Chapter 34 the mystery of love

Regarding the mystery of love, I have given a hint before: love is a mysterious theme.The mystery of love has hitherto been neglected.I have answered many questions about love, but some questions are still difficult to answer. For example, where does love come from?Why do some people always lack the feeling of love?Lack of love is the main cause of mental illness, and love is an important element in promoting psychotherapy.That being the case, why do some people grow up in an environment without love, often suffer from neglect and abuse by others, but spend their childhood and adolescence in a healthy way?When they grow up, even if they have not received psychotherapy and received more love, they still grow up healthy and comfortable, even close to perfection?At the same time, why are some people not sicker than others, and treated by the wisest and most caring physicians, and never get better?

I will try to answer these questions in later chapters.Perhaps my answer will not satisfy everyone (including myself), but I hope it will be somewhat enlightening. When I discuss the topic of "love", I also involve some related issues, which I usually omit or mention briefly.For example, when my lover stands naked before me for the first time, allowing me to admire her naked body, a special emotion is aroused in me.It was a feeling of awe. Where did this sense of awe come from?Since sex is a human instinct, I should feel the impulse of sex!Simple sexual hunger is enough to maintain the reproduction of the race. What is the role of awe?Why is there an element of awe in the act of sex?Why do I experience beauty?Where does beauty come from?I have said that the object of true love must be human beings, and only human minds have the ability to grow. However, how can we explain that other forms of beauty can also bring us a strong feeling of love?For example, the craftsmen engaged in woodcarving worked hard to create immortal masterpieces of art, as well as the exquisite statue of the Virgin built in the Middle Ages, and the bronze statue of the "Chariot Rider" in Delphi (ancient Greek city)—— —These works are lifeless, but don’t their creators all have incomparably deep love?Doesn't their beauty come from the sincere love of the creator?Doesn’t the beauty of nature also fascinate us?It is not for nothing that we sometimes refer to nature as a great creator.Why do we have strange urges to mourn or even cry when faced with beauty?Why do a few bars of music melody make us dream and sigh?I remember clearly: many years ago, my six-year-old son saw me lying tired on the floor resting on the first night after he had a tonsillectomy. Tears welled up in the eye sockets in an instant, what is the reason for this?

Clearly, there are many hitherto incomprehensible aspects of love.These questions may not be answered purely from sociobiological perspectives and viewpoints.The knowledge of the boundaries of the self that general psychology offers is also very limited.Those who really know the secret of love may be those who have devoted themselves to the study of religion.