Over the years, I have witnessed the psychological pain of too many people, and I have come into contact with many people who have been psychologically distorted and abnormal.I also know that many people have gone mad and killed themselves. While sighing and feeling, I once asked myself a strange question: Why am I quite normal?What can I do? The answer is: I understand psychoanalysis. The situation is this: when various blows and injuries come, psychoanalysis is like a sharp weapon in the mind and psychology, which can protect me; but I am not practicing in the Himalayas, so of course it is impossible to be immune Invasion, there will still be some psychological problems. At this time, I can use psychoanalysis to clarify it and let it dissipate, instead of deteriorating into symptoms that torment me, make me mentally twisted, or feel overwhelmed with pain.

But what psychoanalysis can do, of course, is not just to protect oneself, but to change oneself. We sometimes make stupid mistakes. Some people realize it afterwards, but they have already paid a high price; Turned into a tragic figure.A person could have achieved success.A person could have achieved success and lived a happy life, but he failed because he was trapped by his own psychology.Some of all these people are unable or dare not wake up throughout their lives. This is a consequence of our ignorance of neither ourselves nor others.We become psychologically blind. In this sense, psychoanalysis can also be a powerful method for deciphering our lives, situations, and destinies.With it, we can see into the heart of others and see the truth of the world.

In short, psychoanalysis can really arm us mentally and psychologically. In this book, starting from the two cores of "why we are weak inside" and "how to become strong inside", I analyze many psychological laws that control us, and teach readers to take control of themselves in their own hands, Become a mentally strong person. This is the first step. Now, what this book is going to do is to systematically decipher our existence and the truth of our psychological problems on the basis of the principles and methods of inner strength, and to fully reveal the psychological analysis methods starting from the problems and principles. In order to continue to cultivate a strong heart and solve the problems we encounter.

Archimedes said, "Give me a fulcrum, and I can move the earth."I said, give you a psychological analysis method, you can survive and live a happy life.I mean, of course, the psychological. This method of psychoanalysis was extracted and created by me standing on the shoulders of the predecessors of philosophy and psychoanalysis from philosophy, psychology and other theories.What I do is to tell the truth and useful things where the masters have not seen them, and most importantly, to make them available to every ordinary person. Based on this, I kept a low profile and did not name the psychoanalysis methods I refined and created like others did.Useful is king.Of course, we can also call it "rationalist psychoanalysis", or "Yong's psychoanalysis".

I follow the rationalist tradition of philosophy, I don’t play mysticism, I don’t advocate the idea of ​​being out of this world, I don’t just chant inspirational slogans, I don’t advocate that people should sell themselves to adapt to society, and I don’t let people suggest or force themselves to do something. Do not cook chicken soup for the soul for others to drink. I want to say that if we want to stand firm, please start with reason.There are methods to follow for everything, and the changes obtained from rationality and methods are solid self-improvement. Thanks to those netizens who followed me to study psychoanalysis, among them are white-collar workers, postgraduates, undergraduates, middle school students, civil servants, teachers, etc.Thanks to those readers who read it.

As in the same way, in this book, my expressions are sometimes more playful, and sometimes more cruel-I have explained that this is for the convenience of understanding and the consideration of "telling the truth viciously". Or start with Erich, one of the most important thinkers of the 20th century and the prophet of psychoanalysis?Fromm began with a personal experience.One day, a colleague came to visit Fromm.He knew that this colleague didn't like him.In fact, Fromm said he was surprised that colleagues were visiting him.A colleague rang the doorbell, and Fromm opened the door, ready to invite him in.But unexpectedly, a colleague stretched out his hand and said happily to Fromm: "Goodbye!" As soon as someone opened the door to welcome you in, you made a decision that was not difficult at all: "Goodbye!" Intuitively, This is very abnormal.In this case we must ask: what does that mean?Why can such a thing be said?

According to the theory of Freud, the ancestor of psychoanalysis, in our daily life, clerical mistakes, slips of the tongue, and sudden inability to remember the name of an acquaintance, etc., seem to be trivial things on the surface, but in fact they have profound meanings. The exposure of psychological secrets shows that he is in a certain psychological and living state. Sometimes, a look, an action, or a word is a person's culprit. Although he doesn't realize it, the other party has long been staring at this point.When two people are dealing with each other, if one of them makes an unforgivable low-level mistake like saying "goodbye" before entering the door, it is almost a voluntary confession of his inner thoughts.In this situation, Fromm tells us, the co-worker saying "goodbye" indicates an unconscious wish that he should leave soon.In other words, he didn't want to visit at all in his heart!

If you finish this book with psychoanalytic insight, you'll be able to translate the inner language of this troubled visitor in no time: "I don't want to see you at all—look, I can't help but say Out!" For most people, when this kind of embarrassing situation occurs, one reaction is to assume that the other party is mentally handicapped, and rush to explain or cover up, so as to avoid completely screwing up the already revealed scene.But what more can be said about two psychoanalysts who know everything about the human heart? Fromm cautioned that it would be naive to say nothing and say, "That's not what I wanted to say."A psychoanalyst responds to a slip of the tongue by looking at what it really meant, not by trying to remedy it afterwards.

Regarding this personal experience, Fromm stopped short and did not pursue further.He assumes: "You get it." Of course we do.But starting from here, a little more must be said. When I was a "philosophical youth", I was hit by a sentence from the German philosopher Schopenhauer with lightning speed. In Europe in the mid-nineteenth century, glancing grimly at the crowds hurrying on the street, Schopenhauer spoke with eloquence like the prophets of ancient Greece, saying that life is "an ideal never realized, trampled unceremoniously by fate." hopes, squandered struggles, all those hapless mistakes of a lifetime".

If we say that among philosophers, Kant, who is as radiant as the sun, belongs to ordinary philosophers, and Adorno (the one who said "after Auschwitz, writing poetry is barbaric") belongs to literary philosophers, then Schopenhauer Hua, as well as his fan Nietzsche, are basically 2B (Internet slang, nervous, foolish) philosophers.Russell, a British philosopher, accused them of hypocrisy and discrimination against women when he set up a monument for them. What Mr. Luo said is true.In this respect, he has a sense of moral superiority, because not only does he not discriminate against women, but he is also a "friend of women" - for example, someone broke the news that Mr. Luo "chased everyone who wore a skirt regardless of his age" .

Regardless of discrimination against women or "friends of women", here I just want to say that those who have set up the lofty ideal of "living with wisdom" since childhood and strive for the cause of human philosophy all their lives are always worthy of our respect.Although Comrade Ben Hua is not a noble person, not a pure person, not a man of morality, not a person who has escaped vulgar interests, he is still a person who is beneficial to the people. To clarify, the kind of life Mr. Benhua mentioned does not refer to himself.The pain of philosophers is not the same concept as the pain of our ordinary people. They "feel the pain of human beings." The pain of our ordinary people is nothing but personal pain.Moreover, he is a rich second generation, no matter from the comfort of life or philosophical achievements, there are no failures in his life. However, I am afraid that this is the life of many people - at least, we either waste too much struggle in confusion; or, on important things, we will make some stupid mistakes; Never dare to wake up! There are too many "ors".All of these are actually more psychological problems.Please believe me, at least half of the problems in our lives are caused by psychological problems; And at least half of our psychological problems come from the superficiality and disorder of the mind! Shi Yong October 8, 2012