I knew Yin Jianli because she came to Beijing Normal University to study for a master's degree in education. At that time, the School of Education of Beijing Normal University had just identified a supervisor for their group of masters in education.At that time, she clearly chose education as her research direction, and one of my research directions happened to be in the field of teacher education, so we naturally got to know each other. The first time I read Yin Jianli's works was her poetry.When she first met me, she gave me a book of her poems.Her poems are very well written. After reading it, I think she is very delicate and her writing skills are very good, but it also makes me slightly worried.Can a "poet" calm down to study a problem seriously, and use academic discourse completely different from literary language to complete his thesis?

Facts have proved that my worries are unnecessary. She is a student with a poetic heart but a down-to-earth attitude.Her thesis is done seriously, well written, and has her own point of view.At the same time, during her dissertation, another article of hers won the second prize of the first postgraduate academic festival of the School of Education, Beijing Normal University.These gave me confidence in her academic research ability. After Yin Jianli obtained a master's degree from Beijing Normal University, she began to busy herself with her own work; but every year on Teacher's Day, she would contact me.What I didn't expect was that before Teacher's Day this year, she brought a sample of her new book.Two hundred thousand words, I almost read it in one breath.

I didn't read many popular books on family education in the society before, but I also came across a few of them. Those slogan-style and group unconscious things are not to my liking.This book by Yin Jianli made me finish it in one breath.It is not because of the teacher-student relationship we had, but mainly because her writing is not only popular, but also very professional; her deep thinking and incisive operation of some children's education issues even made me feel suddenly enlightened.Such as children's reading, family culture construction and so on. Yin Jianli has a deep and persistent emotion for education. She once aspired to work in a primary school, believing that primary school education is the most important thing.In the end, due to various reasons, her wish was not realized.She is now using the form of research and writing to devote herself to the dissemination of educational ideas.She said that her goal is to let the correct educational ideas directly act on the children, rather than staying on the written or theoretical level.So when she wrote this book, she wrote it as a parent and a researcher, expressing abstract educational principles through daily behavior.I think this book has both rich practical experience and pedagogical accomplishment; it is both thoughtful and readable.It is not easy to be able to do all these things at the same time, but it is very valuable.It can really provide parents with practical ideas for raising children.After reading this book, it seems to be affecting the way I teach my own children.

I have heard about it for a long time, and know that her daughter is excellent; it is only after reading her works that I know that every child's excellence has a source.From the book, we can see how attentive she is to her daughter, and how natural and seamless her educational methods are - this is the real education and the most wonderful state of education. A caring boy can become a senior chef, and a caring mother can also become a child education expert.What kid doesn't need educated parents?The general situation in today's society is just the opposite. Parents pay attention to their children, but they don't use them properly. They mainly focus on discipline, and there are deep traces of interference everywhere. What children experience is mostly coercion, not education.If this book can let parents and teachers see how to be "intentional" when facing children and how to be "invisible" when educating children, then it has done a very meaningful thing.

What needs to be explained here is that Yin Jianli's book is titled "A Good Mother Is Better than a Good Teacher", which does not mean to compare mothers and teachers at all.Teachers are children's guides, guides, and even role models and role models in schools and classrooms. It goes without saying that its importance is self-evident, and the author himself has been teaching for more than ten years; the title of this book just wants to illustrate a very Important but often overlooked truth: Parents play an irreplaceable role in educating children. As a family education work written by a mother who understands education, this book is worth reading.

(The author of this preface is a professor and doctoral supervisor of Beijing Normal University)