Chapter 12 wooden character story

Yinmu has a troublesome personality, and when people get angry, we often can't directly persuade them.It is useless for someone to lose his temper and you keep saying "don't be angry, don't be angry"; it is even more difficult for a person who likes to get angry to get rid of his temper. He will get angry when encountering things, even if you usually No matter how much you persuade.Moreover, he encounters many things that make him angry. He will say: "Why do I like to be angry? Obviously they make me angry!" Instead of reflecting on himself, he shifts the responsibility to others.How to persuade and treat such a person?

Yinmu's character is the most difficult to persuade, because the biggest characteristic of Yinmu is that he doesn't accept others, no matter what you say, he refuses to accept, and even thinks: what are you?Why do you use those benevolence, righteousness and morality to teach me?So even more angry.So with this kind of person, you can't be confrontational. The more he refuses to obey, the more I persuade him, and the more I persuade him, the more he refuses to obey.At this time, the yang wood character can be used to correct the yin wood character.Yangmu is characterized by benevolence, so we might as well arouse its benevolence directly.

Some time ago, I was having dinner with my friends. During the dinner, I met a tall and thin lady. Her complexion was not very good, and blue veins could be clearly seen on her arms.Because many of you here are medical students, this lady mentioned that she had a liver tumor last year, but fortunately it was benign and has been cured now.But she was still very worried, afraid that she would commit another crime, and even more afraid that it would become a malignant tumor. "I also know how I got this disease," she said, "It's all caused by my factory. In the first two years, when I first started, I worked day and night, working hard. Although it is doing well now , but it is still very tiring. From production to sales, I have to watch and manage it inside and out. When employees come to me, there must be something difficult to solve. Otherwise, he will not come to me if he can solve it himself. There are difficult and worrying things all day long, how can we not avoid tumors." She also said that in fact, she is a protective umbrella of the factory, putting a lot of pressure on the employees, and her pressure is greater than anyone else, so I really worry about her body Can't stand it.At that time, someone asked, "Are you often angry?" She admitted, and said, it's impossible not to be angry, she was anxious, and she couldn't control it.Although we told her that "anger hurts the liver", she didn't listen.I always hope that someone here can prescribe some medicine for her, or give her some advice on medicinal diet and health preservation.

I asked, "Do you make the workers in your factory work overtime?" She said: "Of course I have to work overtime, otherwise the work will not be finished. It's okay. Our factory is full of migrant workers from the countryside. Anyway, they are fine after work. It's better to do more." Arrange some relatively large tasks after get off work or on weekends, so that workers can take the initiative to work overtime. "They don't need so many holidays. And I work overtime with them. I'm not lazy," she said. I said, "I know how you got this disease. It's not because you're tired. You're so tired when you manage such a small factory. What about the bosses of those big companies? Those state leaders, who manage the whole country, can't do it." Exhausted?"

At this time, her expression was a little bit wrong, as if she was dissatisfied.I simply continued: "I think you lack compassion. When you say that people don't need holidays, you're taking their own interests for granted. They also want to rest a little longer and go shopping in Beijing. Or talk about a relationship, drink some wine, etc. Are you angry when you try your best to make employees work overtime? If you tire them, they will tire you, so when there is trouble, they don’t use their brains and have to come to you. But you like to control. You make them angry and they will make you angry, although sometimes it is not on purpose. They are physically and mentally exhausted because of you, and they may not be in good health. You have to suffer this retribution. You can’t bear it alone. Come on, your husband and children have to suffer too!"

I deliberately made my words a little more intense, but this last sentence actually moved her.She said, indeed, her husband and son are not in good health, and the son is not obedient. It is the entanglement of family affairs and factory affairs that makes her so physically and mentally exhausted. I said: "These bad things are all caused by you. After you go back, don't work overtime and see if the factory will fail? Don't think that you are everyone's umbrella. You can convince others with virtue and let everyone I like to take on the affairs of the factory with you. This way you will not be so angry, and your husband and son will get better in all aspects."

She went back and did so.Two weeks later, she called me very happily, saying that she felt much more relaxed, and the production volume in the factory was not lower than before; moreover, because she spent more time at home, the atmosphere in her home also improved, and her son also I am more obedient. When a person is angry, it is all his own making.Yinmu lacks compassion, only knows himself, not others, and does things regardless of other people's feelings, taking things for granted.Therefore, when the female factory manager chatted during the meeting, she did not forget to say that she is the "protective umbrella" of the factory. In fact, if the factory manager does not act as the protective umbrella, who will?Is there any need to emphasize this matter?She always thinks that workers don’t need to rest, which is even more impersonal. The factory manager is impersonal, and the employees must be impersonal to the factory manager, so there are many things in the factory that make her angry.Therefore, the ancients said that people with Yinmu personality are prone to "difficulties".In the situation in the factory and at home, it is easy to go wrong.Maybe a worker got tired and bored and neglected his duties; maybe the husband sulked when his wife didn't come home, and his health deteriorated; maybe the child got into trouble outside.The root cause of all this lies with her, and she has to take care of it all by herself; surrounded by people who need to be beaten, how can she not be angry?Helping her find the root of her anger in herself is the foundation of her health care.

A person will not stay in a small factory all his life, and he has to face many situations. How to make every situation happy for him?How to make no one or anything make him angry?It depends on how much compassion and benevolence he has.And this feeling needs to be cultivated.