Chapter 25 Yang earth character

When I was in junior high school, my father suffered from kidney stones, severe pain in the waist, unable to drink water, and constipation. After being delayed at home for several days, he was sent to the hospital in the town, which was next to our school.I went to see him between classes and saw him gritted his teeth in pain, sweating profusely, and was terrified.But my father said to me: "Don't worry, go back to class. I'm fine. This is a modern hospital, and modern medical skills can save me!" I immediately calmed down.My father had great confidence in "modern medical skills", and he passed this confidence on to me.It was this strength of faith that kept Dad going.In fact, in those days, a small township hospital did not have any "modern medical skills"!

Confidence is the foundation of doing anything. Only with confidence can we have passion, strength and perseverance.Without confidence and doubts, not only will you not be able to do anything well, but it will also increase your psychological pressure on yourself.The same is true for healing.No matter what kind of treatment, if you are full of confidence and hope in it, the disease will get better quickly, otherwise, the disease will get worse. There is an anthropologist in Europe, in order to study witchcraft, he went deep into the barbarians and learned from wizards.The wizard will use witchcraft to cure the disease. At the end of the healing ceremony, he will spit out a mouthful of blood, with a few feathers mixed in the blood, which means that the disease was killed by him, and the patient will be cured.The anthropologist later discovered that the wizard didn't have that great ability to bite the sick man until the hair was bloody. He just had a few feathers in his mouth beforehand, and then he bit his own tongue in pain.But many patients have been cured by his ritual.How is this going?In fact, wizards use "faith" to generate the confidence of the patient, gain the power to cure the disease, and make the disease heal itself.Therefore, even Tiao Dashen may cure certain diseases, as long as the patient believes deeply.Unbelief, of course, will only aggravate his pain, fear and boredom.

Some scholars have studied modern medicine from the perspective of witchcraft and rituals. The famous anthropologist Mr. Wang Mingming, professor of Sociology Department of Peking University, said in a lecture: In modern society, hospitals are so developed, and they are constantly "reforming" Today, the hospital has become a highly developed system of beliefs and rituals, leading us to believe that any local problem in our body must be solved through it.In fact, is it possible to solve it?It's actually hard.So, I say, it's a symbol of faith.In today's world, three to four million people die of colds every year. What are the hospitals doing?The conclusion is very simple. A hospital that cannot even cure a cold must have other types of "existence value" besides treating diseases.As an expert system to overcome individual risks, institutions such as hospitals are another authoritative system that replaces the traditional social destiny system.People used to say that those who control destiny also control life, but now it is different, those who control knowledge control life.This is what people believe.

It is indeed a three-pointer!Therefore, in the introduction of the hospital, we always heard how many doctors and doctors they have, and how many advanced detection and treatment equipment imported from abroad; I saw some malignant skin diseases before and after treatment posted on the corridor of a hospital not long ago comparison chart.All of these are an integral part of the hospital's treatment ritual, which, intentionally or unintentionally, enhances the patient's confidence. Our current patients have better conditions for treatment, but they no longer have confidence in hospitals and doctors.I always think that there are better, bigger and higher-level hospitals, and I have no confidence in the hospital I am in.If the doctor is young, he is afraid that he is inexperienced; if the doctor is a little older, he is afraid that his thinking will be inflexible and his methods will be outdated.A patient with a little more knowledge may even doubt medicine, thinking that Western medicine treats the symptoms but not the root cause, and that strong doses of medicine can hurt people's vitality. If you have a headache, treat your head and feet and treat your feet; let him treat it with Chinese medicine, and he said Chinese medicine is unreasonable, Those who are successful are like the hair of an ox, and those who succeed are rare", good doctors are rare... This kind of people's disease is more difficult to treat.

How much can our mind believe and accept?This matter concerns the space of the soul, and also involves the size of wisdom.The larger the spiritual space, the more things that can be accepted, and the greater the capacity to accommodate people. This is what it means to "push a boat in the prime minister's belly".Being too narrow-minded is not conducive to health preservation. I once asked someone whether he believed in ghosts in the world. He didn't answer directly, but said: "My heart always has room for the unknown world." The answer is very good!Not only did it fit my heart, but it taught me a way to express myself.The human mind will be richer if it can always leave room for the unknown.

People who say "I believe..." have a much richer spiritual world than people who say "I don't believe...". I believe in the truth of historical records, in the sages of Confucius and Mencius, in the achievements of Ming emperors and ministers, and in the selflessness and sincerity of scholars throughout the ages... So, when I read their stories, I will be moved and will Let yourself be like them, with righteousness, sincerity, self-cultivation, family harmony, and the ambition to establish morality, meritorious service, and words. Emotions emerge.People who don't have this space in their hearts will laugh out loud.

I believe that there are ghosts and gods in this world, I believe that people will have past lives and afterlife, heaven and hell, I believe that good and evil will have retribution, and I believe in the wisdom of Buddha... So, I will learn from Buddha to tolerate the world and benefit all beings; I know that even in the dark In the hut, there will be countless pairs of kind eyes, looking at me like a father looks at his son, which moves me and makes me cautious; I will wear a string of Buddhist beads given to me by the master on my wrist, and experience it with my heart. My blessing is to overcome laziness and be more diligent; I will make a vow to help others, teach others to be kind, form good relationships in life and life, and prepare for becoming a Buddha... With such a space in the mind, religion will appear.People who do not have this space in their hearts will become shallow.

I believe in the wisdom of the ancients, and in the connection between heaven and man.I believe that in addition to the atomic and mathematical way of thinking, there is also the way of thinking of the five elements and eight trigrams; I believe in the diagnosis of diseases by modern technology, and I also believe in the knowledge of traditional Chinese medicine; Things get the bias of heaven and earth, so herbs can cure diseases.I believe even more in divination, astrology, reading astrology, reading Chinese characters, helping spirits to ask immortals... This is a larger spiritual space... People who do not have this space in their hearts, and those whose hearts are always limited to "science" will never understand.

If there are differences among people, then the difference lies first in the mind, and the difference in the mind lies in the size of its space. "Big and transformed is called holy." What is big?It can be understood as a big heart.The space of the sage's mind is infinite and omnipotent.It is precisely because of this that he has wisdom and can see clearly.Confucius said that a gentleman "fears the words of a sage", not only because of reverence, but also if a sage criticizes me, it means that my heart still has a place that I can't reach, and there are narrow obstacles, which is exactly what a gentleman fears.The less room there is in the heart, the easier it is to laugh at the saints.Just like for a computer with small memory and hard disk, many high-end software cannot be configured, and many files cannot be run, which are all waste.

Therefore, when we "doubt" something, we should have a big "faith" as the background and a rich spiritual world as the backing.Gu Jiegang said: "Doubt is learning", but that is academic learning.I want to say: "Believe is wisdom." The kingdom of the mind needs to expand its territory infinitely, so that the sunshine of wisdom can flow freely, thoughts can run wild, and the wild horses of the spirit can gallop freely. Confucius said, a person stands at thirty.Thirty is a new stage of life. After fifteen years of study and accumulation between the ages of fifteen and thirty, one must understand "Li" from the age of thirty.The ancients said that they did not mean starting a family and starting a business, but that people at the age of 30 should be able to rely on their own abilities to independently fulfill their own responsibilities, and have determined their own life goals and development directions.This requires transformation, that is, to apply the knowledge and principles learned in the past fifteen years to your own life and work.

We know that among the five elements, wood governs growth, fire governs growth, and earth governs transformation. That is to say, soil transports and transforms everything that grows.Soil can be transported and transformed, so all things are born on earth. 30-45 years old, these fifteen years are the time for transformation.Whether a person can achieve success in his career depends on these fifteen years.How can we make the "fire give birth to earth" and transform the learning and accumulation before the age of 30 into career and achievements after the age of 30? First of all, at the age of thirty, you should let yourself settle down, take root in the ground under your feet, bury your complaints and unsatisfactory in the soil, and release your energy silently.Until one day, you will find that you have become deeply rooted and leafy, and you are an independent sky.Thirty-year-olds need to cultivate a Yang-earth character, be down-to-earth and stable.During this period of time, you can no longer be as wild as you were when you were in your twenties, and embrace those unrealistic dreams.Instead, let your heart settle down, find what you are best at, and develop your career little by little.No matter what time it is, there are very few pies in the sky.Therefore, when you are thirty, you should work hard for the rest of your life. Secondly, everyone has a general direction of career development before the age of thirty. When you are thirty, you should have your own clear goals and work hard for them.You must know that the prime time for a man to work is only fifteen years, and at the age of forty-five, maybe his career will be finalized.So men at this stage should learn to tolerate like the land.This is not only to be tolerant and tolerant of others, but also to accommodate more knowledge related to one's own career.The strongest time for people to learn is not when they are students, but when they are thirty to forty years old.Because at this time, the work pressure and competition pressure you are facing are strong, and the reality forces you to study hard.The ancients said that "tolerance is great", if a person understands tolerance in life and tolerance in work at the age of thirty, then his career will definitely develop well. Again, at the age of thirty, you have to know how to transform, not just study.You can see that the earth is like this. On the one hand, it accepts everything tolerantly, and on the other hand, after a period of time, it transforms what it accepts in another way.Flowers and trees will grow on the ground, and rainwater will also be turned into groundwater, or transpired into water vapor to turn into rain, and then fall.So when you are thirty, you have to transform your previous accumulation into your career.The more you have accumulated before, the more you will transform after the age of thirty, there is no doubt about it. But if you don’t accumulate much before the age of 30, what should you do?It doesn't matter, we can also turn to the cultivation of Yangtu's personality after the age of thirty. As long as you are hardworking, honest and trustworthy, don't complain when things happen, and be tolerant of others, you can still turn knowledge and accumulation into success as much as possible career.Success is not difficult, what is difficult is to always be unswerving and steadfast in the direction of success.This is also the advantage of Yangtu character. The Chinese pay attention to respecting the old and caring for the young.During festivals and family reunions, the old man always sits in the middle.That's right, the elderly live in the earth position at home, and the corresponding position is the middle.What the elderly in a family need most is Tude, that is, Yangtu character. We are always amazed at the magic of the land, a good land always accepts anything that is given to it.Irrigate it with water, and it will absorb conservation; sprinkle it with seeds, and it will grow and germinate; throw some waste items, and it will also absorb transformation.As the elderly in the family, they should also be like the soil, able to tolerate everything and allow the family to live with peace of mind. First of all, we must be able to tolerate and trust children.The children may be better than themselves in all aspects. Of course, this is what the old man is most happy to see. If this is the case, no matter what the children do outside, the old man should not worry about them. Don't worry about them doing well.If your child is not as good as yourself in some aspects, don't worry, let alone force it. After all, a person's ability is great or small, and he can do as much as he has ability. This is the happiest thing.When children grow up and have their own way of life, the elderly should not put too much pressure on the children. Secondly, it is to deal with the conflicts between the children and be fair.It is normal for children to have some big or small contradictions.Children's conflicts often come to the elderly, and the elderly should judge and judge. At this time, the elderly should be fair, truly act as a middleman, and be in the middle, and never be biased.Once you are biased, you yourself will be involved in the children's conflicts. In this way, not only will you not be able to solve the conflicts, but it will further deepen the conflicts, and you will lose your prestige. Again, the old man is still the "middle breath" of the family.People need to be full of spirit, and the same is true for families.The elders of the family are upright, kind, fair, and highly respected, so the children and grandchildren will feel more confident outside. Just like the soil in the middle, the old man in the family is also the key to a family's happiness.If the old man is tolerant and understanding, those who are in the golden position at home will be very happy. This is called soil can produce gold.Therefore, when the elderly retire at home, they should stop taking care of everything and ask questions.The kids are all grown up and they will take care of their own affairs. Usually the most common thing is that the relationship between the old man and his daughter-in-law is not good. This is because the soil restrains the water.Restriction is not always a bad thing, "restriction" is actually a kind of restriction more often.In a family, the elderly need more of a Yangtu character, to tolerate and understand the difficulties and sufferings of their daughter-in-law, and to be able to treat her like their own children; You can turn a blind eye and close one eye, you don't have to ask one by one, and you don't have to be too serious.Because there are two generations after all, there will naturally be many differences. But to be a daughter-in-law needs to have a Yangshui personality.If a daughter-in-law is considerate and considerate when encountering problems, she will naturally have fewer conflicts with the elderly.How can a gentle and understanding daughter-in-law not be liked?Therefore, if the elder has many Yang-earth characters and the daughter-in-law has many Yang-shui characters, there will be no unfavorable conflict between them. As for the old man and the eldest son in the family, the eldest son is a tree, and the wood overcomes the soil, so what should we say?This is because the eldest son in the family grows up, which also means that the old man is getting old, that's all.Of course, it depends to a large extent on the son, who is the head of the family, for the elderly to have a sufficient Yang-earth personality. If the head of the family is sensible and promising, then the elderly will naturally be more likely to settle in the earth position. earth. In the Christian world, because Judas wore yellow clothes, people didn't like yellow very much.In Islam, yellow represents "death" and is a symbol of bad luck.However, in Asian countries, like China, India, Malaysia and other countries, yellow is considered a symbol of nobility and is highly respected, especially China.There is probably no country that worships and loves yellow as much as China.Since the Song Dynasty, bright yellow has been used as a special color for emperors, and even ordinary people cannot use it.Palaces and temples are also decorated in yellow to set off the solemnity and solemnity; they even use the Yellow River to name their own mother river. The Chinese people's worship of yellow should originate from the "respect for the soil" thought of ancient farming civilization.According to the Chinese theory of yin and yang, yellow is soil among the five elements, and this kind of soil is the "central soil" in the center of the universe. When placed among the five elements, "soil is the respect".In the minds of people at that time, China was a great empire in the position of "central land".But when we get to the bottom of it, Chinese people like yellow because it is a bright and brilliant color.This color is bright and energetic, reminiscent of the image of the sun shining and warm, which is directly related to the optimistic psychology of Chinese people. In nature, winter jasmine, wintersweet, roses, tulips, autumn chrysanthemums, rapeseed flowers, sunflowers, etc. among flowers all present bright and dazzling yellow.The lemon, pear, and melon in the fruit make the yellow full of sweet appetite, and they all contain β-carotene, which can improve the body's immune function and protect the heart.From the perspective of color psychology, yellow has good visibility, and it is more eye-catching when matched with black. It is used as the color of danger warning signs or attention signs.In addition, yellow also represents gold and is a symbol of wealth. Colors are often used to describe moods, for example green is associated with jealousy and blue with depression.But in turn, mood really affects a person's preference for color.British researchers found that depressed people prefer gray, while happy people prefer yellow.According to the researchers, gray signifies the dark side of the mind, colorless is associated with monotonous life, gloom, misery or indifference, while yellow is associated with joy, joy and positive emotional states. People who like yellow are rational and self-motivated.Hate the same and like new things, love to study.In short, people who like yellow are definitely a "challenger".They have unique personalities and are often the central figures in the crowd.In terms of business, they have unique ideas, the ability and drive to succeed.People who like yellow are mostly idealists, good at making various plans, and can realize them step by step. Even if you like yellow, if you use it too much, it can easily cause anxiety or offend others.Yellow can improve people's attention in a short period of time, but too much yellow can be counterproductive.Too much use of yellow in upholstery or clothing can cause over-excitement and can also have a bad effect.Yellow is best used for accents or in combination with other colors. The French painter Vincent van Gogh loved yellow all his life, and his masterpiece "The Sower", many of his works are shrouded in the atmosphere of yellow.In the town of Arles, Van Gogh's hometown in southern France, Van Gogh and his friend Gauguin once lived in the "yellow house".But as we all know, Van Gogh was a mentally ill patient. It can be said that he was a talented painter who was poisoned by yellow. In life, we must know how to use bright yellow to create a simple and happy life.People who like yellow are always optimistic, no matter what difficulties they encounter, they will laugh it off, strong and fearless.