Chapter 99 TECHNIQUE 89 Leave a way out for the caged rat
The best example of this kind of mercy happened to a client of mine.She was invited to lunch at the home of a socialite, whom we shall call "Mrs. Stephanie."Mrs. Stephanie is very wealthy, and her home is filled with exquisite works of art.Among the highlights that attracted the attention of the guests were a series of exquisite works of art by the late Russian artist Faberge.
After an exquisite lunch with champagne, my client walked to the door and chatted with a few other guests.At this moment, Mrs. Stephanie approached a guest who was leaving and said, "I'm so glad you admire my art egg so much," then reached into the guest's coat pocket and pulled out a priceless art egg. . "You must want to enjoy it in the sun. Come, let's take a look. In the sun, it will reflect beautiful light and shadow."
Startled, the well-dressed thief looked around guiltily to see if anyone had noticed that she had been caught.My client and everyone in the hall witnessed what happened, but everyone cooperated with Mrs. Stephanie and pretended not to notice the theft.
In order to make the trick more realistic, Mrs. Stephanie and the guest who was caught face-to-face really "appreciated in the sun".Mrs. Stephanie then took the Art Egg back into her hand and went inside to put the thing back in place.The guest who had attempted pickpocketing had to climb back into the car dejectedly, never to be able to attend Mrs. Stephanie's exquisite dinner again.The hostess let the thief go mercilessly, and saved her self-respect.
Why can Mrs. Stephanie be a social master?For everyone who saw—or later heard about—the theft had a new respect for her.Mrs. Stephanie can outsmart the thief, but retain her dignity for her. No wonder everyone regards her as "the most artful hostess".
If you catch someone lying, stealing, exaggerating, twisting, or cheating, don't call them out.Unless your job is to identify or correct the criminal—or you must expose him to protect other innocent people—make sure the caged mouse has a small hole to get out.From then on, I made up my mind not to associate with this person again.
Now we're going to talk about how to keep others doing things securely and stay connected, while still keeping the best for you.
If you catch someone lying, stealing, exaggerating, twisting, or cheating, don't call them out.Unless your job is to identify or correct the criminal—or you must expose him to protect other innocent people—make sure the caged mouse has a small hole to get out.From then on, I made up my mind not to associate with this person again.
Now we're going to talk about how to keep others doing things securely and stay connected, while still keeping the best for you.