Chapter 41 7.d The sooner you wake up, the better

From everyone's experience, time does not move at a constant speed, but accelerates forward.This is not "relativity".Einstein did explain the theory of relativity with this metaphor: "A gentleman who stays with a pretty girl for an hour feels like a minute to him; It will feel longer than an hour. This is the theory of relativity." However, what Einstein wanted to explain was not just "the observer's perception of the passage of time, and the frame of reference is crucial", but went further " The mental state of the observer may be an additional factor in the perception of the passage of time."However, the so-called "frame of reference is crucial to the observer's perception of the passage of time" is taken for granted by Einstein, that is, what we just said "starting from everyone's feelings, time is not Constant speed, but accelerating", for many ordinary people, it has never been seriously considered.

As long as you are reading this text, if there is no accident, it can be inferred that your age should be at least 12 years old.Because generally speaking, around the age of 12 is the stage when the ability to understand abstract words really begins to develop.Therefore, when I heard the lyrics of Lao Lang's "You at the Same Table", it was impossible not to resonate-"At that time, the sky was always blue, and the days always passed too slowly".You must have experienced the feeling that Luo Dayou once had - "When can I have a mature and grown-up face like my senior classmates?" The existence of experience will greatly improve the ability to understand.However, when we were young, we felt that time was so slow and even unbearable, why is it that "time flies like water" now?

Psychologists can clearly explain, in a particularly simple, precise, and remarkably ingenious way, why time seems to pass faster and faster to everyone as we grow older. For a five-year-old child, the next year is equivalent to 20% of the life he has already spent; but for a fifty-year-old person, the next year is only equivalent to 20% of the life he has already spent. 1/50, or 2%.So, from a feeling point of view, time seems to speed up as we age. Early recognition of this fact is perhaps one of the most important things for any normal person.It is a pity that this is an experience that takes a long time to truly experience personally, and most people only have a deep understanding when they are thirty-four years old.However, by that time, this kind of "experience" has no chance for me to have any effect at all-because the best days are long gone.Therefore, no matter how rich and accurate this special experience is, it is unlikely to bring any relief to the experience gainer. What it can bring is more likely to be a heavier shackle-annoyance will always accompany them every time they do. in the process of things.In desperation, these people without exception want to pass on this valuable experience to their children, and the result is that almost without exception, it ends in failure as their own parents have tried--to add to the chagrin Endless annoyance and resentment.

The ability to reflect is almost unique to human beings.Because human beings have the ability of reflection, they gradually have another ability, the ability of analogy.The ability of analogy is the key to the level of understanding a person possesses.Therefore, when we understand new things, we often use reflection and analogy to existing experience.The existence of similar existing experience is likely to greatly improve our understanding of new things and new ideas. The saying "If the young don't work hard, the old will be sad" has been popular for thousands of years.It is very doubtful how much this sentence has increased the number of "young men working hard" or reduced the number of "old men who are sad" in the course of thousands of years.If it makes sense, why doesn't it always work?The reasonable explanation is that experience that takes too long to acquire is difficult to transfer because of the lack of existing experience as a support.The reason why it is extremely difficult for a child to truly understand the truth that "time will eventually get faster and faster" is because they not only do not have "similar existing experience", but also have the opposite "existing experience".

In fact, my observation is that almost all failures in youth education are caused by rude, simple and ignorant ignorance of the "existing experience" and "the role of existing experience" that children have.If you are a victim of educational failure, congratulations, and please thank me--this is really not a joke--because the little words just now have given you a rare and precious "rebirth" Chance".If you are already a parent, please, please go back and read the little text just now. With just a little more patience, you can start to try to use your mind. Both you and your children will just because you just Those few minutes of hard work and struggle are liberating.

The method of educating children is very simple.On a certain day, do something that impresses him very much.It could be telling a story, it could be an outing, it could even be buying a gift that surprises him -- it must impress him extremely anyway.Then, you record this matter clearly in your diary, of course including time, place and event, and then you must keep it properly.About two or three years later, when one day he began to feel and complain that time was too slow, pull out that record, show him, and let him experience it.There is only one key to this, patience.First of all, the best starting point should be around the age of seven; second, the focus should be at least two or three years later.Then in another three to five years, I will remind you again.Such an experience will not only make the child unforgettable forever, but also affect his accurate understanding of time throughout his life.Sooner or later, your children will be grateful and admiring for you for it.Because he will eventually understand that this precious "comparative advantage" cannot be measured by money at all-just look at how many people around us are at a loss and don't know about it, and you can easily imagine the result .

The next thing to understand is another more important truth, which is the title of this section - "The sooner you wake up, the better".Earlier, we have discussed the difference in mental power among people, what kind of life difference and time quality difference it will bring--only these four words are accurate: "incalculable". In fact, scientists have long given us a very reasonable and clear explanation.French physicist and mathematician Henri Poincare22 used his chaos theory to tell us that a very small difference in the initial conditions will lead to a very large difference in the final result.A small error in the former can lead to a huge error in the latter.In fact, in a sense, even linear relationships end up behaving the same, two rays starting from the same point, even if the directions differ by a little, then after the two lines extend infinitely, the distance between the ends of the two rays will also be the same. There is infinite distance.The ancients said that "a small loss can make a thousand miles" is a simple observation of this kind of phenomenon.

In the early 1960s, Edward Lorenz, a meteorologist at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, used the "Butterfly Effect" (Butterfly Effect) to vividly illustrate the core content of chaos - "sensitivity to initial conditions Sexual dependence"--"Whether a butterfly flaps its wings in one place on the earth will even affect whether a hurricane will occur in another place." There is also the trajectory of an ice hockey puck to illustrate "sensitivity dependence on initial conditions".If the angle at which the puck is placed initially changes even slightly, the difference in final position grows exponentially as the number of impacts increases.

Therefore, in the minds of those who can truly understand chaos theory, the so-called fate has another explanation.Differences in initial conditions lead to vastly different final results.Most people lack a complete understanding of this, and due to the limitations of their own perception, they can only attribute those regrets to "people plan things, and heaven to make things happen", or "sometimes there is a destiny, and there is no time to force it", or What is "fate to make people" and so on.However, people who have such feelings or thoughts do not know that they have had the opportunity to change the ending, but the property that time cannot be reversed has turned everything into an unchangeable established fact.

When I was a child, I read Su Dongpo's "Liuhou Lun", "The so-called heroes in ancient times must have the festival of surpassing others, and there are some people who can't bear it. When a man sees humiliation, he draws his sword and stands up to fight. This is not enough. It is brave; those who have great ambitions in the world will not be surprised when they come, and they will not be angry without reason. This means that those who are held hostage are great, and those with ambition are far away." After reading it, I just envy those heroes who can To reach such a high level, it is impossible to imagine how they did it.But now it seems that this explanation is quite simple: those heroes are people who have been awakened for a long time.Therefore, they can use the power of their minds to ignore the disturbances in front of them, and focus on the excitement many years later that others cannot see.

The past is gone and cannot be changed.The future can be changed -- by changing our starting conditions today.When we really use the power of our minds to seriously and correctly reflect on all the embarrassments we encounter in our lives, we will eventually find that most of them must be due to something we have done or missed in the past, either intentionally or unintentionally.So, in order to be correct in the future, we must try not to make mistakes today.Any small mistake today may be infinitely magnified in the future.This kind of cognition will change almost everything about us.Life is about choices, and the so-called choices are only the results of weighing them by the concepts one has.The ideas a person has are, to put it bluntly, the ultimate manifestation of mental power. To open your mind is to be reborn.Yet rebirth does not directly equate to happiness. Easier said than done.Thinking that "thinking" can only be learned through "thinking" many times, how difficult it is!Before you think about it, what fun is there in "thinking"?However, after thinking about it, we have to face the pain in the most direct way - it takes courage to accept the reality, because the reality is not what we thought at first, nor is it what we yearn for at any time.While the reality is difficult to accept, what is even more difficult to accept is the self who has been soaked in reality for many years without knowing it. Therefore, many people are afraid of thinking, and often say, "Why do you think so much, how tiring?" Then they live in the most tiring way in the world without knowing it.The great philosopher Russell once observed this phenomenon and was surprised by it. He sighed, "Many people would rather die than think." If you are reborn, you can properly use your mind and time to be friends, and build a new life with him with patience.No one can stop you from opening your mind.The most amazing thing is that the opening of a person's mind only needs a struggling thought.But just this thought is one of the most difficult things in the world.But let’s struggle, because no matter what, sooner or later we have to pay for our past, and we cannot escape. Einstein said, "We can't solve any problems at all with the same ideas that we made them."25 The sooner you wake up, the better.