Chapter 65 TECHNIQUE 58 Boomerang Movement
A few months ago, in my workshop, the students were discussing the art of praise.One guy insisted that "girls don't like to take compliments".
"What don't women like?" I asked him in disbelief.
He explained, "I once said to a woman that she had beautiful eyes. She said to me, 'You are blind.'" The poor man was deeply hurt by the woman's reaction.Once bitten by a snake, he was afraid of grass ropes for ten years, and since then he has never complimented any woman.For a woman, this is a pity, and for him, it is tantamount to limiting his social skills.
When receiving a compliment, many people do more than say a shy "thank you."To make matters worse, someone retorted, "Not really, but thanks anyway." Some people responded, "Just luck." All of the above are insults to the well-intentioned flatterer, you're insulting him. Judgment.
The French thought of a universal expression.When receiving compliments, they say "That's a very kind of you to say".If an American says, "You're so considerate," it's a bit genteel, like the flower girl in the movie "My Fair Lady" learning social etiquette.However, we can use the following boomerang movement trick.
After throwing a boomerang, it turns 180 degrees in the air and flies back to your feet.Likewise, when someone compliments you, you want to return that good feeling to him.Don't just say "thank you" or "nothing".Let the other person know your appreciation, and try to compliment his compliment.To give a few examples:
She says, "I love these shoes." You respond, "Oh, I'm so glad you told me I just bought them."
He said, "You've done a good job with that plan." You replied, "Oh, that's very kind of you to say that. I appreciate your affirmation."
You can also send good feelings back when someone shows concern, asks about your family, a case at hand, a particular event, or anything else.
A colleague asks: "Did you enjoy your vacation to Hawaii?" You answer: "Do you still remember that I went to Hawaii? It was a pleasure, thank you."
The boss asked: "Is the cold gone?" You replied: "Thank you for your concern, I am much better now."
A compliment or a concern from others has brought sunshine to you, please reflect the sunshine to them at the right time.
A boomerang is thrown and returns to the thrower's feet.Compliments should also be sent back to the other party like a boomerang.Learn the French and say something like "It's very nice of you".
The study of compliments is coming to an end.I hope readers can accurately aim at the heart of the interviewee.Whether the technique you use is the glorious mission of the carrier pigeon or the art of killing praise, the next technique can make you hit the target and win the other party's heart.
A boomerang is thrown and returns to the thrower's feet.Compliments should also be sent back to the other party like a boomerang.Learn the French and say something like "It's very nice of you".
The study of compliments is coming to an end.I hope readers can accurately aim at the heart of the interviewee.Whether the technique you use is the glorious mission of the carrier pigeon or the art of killing praise, the next technique can make you hit the target and win the other party's heart.