Chapter 28 4.Do not write "violent homework"

Being punished for homework is something that many people encounter when they are in school, especially in elementary school. When Yuanyuan was in the fourth grade of elementary school, one day the math teacher suddenly gave a quiz in class, asking the students to silently write a theorem that was taught two days ago.The theorem has about 20 to 30 words. The teacher did not arrange to recite it in advance. In the class, there was a sudden test, and it was required that no word should be wrong. If one word did not match the original text, the theorem would be copied ten times that night.As a result, all the students in the class were wiped out, and everyone made more or less mistakes. Therefore, in addition to some routine content, everyone's math homework that day included copying the theorem ten times.

Yuanyuan told me about this when she went home to do her homework at night, showing that she was very worried about copying the theorem ten times. I read what she wrote in the test, compared with the theorem in the book, there were only a few words that did not match the original text, basically there was not much difference, and I could feel that Yuanyuan understood this theorem.I think, is it necessary for the math teacher to punish the children like this?From the perspective of the textbook, this theorem does not require memorization, and the textbook writers will definitely consider it. For fourth-grade students, the focus is on understanding and application is the goal.

Rote memorization has many disadvantages, and its damage to students' intelligence and learning cannot be overstated.The former Soviet educator Suhomlinski condemned the teacher's behavior of requiring students to memorize by rote. He said: "Students' deformed mental work, continuous memorization and rote memorization will cause inertia of thinking. The kind of student who only knows how to memorize and recite may memorize a lot of things, but when he is required to find out a basic principle in his memory, everything in his mind is mixed together, so that he can't understand a very basic principle. Intellectual homework appears helpless. If the student does not select the most necessary things to remember, he will not think."

Even if it needs to be recited, isn’t it good to write it once? Why do you have to write it ten times?How long would it take to write it down ten times? What’s wrong with this little time.We often tell our children to cherish time, but isn’t it a waste of time to spend an hour or two doing this kind of meaningless homework? The most important thing is to protect children's interest in learning, but try to avoid any unpleasant things related to learning.So I thought, since this kind of homework has the taste of "punishment", I can't write it, and I can't let this matter plant a disgust for "homework" in her heart.

I asked Yuanyuan whether she could memorize this theorem now, and she said yes.I asked her to write it in the homework book, and sure enough, it was verbatim.I smiled and said to Yuanyuan, you already know every word well, just write it once.Well, your homework is done. Yuanyuan was a little happy when she heard it, but immediately said anxiously that she couldn't do it. The teacher asked to write it ten times.I said, the teacher asked you to write it ten times because you didn't memorize it; now that you know it, you don't need to write it ten times. Yuanyuan was a little worried, and said, "Everyone in the class must have written it ten times. If I didn't write it, then the teacher would blame me."I can see that Yuanyuan has involuntarily written this homework as a teacher in her consciousness, what a terrible consciousness.

I said: It's okay, why does everyone have to write it ten times.Now that you have written it once and you have written it verbatim, there is no need to write it ten times.Learning is for learning. Since this goal has been achieved, why waste time? In this way, I brought Yuanyuan's "teacher" homework back to "study" homework in order to cultivate her realistic attitude towards learning. Yuanyuan was still very worried, afraid that the teacher would teach her a lesson after seeing her write it only once.I guessed with her, if I don’t write it ten times, the teacher may be angry tomorrow, criticizing a few words is still a trivial matter, she may be fined to stand, or parents may be invited to school.I cheered Yuanyuan up and said, tomorrow the teacher will ask why I only write it once, so you can tell the teacher that my mother won’t let me write it so many times, and put the responsibility on my mother.If the teacher wants to criticize, you should listen obediently and don’t say anything; .Either way, you don't have to take it too seriously because you haven't done anything wrong.

Hearing what I said, although Yuanyuan hesitated, but because she couldn't find a better way, she agreed. Between the two options of letting the child finish the homework in pain and being criticized by the teacher, I would rather choose the latter.In reality, I have seen many parents. They clearly know that some teachers assign violent homework, but they just complain about the teacher while constantly urging their children to do their homework quickly, worrying that their children will not finish their homework and will be criticized by the teacher tomorrow.This actually messes up the child's values, making "don't let the teacher criticize" the first choice, and the child's personal experience and the spirit of seeking truth from facts as the second choice.

Protecting the child's face and preventing him from being criticized by the teacher in front of the whole class is of course important, but this destroys the purpose of the homework itself, making the child gradually become artificial in learning and lose interest in learning. It also teaches children to cater to authority.In doing so, the loss is actually greater. Of course, I really don't want Yuanyuan to be criticized by the teacher, but I really can't think of a better way.It's not that I can't write for my child, but today's homework is different from the ones I usually write for her. Today's homework is clearly punitive, so I don't want to do it.I want Yuanyuan to know that homework cannot be used as punishment, and she should say "no" to this kind of homework.

Yuanyuan was still a little worried, but seeing that I was very calm, she trusted me, so she just wrote it once.At this time, I thought of so many children in her class, holding pens in small hands, writing that theorem over and over again, and I really felt a dull pain in my heart.Two or three hundred words are nothing to grown-ups, but these are children in the fourth grade. After writing it ten times with fear and disgust, this theorem will probably never really enter their minds again. up. The next day I was at work all day, but I didn't receive a call from the teacher, so I thought it was all right.As a result, when I came home at night, when Yuanyuan saw me, I wanted to cry, and said that the first thing the teacher said in math class today was: "Who didn't write that theorem ten times yesterday, stand up!" She didn't explain it to her at all. Opportunity.Yuanyuan and seven or eight other classmates stood up. The teacher not only punished them for standing for a class, but also asked them to go home that night and write down all the theorems in the entire math book silently. I will write it twice tomorrow, and if it is not enough, I will write it three times.

Yuanyuan complained a little and said that it would be better to write ten times yesterday, and not have to write so much today. I flipped through her book, closed the book and put it on the table, and told her in a relaxed tone that I don't need to write this homework, and I don't need to write a single word.Yuanyuan's eyes widened in surprise. I said: Look, you have just started school, and you have only learned a little bit of mathematics. You can already memorize and write this theorem, so you don’t need to write it again;Don't do useless things. Yuanyuan said no, if she didn't write it today, she would have to write it twice tomorrow.When she said this, her eyes were full of worry. Math homework was already so scary in the eyes of children.This is what worries me the most.

How can we try our best to protect her emotions about this subject, so that she has beautiful associations when she thinks of mathematics, instead of only thinking of mathematics teachers and homework punishment?Children's values ​​are immature, and they all worship the teacher in their bones. If I just teach her not to listen to the teacher, she may have a slight sense of guilt in her heart.So I thought about how to make her really think about it from the bottom of her heart, understand this matter correctly, and minimize the harm caused by this matter. I thought of Yuanyuan's favorite biscuits, so I used her favorite thing to ask her: Do you like biscuits, how many do you think is good to eat every day?Yuanyuan felt that I was surprised when I suddenly said biscuits, but she still answered: five yuan. I said, "Is it okay to eat at least ten yuan a day?" I usually limit her eating too much biscuits, and she usually eats two or three yuan a day.What I said made her feel even more strange. She was a little excited and a little embarrassed and said, it’s too much, let’s eat seven yuan—she made a compromise, and she definitely wanted to eat a few more yuan. I said seriously, no, if you don’t eat enough 10 yuan, I’ll fine you 20 yuan, and if you don’t have enough, I’ll fine you 50 yuan, and if you can’t eat 50 yuan, I’ll fine you 100 yuan.is this okay? She must have thought I was cruel and unreasonable, she looked at me in surprise, not knowing what to say, the cute biscuit instantly became terrifying. I kissed her little cheek and said, actually, doing math homework is like eating biscuits, if the teacher keeps the right amount of homework, it’s a good thing, if too much is left, it’s bad, isn’t it?Yuanyuan nodded thoughtfully, she understood a little bit.I also said that the teacher was wrong about this matter, and it is not good to leave homework like this.Since your mother asks you to eat a hundred biscuits and you are unwilling to accept it, then we don't have to follow her request for such unreasonable homework left by the teacher.Not doing it is right, doing it is wrong.Homework, like biscuits, is a good thing in itself, let's not turn a good thing into a bad thing, okay? Now Yuanyuan understood completely, her expression calmed down a lot.She was still a little worried, and asked me what to do if my teacher asked me to copy the theorem every day.I understand the child's heart. No matter how well she understands the truth, she cannot have the courage to go to school to fight against the teacher every day, and she is unwilling to accept punishment and criticism every day.I said, Mom will send you to school tomorrow morning, find a teacher, and explain to her that if the teacher understands that writing proper homework is good for the child, he will definitely not embarrass you anymore.Yuanyuan felt very relaxed when she heard me say this.She believed that I would help her solve the problem instead of screwing things up. The next morning I asked for leave from my work unit to find a math teacher. The math teacher looked like he was in his thirties or forties with a cold expression on his face.I tentatively mentioned Yuanyuan's homework to her, but I felt that there was no possibility of communication at all.As soon as she heard what I wanted to do, she immediately became very conflicted. On the one hand, she explained how she worked hard to teach the students, for fear that they would have some problems in their studies; on the other hand, she complained that the current parents do not understand the teachers, and complain that the students do not study hard.The teacher talked to me aggressively, as if she had a powder keg in her chest, and as long as I was a little careless in my words, I could ignite her and make her explode. I was very afraid of making the relationship with the teacher stiff, so I bowed my head and listened to the teacher's lesson with a smile on my face, and took all the responsibility on my own head.My attitude finally calmed down the teacher's anger, and her mood eased.I further narrowed the relationship with her, so that she finally expressed that she would no longer pursue this assignment.Alas, I thought my approach was lackluster, but as a parent, I don't know what else to do in a situation like that. I understand this math teacher very well. Subjectively, she wants to teach mathematics well, but because of her low cultural background—this can be clearly felt from her conversation—she is unable to do what she wants to do in teaching.A person with low self-learning ability actually doesn't know how to teach others how to learn, which also leads to her adopting some stupid methods to teach on the one hand, and on the other hand, she has a low self-esteem in her bones, and often has some perverted methods. For example, when she distributes homework books to students in class, she has several ways to distribute them.If all are done correctly, she will hand out the book to the students; if there are any wrong questions, she will throw them on the ground and ask the students to bend down to pick them up; student faces.Yuanyuan was pinched and cried by her once.The school strictly prohibits teachers from beating students, and this teacher can only use the method of pinching.I called the principal about this matter, and the principal said that he thanked the parents for their feedback and would go down and ask, but the matter did not change. In front of such a teacher, what can parents do.I can only look for more opportunities to get in touch with this teacher, and try to get along with her so that I can talk to her when something happens next time. But I can't tell Yuanyuan my helplessness and methods.When I went home that day, I just told Yuanyuan that I had found a math teacher, and said that the teacher also realized that it was useless to copy the theorems too much, and agreed not to copy them.I didn't tell her anything else, let the child be simpler, just help her solve the problem. Now many children are suffering from violent homework to varying degrees, not only from schools, but also from families. Some parents will punish their children with homework when they are angry.The essence of violent homework is the enslavement of students by teachers and parents. The philosopher Fromm said that a person can adapt himself to slavery, but he does so by reducing his intelligence and moral qualities; a person himself can adapt to a culture full of distrust and hostility, but his response to this adaptation It is weakness and lack of originality; man adapts himself to a repressive environment, but in this adaptation he develops neurosis. Of course, children can also adapt to violent homework, but the enslavement, hostility, and depression contained in violent homework will completely destroy the integrity and health of children's personality and will. Parents must first pay attention that they never create violent homework; at the same time, they must support their children to say no to this kind of homework from school.Parents should actively seek positive communication with teachers and schools. They can talk to teachers, report to schools, or find ways to protect their children.Many parents complain that teachers leave too much and unreasonable homework, while watching their children struggle with violent homework and helplessly, this is the worst. There is a popular joke among Yuanyuan elementary school classmates.Said that two children fought and were punished by the teacher to write their names a hundred times.One of the children finished writing quickly and was let go, while the other took a long time to finish.The teacher criticized him for writing too slowly.The child held back for a while, and finally dared to say to the teacher: "Teacher, this is not fair, his name is Yu Yi, and my name is Abdullah Kuyez Ulit Ligulah" ——All parents and teachers, how much reflection should they have when they smile happily! ●Homework cannot be used for punishment, if necessary, say “no” to this kind of homework. ●"Since your mother asks you to eat a hundred biscuits and you are unwilling to accept it, then we don't have to follow her request for such unreasonable homework given by the teacher. It's time not to do it, and it's wrong to do it. Homework Like biscuits, they are good things in themselves, let's not turn a good thing into a bad thing." ●Many parents complain that teachers keep too much and unreasonable homework, and at the same time, they watch their children struggling with violent homework and stand by and do nothing. This is the worst.