Chapter 7 Chapter Seven Public and Private Must Be Distinct

Leaders who don't distinguish between public and private, who benefit from public interests or lack justice will not have prestige in the minds of their subordinates.Therefore, avoid false public affairs for personal gain.Distinction between public and private is the standard for a leader to use power.Only in this way can one stand upright and manage one's subordinates well, otherwise, one will fall into the trap of selfish desire and cannot extricate oneself, causing a devastating blow. The distinction between public and private is an ancient precept for using power. For a leader or business executive, public and private cannot be satisfied at the same time, and selfishness will inevitably harm the public!Leaders or supervisors who harm the public because of personal interests will have no prestige in the eyes of their subordinates.Once a person becomes a supervisor, his self-esteem will increase accordingly, and he will often feel that he is neglected inexplicably. When others whisper or discuss things in secret, he will feel very uncomfortable. Manager Li of an information company is like this :

"Manager, please sign the contract amendment." "Why didn't you discuss it with me first? I didn't know about it at all." "But didn't I come to tell you now?" "You have made your own decision a long time ago! It can be seen that you don't take me seriously at all. I can't sign." Examples like this are common.Indeed, it may not be polite for a manager to do so without prior discussion.But the manager doesn't have to hold grudges because of this. How can he benefit himself by hindering the work in this way? As a supervisor, "not knowing" and "not understanding" are your own fault, and you should not blame your subordinates.In normal times, supervisors should do more investigations and listen to reports from subordinates; or inspect the work status of various departments to understand their actual work conditions.A supervisor who cannot control the behavior of his subordinates is a poor supervisor.Similarly, as a leader, it is best not to have such a situation of harming the public because of personal interests.

As a leader of a modern enterprise, only selflessness can be fearless!I believe that everyone will treat their subordinates fairly in their work positions.But what is "fair"?How do you know if you are treating your subordinates fairly?The key to making judgments is to be unselfish, that is, not to consider your own interests. For example, assigning tasks.When encountering a difficult job, don't think about the rewards or praise you will receive after the person you appoint successfully completes the task, and don't try to plunder it because the job is easy and you can get benefits, trying to do it yourself.Such thoughts will greatly reduce the confidence of your subordinates in you.Because your attempts are easily seen through by your subordinates.Because no matter when, looking from top to bottom, it is often difficult to know the truth.However, looking from the bottom up, you get roughly everything right.

As far as the interests of the company are concerned, you must make a comprehensive judgment from the importance and urgency of the work, and in the judgment process, you must not mix the slightest self-interest.You consider the overall situation of the work and the future development of the company, and you can start to do it openly.However, you must handle disputes among group members well.In this sense, you have chosen the hard way. A supervisor who guides his subordinates should always care for the weak.However, paying too much care is sometimes not helpful.The best tip is to be a selfless leader.

The real distinction between public and private requires not only avoiding public harm to personal interests in major matters, but also requiring attention to details.Because the big picture, like the details, can reflect the principle of a person's position.Leaders must also be strict with themselves in the details. Young people are very sensitive to the daily affairs of leaders.In this society full of dissatisfaction and suspicion, as a leader, as long as there is a little bit that cannot be confessed to everyone, it will not be able to win the hearts of new employees and subordinates.

There is an example to illustrate the above point.The practice of using communication expenses to facilitate negotiations has always been common in the past, but this will also cause many problems. For example, new employees often have doubts about the communication expenses owned by their superiors.Regardless of whether it is for work or for the company's customers, as long as the supervisor comes in and out of restaurants or bars, the suspicious eyes of new employees will focus on them.Once you find that the leader has something dishonest, although you don't say it, you will keep it in your heart.Although they also think that such people are very capable, they still feel that they cannot be trusted too much.In the future, even if the leader tells him a lot of truths, he will only refute or sneer in his heart.And now there are more and more young people who are disgusted with this practice.So although this kind of person is very good at negotiating with outsiders, he cannot be a good supervisor.Thus the days of abusing courtesies, or spending large sums of money on the object of a transaction to achieve one's purpose, are over.In the future, sincerity and hard work will become the passport of the transaction.If you want to gain the trust of these new employees, you must avoid using communication expenses too generously for official entertainment.

Here's another example: Some small businesses in a certain industry go bankrupt during bad times, but some of their peers ride out the bad times.What is the mystery of this?It is because these companies have always strictly abided by the rules of distinguishing between public and private, and everyone from the chairman to the ordinary staff has practiced this principle.How can these companies go bankrupt with such good employee leadership? That is to say, if ordinary subordinates all think: "In our company, everyone has a clear distinction between public and private", or "Our managers have no ulterior accounts", then when the company is in a downturn, labor and management can form a good relationship. One.Even if employees are cut salaries or bonuses, because they believe in the company's situation, they will not suspect that there is any "privacy", but will work harder to help the company tide over the difficulties.

But another situation is that some leaders will make people doubt: whether he is taking kickbacks.Did he lie about his entertainment expenses?Although there is no evidence, his actions are suspicious. Once someone casts such a shadow, everyone's favor for him will be greatly reduced.In addition, using public funds to socialize and drink is also the reason for the duplicity.Also, chatting about private affairs on the public phone, or affixing public stamps when writing private letters, etc., these small things can slowly make people's good impression of you bad. In the future business processing of the company, the idea of ​​taking advantage is absolutely unworkable.Self-interest must be used in a reasonable way, and must not take advantage of the public.The eyes of colleagues and leaders in the company are all on you. Smart people will never take advantage of the company.Therefore, you must let leaders, colleagues, and new employees know that you are a person who is never greedy.

In modern society, what is used to gain the trust of others?Is it the wrist?experience?Would you like to buy someone a drink?This can be difficult for new employees with diverse values ​​to figure out.But if you can stay clean, you can earn the trust of others. Our country has emphasized the importance of integrity since ancient times.To be a leader, you must avoid greed, even if you are only a small supervisor, you are still a leader.In the past society, talent and skills were highly valued, but in the future, honesty and self-discipline will be more important conditions.It will bring you unexpected power and become the driving force for new employees to convince you.So, what's the problem with "the water is clear and there are no fish"?In this era, the most important thing is to be able to exude the fragrance of incorruptibility differently, and only in this way can we win the trust of new employees.

So the wrist and strength you use must be clean and strong to be successful.If it is not clean, everything is equal to zero.And if there is a little selfishness in your experience, it will make people feel worthless. Therefore, to distinguish between public and private, we should start with small things. Leaders who do not distinguish between public and private often have the habit of placing confidantes.This kind of confidant is similar to the little pets of ladies and wives.Pets symbolize the special care that leaders have for them.Such an approach will definitely arouse the dissatisfaction of other subordinates.

A supervisor once said something like this: "Don't worry about scarcity, but worry about inequality." He believes that even if the salary is low and the work is heavy, if you are fair to your subordinates, you will not cause dissatisfaction.The implication is that inequality is an important cause of dissatisfaction among subordinates.This dissatisfaction with unfairness can explode into conflict.Therefore, subordinates must not be made to think that "their boss is unfair". If a leader wants to avoid such dissatisfaction and make himself trusted by others, he must be "fair and impartial" to his subordinates.And whenever and wherever, you should ask yourself: Am I fair now? The first thing to pay attention to is the emotional factor.For example: you like Xiao Zhang very much, and you want to reward him no matter what he does; work, you could be wrong.Some people like to place some pet-like subordinates around themselves. If you do the same, your "pet" may come back to bite you in the near future. Suppose you plan to go out to visit a client and negotiate business with him. "Pet" Chen knew about it, so he immediately called the other party and made an appointment with him.At the same time, we also organize all the information you need when negotiating business with customers.If you have to go on a business trip to a place a little farther away, he will prepare everything for you, ranging from transportation to booking a hotel.Maybe he will carry your briefcase for you, walk you to the platform, and finally, when the train comes into the station, he will bow and say: "Manager, go slowly." Watch you go.If the work goes well, Chen will say flatteringly: "As expected of the manager, I admire! Admire!" and hold a celebration banquet for you; on the contrary, if unfortunately the task is not achieved, he will comfort you: "Everything is due to the other party's dissatisfaction. Well, don’t worry too much, there are still many opportunities.” If you can have such subordinates who serve you in everything, then the company can be regarded as a happy place!However, where the sun shines, there must be shadows.In flattery, you lose opportunities for frustration, disappointment, and regret.At the same time, you cannot gain the courage and determination to make a comeback from failure.There are even scarier things.You like Chen, protect him, confide in him, and trust him completely.Before long, he will reveal your important secrets and give you false information, and you will have no doubts.In the end, what will happen to you?Needless to say, you understand it too! In short, the happiness brought to you by "pets" will definitely turn into pain one day. It is a normal thing in life to be close to one another and alienate one another, but as a leader, such things are absolutely not allowed to occur in work, otherwise, public and private will be indistinguishable, or private interests will harm the public. We can often see that there is a kind of person who keeps muttering: "No matter what, I can't develop a good impression of that person!" Or think that I am compatible with a certain type of person.The so-called "Theory of Yin-Yang and Five Elements" is caused by this kind of people's psychology.They believe that people born in Shenshi and Yinshi are prone to impulsiveness and stubborn personality. If they are unlucky and encounter such a boss, they will have to admit that they are unlucky.Because you can't avoid these people forever, and you can't express your likes and dislikes arbitrarily, the only way is to make him stand on the same stand with you as much as possible. Man, it's incredible to say the least.A cautious person will be quite careful when making friends, but not necessarily so when making enemies.Just blurt out: "I really hate that person." Soon, this sentence will spread to other people's ears, which will add a lot of unnecessary trouble. These people are psychologically immature people. They like to judge others' good or bad based on their intuitive impressions, but they make themselves unhappy!We all like to work with people we like, but in today's society, you may have to work in the same organization as someone you hate.Only by not arbitrarily dividing which people you like and which people you hate can you work happily with each colleague. A leader not only needs to have multiple talents, but also needs to care for his subordinates and treat them fairly.Caring for subordinates can increase their sense of belonging; but caring too much is emotional.For example, because of sympathy for a subordinate whose family member is sick, he transfers his workload to other subordinates; the former gets care, but it is extremely unfair to the latter, which affects the latter's work mood. In addition, some leaders think that listening to their subordinates describe unpleasant things in detail can make them vent their emotions, but they don't know how to control the situation, which makes the other party more and more disturbed.Sometimes, a subordinate appears to be grumpy due to family problems. It is enough for the superior to give appropriate comfort after listening to his confession. Don't make accommodations in actions because of this, so as to make the other party push forward.Otherwise, he will ignore your status as a leader, ignore the work you ordered, and think that he has a "golden medal for avoiding death" and can delay "according to orders". In private time, there can be friendship between leaders and subordinates, but in work, public and private must be distinguished and treated equally. Remember, it is not advisable to be close to one another, and only a bowl of water can give balance and care to subordinates.