The partner said calmly and frankly: "Yes, I have never opened a related clinic before, nor have I cooperated with anyone." Me: "Oh... Then why are you interested in me? How can you be sure that there will be a tacit understanding between us, and it will be enough to support the operation of a clinic?" The partner smiled: "I can't see the wrong person, or I can see people very accurately." Me: "If you look at it from a psychological point of view, what you said is very unprofessional..." The partner nodded in agreement: "Very unprofessional."

Me: "...well, I haven't finished. On the other hand, maybe you learned something professionally that made you make this decision, but you didn't say it." The partner seemed very happy: "You have this kind of analytical ability, it proves that I am not wrong, right? And you guessed it, I do see some qualities in you that I do not have, so That’s why I think we’re a good fit to be partners.” Me: "Hmm... Thanks for the compliment, can you give me an example? I don't want to hear your compliment directly, but I need to judge whether what you said is correct. Maybe what you see is just an illusion, because in contact with strangers Or someone we don’t know very well, we usually put on a mask.”

The partner nodded, leaned forward, put the fingertips of both hands together, and looked at me: "I am the kind of person who seems to be more active, but in fact I am negative and pessimistic, so most of the time, I use a You are relatively less calm than me. Although it seems to be the opposite, your superficial calmness just reveals your lack of confidence in your own stability. But it is not important, what is important is that you Being able to realize my own problems and find a good way to deal with them is what I don’t have. Maybe I know more and more complicated, but when dealing with problems, especially those sudden problems, You must be able to handle it better. Although you may also have some surprises, you will not show it. This is the result of your restraint. I do not have this quality. I know more, so Once something unexpected happened to me, I would be a little bit at a loss—because I thought I was careful, but there was an accident...you understand what I mean?"

Although I don't know whether his analysis of himself is correct, his observation and analysis of me are very precise.So, I nodded. He looked at me with a smile: "You see, the situation is like this, it's not complicated, right? I told you all." I couldn't help but look at him again, because he surprised me. This strange guy in front of me had been lobbying me about two hours ago to be his partner because he wanted to open a hypnosis-qualified psychiatric practice.At first, I didn't pay much attention to what he said, because in the years of being a teaching assistant in school, too many classmates and colleagues mentioned it to me, but I couldn't explain why, I didn't have the slightest interest in it, so I declined all of them. up.However, seeing him in front of me made me somewhat shaken.It's not just because of what he said, but also because of how I feel about him—I can't say, but I think it would be interesting to work with him, and I would encounter more interesting things.That would be something I didn't have access to before, although I didn't know what would happen.In fact, I never thought that people with such interesting personalities existed.On the one hand, he looks like a big boy, with frankness and clarity that adults don't have; on the other hand, he has extremely keen observation and terrible analysis ability-only a careful person can do this .After a preliminary judgment, I think he is a person with a simple life and a complicated personality, and he has amazing talents beyond my reach-I mean in the field of psychology.

I thought about it: "So, besides what you said, is there anything else?" He didn't even think about it: "Of course!" I was surprised that he answered so briskly: "Oh...for example?" He: "I don't have the qualifications for hypnosis, but you do." Me: "I... don't mean this." He: "Oh? Well... that's gone, but..." how do I?" He: "I want to say, do you really intend to continue to be a teaching assistant? Don't you really want to give it a try? Maybe there will be more cases for your reference, maybe there will be knowledge that you can't learn from books and theory , maybe you will experience something beyond your imagination, and it will probably change your life.”

After a long silence, I told him that I need to think about it. He nodded and didn't go on talking, but started chatting about other topics all over the place. A week later, we met again at this cafe.I didn't hesitate anymore, but directly gave him an affirmative answer. After hearing this, he first raised a smile at the corner of his mouth, then grinned and stretched out a hand: "Partner?" I nodded and stretched out my hand: "Yes, partner." Looking back, it's been 5 years since this happened.