Chapter 5 Section 4: The FBI penetrates the heart through the eyes like this

The eyes are the windows to the soul, and a wealth of psychological truth is contained in the eyes.Because, from a person's eyes, the information transmitted is often the richest, most complex, and most subtle.In the long history of human development, eyes have always been the body organ that people pay the most attention to.After the emergence of ethology, the eyes have become the object and subject of people's research.Because it can indeed express a lot of valuable information from the side, and this information plays a vital role in our study of the inner world of others.It is precisely because of this awareness that the FBI agents will communicate with the respondents and secretly observe their eyes in actual work to verify the authenticity of their language and their inner world.

During the Cold War, an FBI team captures a Soviet spy.The agent was so calm when he was caught that he remained silent when asked who was behind him.In order to be loyal to his country and people, this agent had already had the idea of ​​sacrificing himself to protect the overall situation.At this time, the presidential palace asked the FBI to find the whereabouts of other spies as soon as possible. Although this spy has been captured, other spies may still pose a potential threat to US homeland security.Due to the urgency of the situation, they intend to collect the necessary intelligence and information through the non-verbal behavior displayed by the eyes.

So the FBI showed the spy many pictures, each with the name of a person who had worked with him, and these people were likely to be the spy's accomplices. The FBI team inspector put the photos in front of the spy and asked him to tell the specific situation he knew while looking at the information in each picture.In fact, they are not interested in the work of this spy, and they also understand that this spy is stable and experienced, and will not tell the truth easily.However, what the FBI is concerned about is the spy's eyes, to see if it can find the information it needs from the non-verbal information reflected in the spy's eyes.

Time passed by, and at first the spy seemed very arrogant and disdainful, and continued to bow his head and keep silent.But when they said the name of one of them and showed him the photo, the spy's eyes suddenly widened, then his pupils contracted rapidly, and he squinted slightly, but quickly regained his composure. After analysis by the FBI team, the spy's attitude showed that he probably didn't want to see the person in the photo, or even hear the person's name being mentioned, so he immediately regained his composure after a moment of surprise.So the FBI launched an investigation based on this information, and finally captured the spy's accomplice.The spy later wrote in his memoirs: "I was captured while participating in a secret in-depth activity in the United States, but I did not give out the information of my companions, but they knew who my companions were like gods, and told me I was amazed how quickly he was caught."

From this case, it is not difficult for us to see the accuracy of the non-verbal information sent by the eyes for insight into inner changes.Therefore, observing a person's rich non-verbal information is a shortcut to understand the person's psychological trends.If we want to grasp the deep meaning expressed by other people's non-verbal information, we need to carefully observe the other person's eyes in the process of communicating with the other person, from observing the frequency of blinking of the other person's eyes, the changes of the pupils of the eyes, the direction of the eyes, and the line of sight. Effective information can be obtained from eye behaviors such as shifting and gazing.

In a normal state of relaxation, people blink 6 to 8 times per minute, and each time they close their eyes is only one-tenth of a second.But in some special cases, for a specific purpose or to express a certain emotion, the frequency of people's blinking may increase significantly. FBI experts have found through research that if a person deliberately prolongs the blinking time, it often means that he has lost interest in the other party, or is bored with the other party, or that he himself feels "higher" than the other party.The reason why this person deliberately prolongs the blinking time is to prevent the other party from entering his sight, or to remove the other party from his sight.Therefore, after he glances at the other party, he often closes his eyes for 2 to 3 seconds, or even longer.Repeat this several times until the other party realizes what he means.

When the employee talks to the leader, if the leader's eyes are always opening and closing, the subordinates should be careful. FBI experts analyzed that the leaders may not be satisfied with the subordinates' answers.In order to change this posture of the leader, the experts of the FBI gave suggestions: change the way of talking and re-attract the attention of the leader.To do this, you can quickly take a step to the left or right while the leader closes his eyes.When he opens his eyes, he will have an illusion that you have been out and now come in again, which often makes him start to pay attention to what you say.Of course, if the leader deliberately prolongs the blinking time because he considers himself arrogant, there is no need to use this method.

Another place that needs our attention is the pupil.The pupil is one of the important components of the eye. After years of research, experts from the FBI believe that the pupil can reflect changes in a person's inner world. FBI experts believe that normal pupillary dilation is not under a person's control, but under certain conditions a person can change the size of their pupils, which changes in response to a person's emotional state.When a person is in a state of enthusiasm, passion, or extreme fear, his pupils may dilate about three times than usual; eyes" or "corns". FBI experts also discovered an interesting phenomenon during the research process. When young men and women are dating, if a girl likes a boy, her pupils will obviously dilate when she looks at the boy.After the boy understands the sign of the girl's eyes, his pupils will gradually dilate.Because the pupils of both parties are dilated and the eyes are wide open, this makes each other look more charming, beautiful, and chic in the eyes of the other party, which can easily arouse both parties.It is also for this reason that many young men and women who are passionately in love prefer places with dark light when choosing a date place, such as coffee shops, bars, etc., because in these places, the pupils can be enlarged.

When communicating with people, we sometimes find that the other person's eyes are looking up or looking at us with squinted eyes. What does this mean? After long-term research, the experts of the FBI came to the conclusion that if someone raises his eyes and looks up when he bows his head, it means submission and humility.This pose is attractive to men because it makes the eyes appear larger and women look childlike.When a person finds the other person interesting or attractive during a conversation, he will quietly look at the other person with squinting eyes, and at the same time raise his eyebrows or show a faint smile.This is often used as a signal of courtship.When a person communicates with others, if he feels a little confused about what the other person said, or needs to make a decision by himself but there are many uncertain objective factors.In this case, he will look at the other party with squinting eyes, and at the same time raise his eyebrows, trying to ask the other party: "Is what you said true?" Can’t make a decision.” When a person communicates with others, if he has certain opinions on the other party, or feels very good about himself, then when communicating with the other party, he will deliberately look at the other party with this kind of eyes, At the same time, turn the corners of the mouth down or to one side.

In daily life, we often encounter such a situation. When you are talking to a person, the other person's eyes are always flickering. Once they meet your sight, they will quickly move their eyes away.In this case, you will feel that he may be hiding something in his heart, or he may have done something wrong to you behind your back. FBI experts believe that the behavior of avoiding sight is a psychological projection that one party does not want to be seen by the other party, and it is a manifestation of guilty conscience. Experts from the FBI believe that when a person is talking with others, the time spent looking at the other person's face accounts for about 30% to 60% of the other person's talking time.Then, whether you can look at the other person's face with gazing eyes will determine the final result of the conversation to a large extent. The FBI's experiments show that in ordinary social activities, when a person's line of sight falls below the eye level of the other person, a typical social atmosphere will be formed, which is conducive to a friendly, friendly and relaxed atmosphere for both parties. chat.The watcher's gaze is mainly concentrated in the triangle area formed by the other party's two eyes and mouth.When two people approach each other from a long distance, they quickly scan each other's face and other lower body parts in order to judge the other's gender, and then take a second look to gauge how interested they are in each other .This kind of suggestive ambiguous gaze generally extends from between the opponent's eyes to the position below the chin.Young men and women often use this way of watching to express affection.Imagine the person has a third eye in the middle of their forehead, and cast your gaze into the triangle formed by the imaginary third eye and the other two eyes.This gaze tends to feel commanding and believable.This kind of gaze is mostly used between bosses and employees, teachers and students, and opponents who compete with each other.

No matter what a man thinks in his heart, his eyes may betray him.Especially the momentary imperceptible eyes will truly reflect the truth in people's hearts.Therefore, observing a person's rich eye language is a shortcut to understand the person's psychological truth.