Chapter 83 Humor is the bridge to social success

What are the social benefits of humor? Let's take a look at some people's summary of this: Humor is a bridge, a bridge that connects people's hearts. A humorous person is the most humane, and everyone will feel happy when getting along with a humorous person. Humor enables people to interact positively with each other. Humor reduces tension and creates a relaxed atmosphere. Humor is an art and an indispensable comedy in life.Because of its existence, the world is full of joy. Humor is a kind of talent, a kind of strength, and a kind of civilization created by human beings in the face of common life difficulties.It expresses people's sincerity, generosity and kindness of heart in a pleasant way.It is like a bridge that narrows the distance between people and bridges the gap between people. It is an indispensable thing for those who strive to make progress and those who hope to establish a good relationship with others, and it is also for everyone who wants to reduce the pressure in their lives. The "crutch" that must be relied on.

While the power of humor won't make you grow taller or lose weight, pay your bills, or get your job done, it does help you with your relationship problems and your relationships with others.Never lose sight of this magical power when you're hoping to become a person who can overcome obstacles and win the likes and trust of others. The characteristic of humor is to make people laugh, make people happy, joyful and cheerful. Applying this characteristic to social life will achieve amazing results.Let's take a closer look at the importance of humor in communication. Psychologist Catherine told us: "If you can make a person have a good impression of you, then it is possible to make everyone around you, even the whole world, have a good impression of you. As long as you are not Shake people's hands everywhere, but spread your message with your kindness, your wit, your wit, and the distance disappears."

Modern humor theory holds that humor can generate a strong sense of companionship and consistent external aggression among participants.Humor can shorten the emotional distance between two people at once, because people who laugh together show that they already have common interests and hobbies. This is the first and crucial step for social success. There are countless examples of two people who are hostile to each other, laughing at each other and turning enemies into friends because of humor.Really smart people always rely on humor to make social interactions smoother and more humane.If you want to be successful, to be noticed, to be socially successful, to be invincible in modern life, then you should learn to create a little humor and a shared laugh with others.

Bode said: "A person with a sense of humor will discover the interesting side of things from time to time, appreciate the light side of life, and establish his own unique style and humorous attitude towards life. Such a person is easy to get close to ; Such a person makes those who are close to him share a relaxed and happy atmosphere; such a person can add more splendor to life." Humor is very easy to get close to the hotline of emotion. Like the spring breeze, it fills the communication field with joy and expresses your sincerity and warmth. Lincoln, the former President of the United States, who was deeply loved by the American people, was ugly, which was originally an obstacle to likability.Lincoln recognized this, but instead of avoiding it, he used it to bring people closer.

Once, Lincoln's political opponents said that Lincoln was a double-dealer.Lincoln said with a peaceful attitude: "Now, let the audience judge and see, if I had another face, would I still wear this ugly face?" Humor shows Lincoln's optimistic attitude towards himself, embodies His sincerity has won people's understanding, and it has revealed the humanity and human touch that people need. Humor can ease the intensified conflicts, avoid embarrassing scenes, resolve the antagonism between the two sides, and solve the problem better.The American writer Trudeau said: "When we need to change the attitude of others from negative to positive, the power of humor has a persuasive effect, and it is almost an effective prescription." He also said: "Humor helps you solve interpersonal problems. .When you hope to become a person who overcomes obstacles and wins the love and trust of others, never ignore this mysterious power."

Humor is the art of connecting minds.With the power of humor, people break their shells, actively communicate with others, touch the hearts of diaphragms, and make people feel your frankness, sincerity and kindness through humor. In serious conversations and routine exchanges, people often give people a feeling of wearing a mask, which can only let people understand your appearance, but cannot detect your heart. This kind of communication is extremely difficult to go deep, and without The social communication of spiritual communication cannot be regarded as a successful social communication.

A person must not only be good at teasing others humorously, but also be able to accept humorous teasing from others, so as to win friendship and successfully establish social relationships.In any social group, whether you are just an ordinary member or a leader, if you are good at using the power of humor, you can benefit yourself a lot, and you will be able to succeed in social activities with ease. Humor allows people to see another side of you, a side that seems more human, essential, and simple, which is what all human beings have in common. The Austrian master of psychoanalysis Freud said: "The most humorous person is the most adaptable person." Indeed, humor can make us cope with ease in social situations, and use humor to resolve various crises and difficulties.

Once, Churchill, the British Prime Minister and Army Commander-in-Chief, went to inspect a unit.It had just rained, and when he was descending the steps after giving a speech on the temporary stage, he accidentally fell a somersault because of the slippery road.The soldiers, who had never seen their commander-in-chief stumble, laughed loudly, and the accompanying officers were bewildered and at a loss as to what to do.Churchill smiled slightly and said: "This is more inspiring to the soldiers' fighting spirit than the speech just now." The effect is indeed as Churchill joked. Commander-in-Chief's order, to fight valiantly.

With humor, we can answer questions we would rather not answer.A Finnish architect speaks so slowly that when journalists visit him, he always worries about running out of time.In desperation, he had no choice but to say: "Mr. Sha, time is running out, can you please speak quickly?" After hearing this, Mr. Sha slowly took out his pipe, lit it, and said lazily : "No, sir, but I can say less." Use humor to resolve difficulties, answer difficult questions, safeguard one's own interests, defend one's dignity, without hurting the other party's feelings, and achieve good results, which are incomparable by other means.

In short, using the power of humor, we can be on the road to success through successful networking.