Chapter 3 Chapter 1 How to Improve the Quality of Love

Once, in the corridor of the hospital, I saw a six or seven-year-old boy who refused to get an injection. His father, a tall man, really couldn't handle him.The father also seemed to have used all his strength. He tried to grab the little boy several times, but was finally able to break free.The little boy's resistance can really be described as "desperate". The small body burst out with amazing strength, and the mournful cry made people shocked, and the whole corridor was alarmed. If a person's emotions have not gone to extremes, can he have the energy of "desperate"?You can imagine the extent of the little boy's fear, and you can also imagine how much psychological torture the "little thing" of getting an injection brings to the child.

Children will encounter many difficulties and fears when they grow up. The responsibility of parents is to help children overcome their fears, let them face these things with a positive and peaceful attitude, and minimize pain. Let’s talk about the matter of injections, which will be encountered many times in a lifetime. How to deal with injections is not a trivial matter that can be completely ignored.What's more, some of the psychology that comes from this can also be transferred to other things.Adults must not judge the child by their own feelings, thinking that it is very simple, as long as the child is held down, or coaxed to hit the child, it will be fine.Parents should educate their children to accept it as calmly as possible, and cultivate their courage to endure pain.

I remember Yuanyuan's first injection due to illness was when she was one year and eight months old, and she had just learned something and could speak a few words.What she had was acute pneumonia. I took her to the outpatient clinic first, and the doctor gave her an injection.After taking the medicine, I told her to take her for an injection.She may still have the memory of getting vaccinated a few months ago, showing a scared expression. She was not very good at talking when she was vaccinated, and she was stabbed in the buttocks in a ignorant way, and it hurt a little, she cried a few times, and as soon as the needle was pulled out, I quickly said, "Hey, look, there is still a needle on this cup." Where's the kitten?"Her attention was drawn to the cat printed on the cup, and she forgot about the prick in her ass.Now that I said I wanted an injection, it might have aroused her impression. When I carried her to the door of the treatment room, she suddenly said, "I don't want an injection."

I stopped and said to her, "Baby is sick now, coughing, and has a fever. Do you feel sick?" Yuanyuan said it was uncomfortable. "Does the baby want to get well soon?" Yuanyuan replied "yes".She coughed again, and her little face was burning red.I kissed her cheek and said, "The medicine prescribed by the doctor can make Xiao Yuanyuan's illness better and make the baby more comfortable. If there is no injection, the illness will never recover." Children are actually the most sensible. As long as the adults state the reasons to the children correctly, the children will understand.She is sick and uncomfortable, and she must want to get well soon.

Yuanyuan accepted the injection logically, but her little heart was still afraid, and she asked me with worried eyes, "Does the injection hurt?" I smiled and said flatly, "Oh, it hurts a little, but it's not too painful. , just like when you accidentally dropped your ass while sitting on a small stool that day." After listening to Yuanyuan, her worry eased.I then asked her, "Do you think the fall on the butt that day hurt a lot, or just a little?" Yuanyuan replied, "It hurts a little." "Oh, the pain from the injection is similar to that pain, just a little bit." I told her frankly, and then said, "Little Yuanyuan doesn't cry when she throws her butt, and you don't need to cry when you get the injection, right?" Round nod.

But I can see that she still has some worries and tensions in her heart.So I encouraged her again and said: "Mom thinks Yuanyuan is very brave. Try to see if you are brave. Don't cry if you can hold it back. If you can't hold it back, it's okay to cry." My words encouraged her and made her feel I was brave; I gave her a way out, and made her feel that it was okay to cry. The expression on my face when I talk to her is always happy and relaxed, showing that getting an injection is really simple.Yuanyuan is also much calmer. Her wish must be to be a hero. At the same time, she firmly believes in her mother's words, because her mother has never lied to her once. Since it is only "a little pain", there is nothing to be afraid of.

She was very nervous and tense during the beating, but she didn't cry.Seeing Yuanyuan's cooperation during the injection, the nurse praised her.After passing the "test", Yuanyuan felt that the pain of the injection was really bearable, and her mentality became very calm. After a few days in the outpatient clinic, he didn't feel well, so he was hospitalized.There are eight children in one ward, most of them are older than Yuanyuan, two to three years old.Whenever a person in a white coat came in, whether it was a nurse or a doctor, and sometimes just came in to take their temperature or ask a question, the ward burst into tears, and the children were terrified, like a wolf in a sheepfold.Only Yuanyuan didn't cry or make trouble, she would stop playing and asked me to hold her, waiting with a sad face.Although she doesn't like injections either, she has accepted it rationally.During the acupuncture process, she never moved around and was always very cooperative, and she was praised by the nurses every day.

Because the child was too young at the time, there were no blood vessels on the arm when the IV was administered, so he had to prick the forehead. However, the blood vessels on the forehead were also very thin, so they often couldn't be pricked at once, and often had to be pricked two or three times.One day, a new nurse gave Yuanyuan an injection, but she failed to stick it seven times in a row.An adult may not be able to stand being stabbed seven times in a row, and her father and I are a little unbearable.Yuanyuan started to cry, but she didn't cry a lot, she just whimpered and whimpered, her head was motionless for the nurse to fiddle with.The eighth time it was tied, and as soon as the tape was put on, she stopped crying immediately.I really admire this little guy in my heart.

I saw that some parents in the ward used coaxing, intimidation, and coercive methods to get their children to get injections every day.The needles on those children seemed to hurt many times more than others.Parents' actions not only magnify the pain of their children, but also fail to teach them to face up to difficulties bravely. At that time, Yuanyuan's treatment also required a kind of "ultrasonic atomization" physical therapy, which was to let the child breathe a kind of mist added with medicine.The method is very simple, that is, put the spray nozzle close to the child's face and let her breathe naturally for ten minutes.

When doing it for the first time, the nurse pushed the instrument. We didn't know what it was, but we just picked up the baby according to the nurse's request.The white mist slightly smelled of medicine was sprayed on Yuanyuan's face as the machine started "buzzing". She was taken aback and instinctively turned her face away.The nurse immediately asked me to hold the baby tightly and not move.I quickly hugged Yuanyuan tightly, trying to keep her face facing the spray nozzle.Yuanyuan didn't know what happened, she closed her eyes tightly, struggled hard, tried to avoid the fog, and started to cry, I tried not to let her move.The nurse was also adjusting, wherever Yuanyuan's face turned, she followed the vent.Yuanyuan struggled for a while, unable to break free, and finally cried loudly, and began to strongly resist.After only five minutes of doing it, she couldn't do it with resistance, so she had to give up.

Compared with injections, "ultrasonic atomization" should be said to be painless, just breathing some mist naturally, with a faint smell of medicine, which is not unpleasant.Because she didn't do ideological work for Yuanyuan in advance, and forced her to accept it without her psychological preparation, it became the thing Yuanyuan feared the most.For the next few days, she refused to do ultrasonic nebulization. As soon as she saw a nurse pushing something like a nebulizer in, she immediately became nervous, far from being calm and calm like when she was dealing with injections. It is true that adults did not do a good job in this matter, which brought fear to children. For some pain that must be endured by children, adults should have several principles: One is to be calm and composed, not to show anxiety.If the adult first looks anxious, the child will feel that the problem is serious and will frighten them. The second is to explain to the child why it is done in a language that the child can understand.For example, tell your child that you are sick now and need an injection, which can cure the disease.Don't think that children don't understand and don't talk about it. The third is to tell the truth about the pain that the child has to bear, and try not to exaggerate or minimize it too much.For example, when many parents take their children for injections, in order to relieve their children's tension, they say "it doesn't hurt at all". After the child was cheated the first time, they would never be fooled again; they lost their rationality and courage to challenge difficulties once. Germinates opportunities, and later distrusts adults. The fourth is to inspire children's courage.Children's endurance is actually amazing. As long as they don't frighten them and give them a suitable psychological expectation, most of them can accept some seemingly difficult things.At the same time, give them a way out, and don't let the children feel ashamed of their "not being strong". Fifth, never achieve the goal by coaxing or buying.Some parents achieve their goals by "the police will arrest you if you don't get an injection", or "buy you a remote control car after taking this medicine", which is very bad.Coaxing and buying can only solve temporary problems, but cannot really relieve children's tension and hinder their moral development. Children should learn to face some difficulties or pains rationally from an early age, which can not only relieve the pain, but also protect themselves well. When Yuanyuan was two and a half years old, she suddenly woke up crying in the middle of the night.She was having trouble breathing, something seemed to be stuck in her throat, and she looked in pain.I happened to have just read an information about laryngeal edema in children, and felt that Yuanyuan's symptoms were very similar.It is very dangerous for children to get this disease. One is that children have thin throats, and the other is that children are not sensible. The more uncomfortable they are, the more they cry. The more they cry, the more severe the edema will be. At that moment, I was terrified, and I tried to keep my voice as calm as possible and said to Yuanyuan: "Baby don't cry, you feel difficult to breathe now because your area is swollen." I pointed to her throat and told her, " If you cry, the swelling will get worse, and it will be even harder to vent your anger. Please bear with me, don’t cry, mom will take you to the hospital right away.” Yuanyuan understood, she stopped crying immediately, and dressed up with me clothing.As sad as she looked, she kept silent. Her father was working out of town at the time. At that time, Jining couldn’t get a taxi at night, so I knocked on the neighbor’s door and asked Xiaozhe’s father to take us to the hospital by bicycle.Xiaozhe's father was riding fast, and I was holding Yuanyuan behind.Her breathing was difficult, but she remained very still.We walked to a place without street lights and bumped into a manhole cover that was much higher than the road. We all fell down. Yuanyuan seemed to be breathing harder after this tossing, but she didn't cry, and her expression was still calm.I think the child is really sensible, and I am very fortunate that she is so sensible.Went to the emergency room of the hospital, was treated quickly, and within a few hours the situation improved. The doctor said that the child was really good, and he didn't have any intention of crying during the whole treatment process. The most feared thing for children with this disease is crying. Yuanyuan's obedience and understanding in this aspect is really lovable.She was going to kindergarten before she was 3 years old.Before entering the kindergarten, a physical examination is required. The kindergarten uniformly arranges for the registered children to have a physical examination at the Municipal Maternal and Child Health Center on a certain day.On the way to the physical examination, I told her that blood tests might be done.She was a little nervous and asked me if it hurt.I still told her that it hurts first, and then told her that drawing blood is similar to ordinary injections, that is, it hurts a little when it is inserted, but it doesn't hurt when it is drawn.She has had several injections, so she is more relieved to hear me say this. There were more than a dozen children in the physical examination that day. When the blood was drawn, the children cried together.Those who have smoked, those who are smoking, and those who have not smoked are all crying.Especially if one needle fails, when a second needle is needed, not only children cry, but some adults are also anxious.The nurse who drew the blood was annoyed, frowning, and seemed to have a bad attitude. Yuanyuan leaned against me and waited quietly, looking at the children with curiosity and sympathy.She suddenly said to me, "Crying hurts just as much".I asked her if she wanted to say that when a child gets an injection, crying is as painful as not crying, and crying can't relieve the pain.she said yes.I kissed her little face appreciatively and said, "Xiao Yuanyuan is right, crying can't stop the pain anyway, it's better not to cry." I didn't make the child promise that she would never cry. I think it's very good for her to understand like this. It's not easy, you don't need to put any pressure on her, and if she cries then, she doesn't have to feel ashamed for breaking her promise.At her age, it's normal to cry. It was Yuanyuan's turn. She sat on my lap and stretched out her small arms. Although she was a little nervous, she quietly waited for the nurse to take the needle and install the needle.The nurse found that the child was not crying and looked at her in surprise. Yuanyuan probably wanted to comfort the nurse and said to her, "Auntie, I won't cry." This surprised the nurse, and she raised her frown, "Oh? Why don't you cry?" Yuanyuan said, "Cry!" It hurts just as much." The nurse understood immediately, she stopped her hands in surprise, looked at Yuanyuan, paused for a moment, and then said: "Ah, you little girl, you are so sensible! Oh, my aunt has never encountered such a thing. A sensible child!" She held a needle in her hand, and when she went to look for blood vessels on Yuanyuan's arm, she hesitated for a moment, put down the needle in her hand, opened the drawer to find a new needle, and said, "You are so sensible, auntie is even more reluctant." It hurts you, this needle is a little thinner, it doesn’t hurt like that, this is the only one left for the most obedient children.She looked for Yuanyuan's blood vessel, but found that it was not easy to find, so she stood up and found an older nurse, and told Yuanyuan that the aunt would guarantee that the needle would be accurate.really. It seems that telling children that "injections are a bit painful" and teaching them to be calm and calm in the face of difficulties can not only relieve pain, but also protect themselves, and can also "take advantage". ●When the child is crying because of something, divert his attention as soon as possible; this is more effective than coaxing and persuading, and can reduce the pain of the child. ●For some pain that must be endured by children, adults should have several principles: One is to be calm and composed, not to show anxiety.If the adult first looks anxious, the child will feel that the problem is serious and will frighten them. The second is to explain to the child why it is done in a language that the child can understand.For example, tell your child that you are sick now and need an injection, which can cure the disease.Don't think that children don't understand and don't talk about it. The third is to tell the truth about the pain that the child has to bear, and try not to exaggerate or minimize it too much. The fourth is to inspire children's courage.Children's endurance is actually amazing. As long as they don't frighten them and give them a suitable psychological expectation, most of them can accept some seemingly difficult things.At the same time, give them a way out, and don't let the children feel ashamed of their "not being strong". Fifth, never achieve the goal by coaxing or buying.Some parents achieve their goals by "the police will arrest you if you don't get an injection", or "buy you a remote control car after taking this medicine", which is very bad.Coaxing and buying can only solve temporary problems, but cannot really relieve children's tension and hinder their moral development.