Chapter 4 In the third section, the country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change?

still-- The mountain does not turn, but the water turns! One day, I went to the home of an American friend, Riley Damen, who was the former CEO of a well-known securities company in the United States.The old man has a special preference for Chinese Tai Chi. That day, he invited me to dinner and talked about psychology during the dinner. Unexpectedly, he said: "Psychotherapy is actually bullshit, isn't it?" The literal translation of Bullshit is cow dung.From the bragging in the eyes of my Chinese parents to the bullshit theory of my American friend Riley, what I have been busy with all my life is actually the next thing. Are they going to make me feel inferior and angry?

Woohoo, people don't know who they are, and people have neglected their own spiritual research. It's been a long time. What can I do?Even my parents, scholars, and stock kings belittle my specialty psychology, let alone Shengdou Xiaomin. However, my confidence in psychology has not wavered in the slightest, and all this has made me more aware that the task of promoting psychology to the world is mine. In my nearly 10 years of contact with mental patients, I have seen beautiful girls tortured by depression to the point of committing suicide; sixty-sixty old men regretted wasting their lives in confusion; innocent children became social monsters under the abuse of their parents. a sweet lover turns into an enemy of husband and wife; even a successful rich man will lose the meaning of life overnight; A tragedy in which tens of thousands of people suffer disasters because of one person's psychopathy.

How can psychology not matter? As the saying goes, every family has a scripture that is difficult to recite.Why is this sutra difficult to read?All because of so many things on my mind.How many people can calmly say to themselves when they retire, that I lived a good life in the first half of my life; Some women told me that they have been completely disappointed in men in this life. A man told me that he has been completely disappointed in women in his life. Someone else said to me that he or she was disappointed in humanity as a whole. Of course, some people say that he or she is completely disappointed in himself.

All of these disappointed people are not disappointed in their own judgments as above, nor do they realize that their self-righteous, "thorough" understanding of human nature may be nothing more than a symptom of their own psychological disorders.Even when a person insists that he or she has no overt symptoms of anxiety and depression, they may not realize that everyone around them is living with the anxiety and depression he or she creates.When a person's power is expanded to a certain supernormal situation due to the particularity of the times, this person's psychopathy can also evolve into a perversion of a nation or even an era.And when most people in the crowd are abnormal, the few normal people with clear consciousness become the targets of persecution.

From small family relationships to the way of governing the country, the key to everything is the human heart, and psychology is the science that studies the human heart most fully. How can it be said that psychology is not important? "Chinese Women in Manhattan" introduces a true and false Manhattan scene to the Chinese public who are themselves confused about Manhattan.Because that Manhattan has been described as a dream-seeker's paradise.But I, a Chinese psychiatrist in Manhattan, want to tell the Chinese public in this book how those Americans who live in paradise in Manhattan live like hell.

Manhattan is just a small island in the center of a city, but too many comedies, tragedies and even tragedies have happened on this small island.Manhattan, in my eyes, is a heaven and hell for the soul.Because too many people have regarded Manhattan as heaven, so let me talk about Manhattan's hell. Manhattan is like the old Shanghai in the past, where foreigners rush to come here, just to realize the dream that can never be realized in other places.Manhattan has indeed fulfilled the dreams of many people. There are countless beautiful dreams, but there are also countless nightmares.Manhattan is like hell, and if you want to go to heaven, you have to taste hell first.If you can't get past hell, heaven is near but beyond your reach.What do I mean when I say that Manhattan has fulfilled the nightmares of countless people?Because Manhattan provides the place where childhood nightmares come true, and if you have unsolvable nightmares in your mind, the magic of Manhattan will transform your nightmares into terrifying reality.

"I haven't touched a Manhattan woman in 10 years" "I haven't touched a woman for 10 years. Am I an ascetic? No! I think about women every night, but I haven't touched a woman for 10 years." He was convicted of sexual harassment and sentenced to 3 times of psychological treatment by a judge.In the United States, psychotherapy can cover misdemeanors, and it is really a good way to cure diseases and save lives.Jisha was only sentenced to 3 sessions of psychological treatment, which can be described as a very light sentence, but Jisha was not convinced. "This shitty Manhattan." Jisha scolded: "I just called one woman and said I wanted to invite her out to dinner, but she ignored me, so I continued to invite her, unexpectedly, the police came 10 minutes later. I was arrested inexplicably like this, is it illegal to invite women out for dinner?"

"Unfortunately, you hit the muzzle of a woman in Manhattan. You are a doctor of law. Don't you know that New York has a law designed to protect women from being harassed by telephone?" "Hmph, Doctor of Laws! I also have two MBA degrees, but my degrees are all obtained abroad, and they are not recognized in this shitty America." Jisha's answer really surprised me and made me sympathize .My Ph.D. student from China has to be a student again when he arrives in the United States. "None of your degrees came in handy?" "I came to America 20 years ago, at first I thought it was a temporary slump, I did all those low jobs, but 20 years later, my degrees have never been used, so I won't say much .Damn it is the woman in Manhattan, 10 years, I haven't touched a woman in Manhattan, why?" Jisha said through gritted teeth.

"Hasn't a woman in Manhattan ever been in love with you?" "Besides money and beauty, what else do women in Manhattan fall in love with? I am ugly and have no money. Women are afraid to avoid me when they see me." Jisha, who is not ugly, continued to grit his teeth. Of course I know that it is not all the fault of Manhattan women that Jisha has no women for 10 years, but it is also an indisputable fact that Manhattan women like money and beauty.This reminds me of our Shanghai girls in China, don't they also have the same hobbies as the sisters in Manhattan.In fact, metropolitan women's obsession with money and beauty is the motivation for metropolitan men to make money desperately.

Even though poor Jisha has two MBA degrees and a JD hat, because of his incompetence in psychological adjustment, he can only live in the hell in Manhattan, with no money, no women, only pain and anger.In my only three psychotherapy sessions with Jisha, I pointed out his deviation in psychological adjustment. The big man Jisha cried bitterly in front of me, and he murmured: "It's too late, I met you earlier That’s fine. I actually understand that it’s my own fault, that even though I have so many degrees, I’m still a kid at heart.” Yin-Yang Learning to Lead the Lost Old Lamb "I suffer from a severe anxiety disorder. Sometimes I can't breathe suddenly and my whole body trembles." Baker said to me with his brows furrowed.The German named Beck in front of me is tall and handsome, with a body full of sinews that indicate that he is a person who pays great attention to body image.When he smiles, his slightly squinted eyes seem to be conveying a message to the other party. The meaning of this message is complex, a bit condescending, and a bit of the pain of humble pleading; hope.

"I used to be the general manager of a company in Germany and had a very successful career, but now I have nothing to do in Manhattan." Baker sighed.