Chapter 126 Be confused and leave room for others

Zheng Banqiao has a famous saying: It is rare to be confused.In fact, Zheng Banqiao, who is rare to be confused, is a very smart person, because he saw through the corruption and filth of officialdom with his wise eyes, so he resigned from office and returned to his hometown.Can see through, but just don't say or do it, this is a kind of wisdom that pretends to be confused.This intelligence is also important when used in interpersonal communication. In life, a husband should be lenient, turn a blind eye to money and goods, the more sloppy, the more popular it is, the wife is a bit partial to her natal family, it is human nature, you don’t take it to heart at all, That can show the magnanimous demeanor of a man.The wife should also adopt a tolerant attitude towards her husband's laziness and other unbearable problems. Don't go on and on, dislike him for this or that, and don't show her face when the husband comes back late or a lady calls. , The nose is not the nose and the face is not the face.The tighter the view, the stronger the rebellious psychology.Why don't you simply let him go, and see how capable he is, and the emotional world outside will teach him a lesson. As long as you are a confident, charismatic, and charming woman, no matter how hard your husband spends his time, he won't be with you. You cut your heart.I'm afraid that if you are too "serious" to your husband, making him feel that he is living in shackles and getting bored with you, then there will be a real crisis.Home is a haven of shelter from the wind, it should be warm and harmonious, don't turn it into a battlefield full of gunpowder, smoke is everywhere, chickens are flying around, and the key depends on how you grasp it.

Being confused is a kind of state of mind and a kind of virtue. With a confused state of mind to be a person, one can naturally treat people and things in the world properly, respect oneself and win the respect of others. This is also the essence of being a person being confused. Be confused when you should be confused. People who know how to be confused are not weak but heroes.Because he can resolve all kinds of unimaginable embarrassment in the social field by pretending to be confused. Once, British Prime Minister Winston Churchill and his wife Clementina attended a dinner held by a certain dignitary.

During the dinner, a famous foreign diplomat secretly stuffed a small silver plate he liked very much into his bosom, but his little act was discovered by the careful hostess, and she was very anxious because the small silver plate The pan is part of her beloved antique collection and is very important to her. what to do?The hostess had an idea and thought of asking Mrs. Churchill to "take" the silver plate back, so she told Clementina about it.After some thought, Mrs. Churchill whispered something to her husband. I saw Churchill nodded with a smile, then used a napkin as a cover, and "stealed" the same small silver plate, then approached the diplomat, and mysteriously took out the small silver plate in his pocket and said: "I I took the same little silver plate, but our clothes have been soiled, so we should put it back." The diplomat fully agreed, and the two put the plate back on the table, and Silver The plate is returned to the original owner.

On many occasions, many people are unwilling to pretend to be confused. They want to distinguish between everything and who is right. In fact, this approach is unwise.This can only make things worse and worse, and in the end it will not be resolved.If you pretend to be confused and leave room for others, you also leave room for yourself. Confusion is a kind of great wisdom, it can make you sober and calm; it can make you magnanimous and tolerant, and it can calmly look at the troubles and intrigues in the world; it can make you super-utilitarian, Be super-worldly and be kind to everything in the world, so that you can live in a busy city and have a peaceful heart, treat people with tolerance first, and live in a calm and comfortable manner.

In ancient times, there was a man named Han Qi who worked with Fan Zhongyan to promote the New Deal and served as prime minister for a long time in the Northern Song Dynasty. When Han Qi was guarding the Daming Mansion, someone presented him with two unearthed jade cups. These two jade cups are flawless on the outside and inside, and are rare treasures.Han Qi cherished it very much and gave a lot of silver to the presenter.Every time there is a big banquet for guests, a table is always set up, covered with brocade, and the two jade cups are placed on it for use.As a result, once when he was persuading him to drink, he was accidentally bumped to the ground by an official and smashed to pieces.The officials present were stunned, and the official who broke the jade cup was also frightened and stupid, lying on the ground and begging for punishment.But Han Qi remained unmoved, and said to the guests with a smile: "Every treasure has a certain amount of time to be completed or destroyed. When it should be donated, no one can keep it when it should be destroyed." Facing to the officials lying on the ground, he said: "You missed by accident, it was not intentional, what crime is there?" These words are very wonderful!The jade cup has been broken, and it cannot be restored no matter what, so scold and beat up the perpetrator, suddenly there will be another enemy, and all the guests will be very embarrassed, and a good party will break up unhappy, which will greatly damage own image.As soon as Han Qi said this, he immediately won the praise of everyone, and the perpetrator was even more grateful to him, and he was willing to do his best for him.

When talking about Han Qi in the Yuan Dynasty, Wu Liang said: "Han Qi is very talented, simple and honest by nature, and doesn't care about small things like lumps and bumps. No one in the world can compare his credit. He has risen to the top of his officials, but he is not complacent; No matter what the situation is, he can deal with it calmly, not being led away by other things, and never cheating in his life. In dealing with the world, being reused, he immediately Discuss matters fairly in the imperial court with the literati; if not being reused, go home and enjoy family happiness, all out of sincerity." Han Qi has been in a dangerous position all his life, but he has always been invincible, why is this?As he himself said: "Nothing in the world is completely satisfactory. You must treat it with a peaceful mind. If you don't, you can't even live a day. Even when you are with a villain, you must treat it with a peaceful mind." Treat each other with sincerity. It’s just that you know he’s a villain, so you’ll have less contact with him.” This is the secret of Han Qi’s superiority in life.