. But here, I can't support myself by teaching dancing. , so I have to keep in touch with them. This time, I really need their help, but none of these women are willing to lend a helping hand."

"Do you want to marry one of them to gain your identity?" "That's right, but none of the women I slept with was willing to marry me. I thought there must be one out of four, but there was none." Wu Qing said bitterly about his women. "As far as I know, women actually value emotional specificity. They probably all know your flirtatiousness. Naturally, no one wants to marry you." "They all slept with me." Wu Qing emphasized the fact of going to bed, as if going to bed was his magic to control a woman, but what really disappointed Wu Qing was that his women didn't even care about the fact of going to bed. One willing to give him a hand.Even magic like going to bed fails, so why not disappoint Wu Qing.

In Wu Qing's world, he makes a living by dancing with women and sleeping with women.If there is no problem with his visa, his life is actually not bad.Although he understood that he exchanged his own body with four women for what he needed, his machismo also created an illusion for him by deceiving himself. He could master that woman by sleeping with a woman. Unexpectedly, modern women have already Beyond the shackles of the second sex, the standards for big women playing with small men are clear in their hearts.It's okay to play in bed, but if you want to marry you, then you want to turn your head.

Wu Qing, who was really a second master, was unwilling to admit his status as a second master, and wanted to be a good master at a critical moment, but he was completely disappointed.I pointed out his confusion about his role and wanted him to return to his true self, but he had lived in his world for too long to let himself go. "Actually, to put it bluntly, it's okay to go back to Taiwan. I can still find my woman." Wu Qing's answer told me that he didn't really want to change his philosophy of life, so I naturally had nothing to say.A few months later, Wu Qing returned to Taiwan.