Chapter 3 2. Be a natural teacher

Our job is not just to protect our child, but more importantly, to teach him how to protect himself when he becomes an adult. We teach him how to survive in the face of adversity, how not to be surprised, and even if we have to, how to survive on the ice of Iceland or the hot rocks of Malta. We tried our best to prolong his life, but death is an irresistible law of life.So our job is not to tell him how to avoid death, but how to learn to live. To be alive is not just to breathe, but to act, which requires us to engage our organs, our senses, our faculties, and everything else that belongs to our bodies.

The meaning of life is not determined by its length, but by how much we can get out of it. All the wisdom we have is slave prejudice.Everything around us limits, enslaves, and binds us all the time.As a member of a civilized society, we are powerless to escape the fate of slavery.We were born in slavery, grew up in slavery, and died in slavery. At birth we are swaddled in swaddling clothes, and at death we are crucified in coffins.As long as one is human, it is impossible to get rid of the constraints of institutions or customs. I have heard that some midwives believe that in order for the baby to have a beautiful head, you need to massage the newborn's head.Funny how people accept this too.Perhaps, God did not give us a beautiful head, so he sent a midwife to help shape the shape and let the philosopher fill the inside.

Coming out of the mother's womb, the baby can finally enjoy the freedom of stretching his limbs, but immediately after that, he was forcibly tied into the swaddle: he was placed upright on the bed, and his head was always fixed in the same position. The legs must be straight, the arms should be placed obediently by the side, and the body should be dressed in layers of clothes and tied with belts, so that one cannot move one's body at all. In this way, the baby's original motor instinct and growth drive are all killed.He was struggling in vain in his swaddling baby, but his efforts were all in vain, and the final result could only be to delay his development.

It can be said that he is even more restrained and restricted than when he was in his mother's womb. I really can't see that birth is a happy thing for him. In places where children are not raised with care, children grow tall, strong, and well-proportioned.Instead, in places where children are wrapped up and cared for, the streets are filled with the hunchbacked, the lame, the stooped, and the disabled. In order to prevent our children from becoming deformed, we have taken various measures, but in the end it was just the opposite, and we personally molded our own children into cripples.

The characters and tempers of children who grow up in this bondage are not much better.The first feeling they experience in life is pain.They can't move their limbs according to their own wishes, even more uncomfortable than those prisoners whose hands and feet are handcuffed, but they can't do anything other than struggling and crying in vain. There is no doubt that the first sound in their lives is to cry, how can they not cry?They were ruthlessly bound from birth, and their first gifts in life were chains and torture. They can only express their dissatisfaction by crying, because voice is their only freedom.We don't need to criticize their crying, if it were us, we might cry even harder.

This folly comes from a practice contrary to nature.Mothers are reluctant to fulfill their responsibilities, leaving the task of feeding their children to nannies. Since they were not their own children, those nannies didn't have the instinct to be mothers at all, so to save trouble, they wrapped the children in the package, then put them aside and let them cry. As far as the nanny is concerned, as long as the master does not show that she does not care about the child, as long as the child is not physically disabled, it does not matter if the child dies or remains weak all his life.Even if something happens to the child, it has nothing to do with them.

In this way, these nannies can save a lot of things.And the mothers of those children thought that their children were well taken care of, so they went to the city to have fun all day long, and left their children in the countryside, regardless of their life and death. When the nannies are busy, they leave the child aside as if the child were just a bag of rags.As long as the nanny is busy, the child will continue to suffer from this pain. The children who were treated in this way turned blue because their chests were tightly bound, and the blood was flooded in their heads and could not circulate.People think that the child wants to calm down subjectively, but in fact it is because the child has no strength to cry anymore.I think it is very difficult for such a child to live for a long time.

It has been said that if children are given freedom to move their limbs as they please, they will make movements that interfere with their normal development and thus develop bad posture.This statement sounds reasonable, but it is actually nonsense. The baby is not strong enough to make movements that could injure his body.As long as there is a slight pain, his consciousness will immediately make him stop this behavior.Take those kittens and puppies, don't we just put them in the swaddle and take good care of them, don't they still develop well? Indeed, babies' bodies are bulkier, but they are also very weak. They can hardly move their bodies, so how can they do things that hurt themselves?

In order to change this atmosphere, the child must be nurtured by his own mother first. Only in this way can the most natural and authentic human emotions be awakened, and the country will become prosperous.As long as this can be achieved, everything can be restored. A good family life is the key to resisting the bad ethos of society.Children's troubles and noises can enliven the atmosphere at home, and the relationship between father and mother will become more harmonious. The house is full of laughter and laughter, the women are willing to do housework, and the husband is willing to come back often for reunion.Once a woman is able to play the role of wife and mother, the man can take on the responsibility of husband and father.

However, the actual social atmosphere is quite the opposite.Mothers who raise their children themselves struggle with those around them who disagree.Not only did they not do this kind of behavior, they even formed a group to oppose this kind of behavior. There are also some simple and kind-hearted mothers who dare to stand up against those who defend the unhealthy atmosphere, and faithfully fulfill the noble mission that nature bestows on women.Hopefully these mothers will be rewarded for their nobility, and that reward will inspire more mothers to join them. I can assure you that these respectable mothers are cared for by their husbands, filial to their children, and loved by the general public.I can assure you that they did not suffer any pain or any sequelae during childbirth.I can assure you that in the future they will be role models for their own daughters, and their daughters will be emulated by others' daughters.

Mother and child have the obligation to take care of each other, and what kind of mother there will be what kind of child.If the mother fails to fulfill her duty to support her child, then the child will not fulfill her duty to support her mother. Only when a child knows that he should love his mother, will he love his mother.If the bond of flesh and blood is not strengthened by a mother's love, it will not be long before it dies away.In this way, parents' education of their children has been out of nature as soon as it starts. The result of pampering children too much is the same as not caring about them at all, and it will also lead to being out of nature in the end. Such a mother often regards her own child as her idol, and in order to protect the child from harm, she makes the child even more vulnerable to harm. She didn't want her child to encounter cruel rules of survival or difficult living conditions, but she didn't know that she saved the child from minor disasters now, but imposed greater disasters on him in the future.She nursed her child with care, she made him weaker, completely deprived him of the ability to suffer alone. There is a fable that goes like this: In order to train his son to be an invulnerable person, Taitis soaked him in the water of the River Styx.The moral of this parable is clear at a glance.But those cruel mothers did the exact opposite, soaking their children in hot springs all day long. This approach seems to be taking care of the child, but it is actually pushing the child into the abyss of suffering.In such an environment, all kinds of germs swarm in and enter the children's bodies through their pores. After they grow up, these germs will evolve into diseases and erode the children's bodies bit by bit. Listen to the voice of nature and follow its lead.Nature puts children through various exercises from an early age, and it uses cruel tests to make them understand what pain and struggle are. When teething, they have a high fever; when stomach aches, they convulse; when coughing, they breathe hard; intestinal worms invade their bodies; plethora of blood corrupts their blood; Rashes threaten their tiny bodies. They pass their infancy amidst disease and danger, but after these trials the child becomes more tenacious.When they start to live independently, the effect of this law will become more and more obvious. This is the law of nature, we must abide by it, otherwise, we will not only ruin our children, but also waste our energy.This truth is so simple and easy to understand, should we still be obsessed with it?We think that the dangers are far greater outdoors than indoors, but spreading the dangers means reducing the dangers. As a rule of thumb, pampered children are more likely to die.As long as we take good care of them and prevent them from doing things beyond their abilities, the danger of letting them use their physical strength is much less than cherishing their physical strength. We have to train our children from an early age so that they can bear the hardships in the future alone.We want to exercise their strong bodies so that they can withstand the cruel seasons and the blows of wind and rain, and endure the ravages of hunger and fatigue.So, soak our children in the river Styx. When it comes to parenting, we need to take the long view and arm our children before pain strikes. If children are learning how to survive until they are able to survive on their own, it is a real way to teach them to experience less suffering in childhood, but to make them incapable of facing hardship at a rational age. It's stupid!Is this the so-called teacher's education? Life is alive, accompanied by pain all the time.The adult's care of the child also makes him closely related to pain.Fortunately, the pain a child suffers in childhood is only physical, far less tragic and intense than other pains, and is insignificant compared with those that make people despair. In my opinion, physical pain such as gout will not make a person think of suicide, only psychological pain will make a person pessimistic and hopeless. Our hearts are filled with sympathy for the fate of children.But in fact, the one we should sympathize with most is ourselves, and all the disasters in life are caused by ourselves. With the sound of crying, a child comes into this world and spends the entire infancy crying. We beat them, scolded them, or coaxed them to stop their crying.Either they make us happy, or we make them happy; if they don't obey us, we obey them; if they don't order us, we order them.There is no room for compromise in our relationship with them. In this way, the first ideas formed in the children's minds are domination and slavery.Before they learned to speak, they began to command others; before they learned to walk, they began to obey others; before they had the concept of right and wrong, they did not know where they were wrong, and they began to accept punishment. We put these ideas into their young minds with our own hands, and when the child turns bad, we say that it is nature. If a child has been reared by such a woman for a long time, within six or seven years he will fall prey to her and her impractical ways. The mother teaches the child how to behave and pours into his head a whole lot of words that he does not understand.These emotions hang over children all the time, suffocating them until they lose their nature. Afterwards, the artificial child was sent to school, and the teachers continued to raise them in the same way as their mothers.The teachers just blindly instill all kinds of knowledge into them, but never teach them how to know themselves, how to face life, how to maximize strengths and avoid weaknesses, and how to pursue happiness. In the end, this is what our child has become: a tyrant and a slave, learned but irrational, fragile in mind as in body.Such children throw themselves into society, and soon reveal their stupidity, ignorance, arrogance, and all kinds of bad habits, and we begin to lament that they are simply the source of human misery and degradation. But we are all wrong, such a child is only a figment of our imagination, and a natural man is completely different from it. In order to maintain the child's nature, we should start working hard from the day the child is born.From when he first came into the world to when he grew up, we must not give up this effort, otherwise we will never succeed. If the mother is the child's nanny, then the father is the child's teacher.Although his father is limited in ability, he is very enthusiastic.The father's enthusiasm more than makes up for his lack of ability, and those teachers, no matter how capable, are of no use if they do not have enthusiasm for educating children. However, for fathers, the duties of being a father seem to be placed in the least important position for all kinds of things and jobs that should be done.We need not be surprised at this point. Mothers do not want to feed their children, and fathers naturally do not want to educate their children. Such a child is forced to leave his family, to live in a boarding school, a public school, or a parochial school, and thus develop the habit of not being loving. In such a family, several children are very strange to each other, even if they get together, they will be as reserved and polite as when they get along with outsiders. Under such circumstances the child is liable to acquire all kinds of bad morals and habits.I think the reason for this is obvious. If it is just to give birth to children, then the father has only fulfilled 1/3 of his responsibilities.For human beings, fathers have the responsibility of raising children; for society, fathers have the responsibility of cultivating social people; for the country, fathers have the responsibility of cultivating citizens. Any man who fails to fulfill these three responsibilities is guilty, and if he fulfills only part of them, his guilt may be even greater. Poverty, work, public opinion or any other reasons are no excuses, we must fulfill the above three responsibilities unconditionally.Hear me, my readers, no matter how important a man may be, he should put such a sacred duty first, or he will pay for his mistakes, and no one will ever pay for them. He comforts. Suppose there is such a rich man who is so busy working all day that he has no time and energy to raise his children, what would he do?Here's what he's likely to do: Pay someone to look after his kids for him. In the eyes of a person like him, money is omnipotent, but he doesn't know that no amount of money can buy a good father for his children.Not to mention being a good teacher, the hired person is at best a slave.Give your child to a slave to take care of, and sooner or later the child will become a slave. What qualities do you have to be a good teacher?There are many opinions on this question.The most important of these, I think, is that the teacher must never be a hired person.The profession of teaching is so noble that those who do it for money are unworthy of it. Someone will ask, "Who is going to educate my children?" There is only one answer, and that is you.If you don't have the time or the ability yourself, let your friends do it instead, and there's nothing else to do. When thinking deeply about this problem, I found many difficulties.If a teacher wants to educate students, he must first be educated; if a servant wants to serve his master, he must first be trained.What can a man who is not even educated himself be expected to teach his children?Such people are so rare that I don't know if I can find them. Where can a man's soul be noble in this depraved age?I believe that if a father can truly realize the value of a good teacher, he will not entrust his children to others to train, but will take on the responsibility of educating them himself.