Chapter 31 6.c Regarding tardiness

It is really embarrassing to be late accidentally.Some people tend to be late on purpose, using this boring method to show their importance, confidence or whatever.But if being late is not intentional, besides embarrassment, there are often many other losses, which may be financial, reputational, and some potential losses that cannot be seen at the time.Therefore, we should find ways to avoid unintentional lateness as much as possible, and everyone knows the benefits without saying much. 1. Develop the habit of regular life A regular life will naturally make it relatively easy for you to be punctual.Regular life does not mean that you have to be as mechanical as the soldiers in the barracks every year, every month, every day, every hour, and every moment.If you can set some major events in your life to be regular, then your whole life will be much more regular than most people.In fact, the main events of everyone's day are almost the same: sleep, eat, work, entertainment; if you have religious beliefs, you may also go to church or something.Among them, the fixed and regular sleep time is the most important.According to statistics, more than 65% of the late events are caused by "oversleeping".It is indeed difficult for many people to get up early, but it is relatively easy to develop the habit of getting up early.Thinking about and determining the most important things of the day every morning is very important for the completion of the day's work.And when there are one or two important appointments, it is necessary to determine the time and make corresponding records at this time.

2. Check your schedule at least three times a day Our brains are unreliable, and always far less reliable than we think they are.In order to avoid forgetting, we will write the summary date on paper or use other tools such as PDA, but even so, you may even forget to look at those records and lead to forgetting about an important event, And afterwards, not only regret it, but also incredible.The way to deal with this kind of embarrassment is to check your schedule at least three times a day, for example: once at 10 am, once at 2 pm, and finally at 10 pm.If you have developed the habit of recording important events that you need to deal with in the future, and check those records at least three times a day, slowly you will start to feel how pitiful, ridiculous, and unfortunate those people who are always late and feel guilty for it .

3. Assume that everything you do takes a little more time than you think. It is said that completing any task will actually take more time than originally planned - even if the planners clearly know this law exists from the beginning.If you have a small discussion with a colleague at 10:30 in the morning, and you think you can finish it in half an hour, so you set an appointment with another person at 11 o'clock, then you are very wrong up.Within half an hour of the original schedule, you usually find that the problem cannot be fully resolved - the colleague was late for 15 minutes, and you later found out that the colleague was not prepared in advance, so your original discussion can only be abandoned halfway; And what's even more irritating is having several phone calls in the middle of a conversation with you and there's nothing you can do about it, because then you also get a call, and the next date says on the phone that he's here, so you just have to Say "Okay, I'll..."

4. Assume that you will always be stuck in traffic. In modern cities, avoiding traffic jams is harder than farting.Think back to the last few times you've been late and you'll understand why people get somewhat or close to losing control when it comes to traffic jams.Therefore, if travel time is involved in the plan, be sure to estimate the travel time.In any case, there must be some countermeasures.If you are driving, it is best to bring audio books (Audio books) in the car; if you are always in the car like me, then bring a book that you haven't finished reading - in case of traffic jam, you can not waste it At the same time, since it is expected by the implementation, there is no need to be angry about it.In addition, if your itinerary even includes flying, then you need to know that the delay of the plane is not only very likely, but even more certain when you are in an emergency.Remember, the reason accidents always happen is definitely not because your luck is exceptionally bad, but often just because you are not thoughtful enough.

5. Assuming everyone else will be late At the appointed time, other people arrive first, which usually does not cause you any displeasure.However, as a rule of thumb, you'd better assume that everyone else will be late.If you have an appointment with more than one person, then you can be sure that at least one person will be late for a long time - try it if you don't believe me!So, in my mind, I have a friend who greatly admired me and later changed me because of him.When he apologized to him for my lateness, he said, "It's nothing, I guess you will be late. So, I checked the Internet in advance to find out what is around here, so I arrived an hour ago, but I didn't Don't worry, because there is an antique shop nearby, and I even bought this!" - He showed me the antique watch he just bought in his hand, smiling very brightly.

6. Try not to blame others for being late Believe me, everyone will be late.No one can never be late for a lifetime, if you have seen such a person please tell me - but I don't think you can prove it, because you have never stared at anyone for a lifetime; if you have heard of such a person, I Think it's just a legend.I just said that careful consideration will avoid accidents.Why do you need to blame others if you take into account that other people are bound to be late?No one is going to change just because you blame them - unless you are their leader or even in control of their destiny, but if that is the case, they will try their best not to be late.And, no matter how self-controlled you are, you'll still be magically late every now and then -- don't take my word for it.So don't take it lightly to taunt someone who is late -- even if you feel the need to.