Finally one day, I realized the preciousness of time.In an instant, countless troubles have been added like most people. Bookstores are always full of all sorts of "time management" books that mostly don't help - at least that's my own experience.I have read many books and tried many methods, but I am still exhausted every day.Facing the relentless passage of time, I am still helpless-like most people.The vicious circle has already begun: time is getting more and more precious, time is getting more and more urgent; Too little too little. Finally, one day, when I realized how ridiculous the term "time management" is, I was 35 years old-fortunately, it was not too late.

"Managing time", or "time management" is just wishful thinking of many people in a sense, because time will not and has never obeyed anyone's "management".No one can slow down the passage of time, and no one can make time slip away faster.Not even God can do that.It is said that he created everything in the world in six days, and then rested on the seventh day.If he can slow down time, maybe Genesis only takes one day, why so many days?If he could make time go faster -- what's the point to God of going faster? People can certainly invent more accurate time measurement tools.However, from ancient Chinese sundials, ancient Egyptian water timepieces, to later hourglasses and modern mechanical clocks, to the common electronic watches and quartz clocks, to the highest precision atomic clocks and optical clocks, we are just manufacturing More accurate clocks, we never had the opportunity to change any aspect of time.

Finally, I said to myself, "Admit it, you can't do anything about the passage of time." In that moment of awakening, I was reborn from the ashes like the phoenix nirvana-this statement is somewhat hypocritical, but it is indeed too accurate And irreplaceable. In the surprise of rebirth, there was also some frustration.Because, this should be something I already knew. When I was in sales many years ago, I told the people in the team, "The reason why the best salesmen are the best is that they will choose products."Because, if a product can really meet people's real needs and sell it at the right price, then in theory all "sales skills" are unnecessary, as long as it is properly and clearly displayed.A product that needs to be "sold" is usually not a good product.

Later, when I was teaching writing, I told my students, "You have to think clearly before you can write clearly." Because when you write an article, you express your thoughts in words.If one's thinking is complete and arguments are clear, then only the simplest task remains: to express existing thoughts in plain, simple, concise, and effective language.Articles that need to use "gorgeous rhetoric" before they can be "handled" are usually not good articles. Later, when I was doing teacher training, I told those teachers, "Do you want applause? First go and find out what the audience thinks." I gave them a demonstration.I stood on the stage, and there were more than 500 students below.I opened my mouth and said: "No one likes exams, because all exams are—too perverted!" After a dozen words, there was already thunderous applause.I went on to say, "However, you may not know that I am also very perverted-because I actually like perverted exams pervertedly...because if I fail such perverted exams, I might really be perverted... "Again thunderous applause.It's not because I'm rhetorical, or because I have any special presentation skills, it's just because I know my audience so I can speak for them.

All of what I've said in the past is based on the same way of thinking -- problem solving must be more than superficial.There is a line in Cui Jian's "Like a Knife": "At this time, my heart is like a knife, it will go through your throat and kiss your lungs..." When solving problems, we must use With such an attitude, it is often necessary to go through the throat of the question and explore its lungs to find the answer. I finally understand why so many texts I've read in the past that "feel reasonable" end up "not feeling helpful".Maybe I was misled, maybe I was too dull in the past, I didn't realize that the focus of "management" should not be time at all, but myself!The methods in many time management books I have read in the past must be, at least should be useful-like tools in the hands of a craftsman, it is impossible not to be useless.Those masters in martial arts novels can sweep the world with a branch in their hands; but for a person who has no power to restrain a chicken, what is the use of giving him a general or Mo Xie?

Once you get to the root of the problem, there is real hope. Li Xiaolai Beijing in the winter of 2007