Chapter 43 Expressing love can save parents from rushing to get married

There was once a male student who came to work in Beijing from another place. He was the only child in his family. His career had improved. He was nearly 30 years old, unmarried and had no girlfriend. Looking at his age in Beijing, it is normal for him to be unmarried in his thirties, but it is not good in his hometown. Men of his age in his hometown basically have children who are soy sauce. This is very urgent. Especially the mother, who called almost once a week, urging her son to find someone to marry early, but found that the urging for a period of time had no effect at all, and the mother called more often.

After a while, the mother found that there was still no effect, so she became even more anxious. She simply bought a train ticket and came to Beijing to supervise her son's search for a partner. However, finding a partner is not something that can be done in a day and a half. Still "disobedient", my mother was very anxious, it doesn't matter if she is anxious, she began to have some pain in her chest, and there was something wrong with her heart. When my son came to my class, his mother had a heart problem. After he learned how to express love, he went home and told his mother a meal. The mother's condition improved quickly, and she decided to go back to her hometown to wait for her son. According to the news, he no longer stays in Beijing every day to urge his son to get married.

What did the son say to the old mother?The old man's thoughts were reversed so quickly. This starts with the mother calling in her hometown. The mother calls every day in her hometown to urge her son to get married. The phone is useless, I'm an adult, I won't listen to you." From the mother's point of view, calling her son is to hope that the son will pay attention to this matter, and speed up his pace to get married early. The son's words make the mother feel that it is invalid to use the phone to urge her son to get married. The son She didn't start to speed up her pace because of her phone call, so my mother had to step up her behavior, that is, to come to Beijing to supervise.

After coming to Beijing, I urged my son every day, but my son still said the same thing, and my mother found that his behavior was still ineffective, so she became anxious, which eventually led to a heart attack. In fact, the mother’s phone call is useful to the son. When he received the mother’s phone call, the son was very anxious, and he has already started to speed up his pace. In addition to going to dating websites every day, he also often participates in dating activities, but he did not take it seriously. I told my mother what I felt in my heart and what I did, which made my mother think that my phone number was invalid, so she came to Beijing.

When the mother came to Beijing, the son still did not tell the mother how he felt and what he had done, which made the mother continue to think that his behavior was still invalid, and finally made the mother anxious and fell ill. Later, this student learned how to express his feelings and thoughts, and when he got home, he told his mother: "Mom, I know that you are doing this for my own good. I know you are very anxious, and I am also very anxious. I spend every day on the Internet. Looking for a partner, participating in dating activities, and even enrolling in a training class to learn how to fall in love, don't worry, I will seize the time to find you a satisfactory daughter-in-law."

The son told his mother how he felt, that is, "he is also very anxious", and told his mother what he did every day and his determination for the future. The mother immediately found that her behavior was effective, and her needs were met. I no longer rush to urge my son, feel relieved, and my illness is much better. Originally, I came to Beijing to urge my son to find someone to marry. Now that the effect has come out, there is no need to continue to stay in Beijing. Mother just went home. This is the role of expressiveness. A few seemingly simple words can play a big role, let the mother know the mood of the son, and then stop worrying about the son, and let the mother's body recover!