Chapter 54 Create your own leadership qualities

In modern enterprises, the unique charisma and temperament of leaders play an increasingly important role in corporate activities.The research results of modern management psychology tell us that only 60% of the enthusiasm of the subordinates can be mobilized by means of incentives such as salary, bonus, and benefits, while the remaining 40% of the enthusiasm needs to be mobilized by the charismatic leadership behavior of the leader.It can be seen that to be an excellent female leader, one must not only be a fighter who can lead subordinates and teams to achieve extraordinary results, but also a person with multi-faceted personality charm.

It can be seen that on the stage leading to career success, female leaders must be good at using their own temperament and have a leadership demeanor.And with the continuous growth of the female leadership team, it is very necessary for women to consciously cultivate and enhance their leadership qualities.Female leaders should consciously change their temperament, you can refer to the following methods: Women are often emotional, and sometimes they like to act emotionally when doing things.The most important aspect of building a leadership temperament is to control and grasp one's own emotions.This is because people who are not good at self-control cannot effectively manage and influence others; but only those who have good self-control can control their emotions with reason, deal with various complex problems calmly, and achieve "being proud but not forgetting the form, Only when you are happy without losing your demeanor can you set an example for your subordinates, and he (she) will follow suit.

Women's hearts are often fragile, and their will is prone to change.But in the workplace, as a female leader, you need to know that your will affects the entire team. If the leader’s will is not strong, he seems hesitant and has no independent opinions, he will give others the impression that he cannot be sure of himself, and naturally he will Failure to lead others will eventually lead to the disintegration of people's hearts and cause failure in career. As a female leader, she is undoubtedly the soul of the team, a role model and a spiritual pillar for her subordinates.Then, a female leader's mind and spirit have become a measure of whether she is loved by her subordinates and can lead her subordinates.Many women are more likely to show jealousy and jealousy in the workplace. As middle-level female managers, they must overcome this shortcoming.You have to know that only by accommodating capable people can you use the abilities of capable people and let them work for you willingly, so as to achieve your success.

As a female leader, in addition to seeing people with your eyes, you should also listen to people with your "ears", discover people with your heart, and listen to what others say, which is sometimes more real than what you see.This is because one pair of eyes sees only one side of the matter, while multiple pairs of eyes can show things in all directions, so that you can feel your work and your subordinates with your heart.In fact, in the personality comparison between men and women, women are often more patient, so it is easier to play the role of a good listener in interpersonal communication.

As a leader, you may encounter all kinds of people. There will be many different types of people in your team, aggressive, passive, obedient, resistant, capable, and average. wait.But you should know that no matter what kind of person he is, no matter where he comes from, what kind of family background, what kind of education level, what kind of personal habits, etc., they always have their own independent personality and dignity. One thing you must give unconditional respect.Even when criticizing them due to mistakes in work, it must be done under the premise of respecting the personality and dignity of the other party, so as to be right about the matter and not about the person.

After the leader has a high quality, when faced with some difficult problems, he still needs to use his brain and think more, not to listen to or believe in, and to cultivate his own independence.Work is better than diligence, idleness is the taboo of a leader, don't think about work, spend too much time and energy on entertainment, and some decision-making matters rely on think tanks, and they can't do it either. a good job.If it is said that in private communication, women can still get the care and love of men, then it is impossible to get the courtesy of male colleagues at work. Female leaders must firmly believe this.If you are competent, male colleagues will feel threatened, otherwise he will sneer.Therefore, in the workplace, although a woman can get a lot of care from a man in words, no one will really help you when it comes to the actual situation. Remember that the only thing you can rely on is yourself.

A female boss must not shed tears in front of others, no matter how big or difficult you are, or how difficult it is to solve.Although it is easy for women to cry to get what they want, in a working environment, the expression of such feminine emotions is intolerable in the workplace.Women's weakness may be sympathetic on other occasions, but in the workplace, this kind of behavior will not only damage your dignity, but also have a negative impact on your career image.In some situations, a man can accept the tears of some women, but not a female boss. If you want others to trust and respect you, you must first let others know yourself.And the easiest, most direct, and most effective way to let others understand yourself is to communicate with them.Therefore, leaders must often communicate their emotions, attitudes and views on things with their subordinates.Sincerity and frankness are the basis or prerequisite for good communication results. Make your subordinates feel your sincere attitude and make them feel that you are sincerely willing to make friends with them.

After your subordinates generally accept you as a human being, you should properly demonstrate your knowledge and talents to them, so that they can truly admire you, and thus be more willing to believe in your leader. He has no idea, is dragged along by orders and instructions from superiors, and loses direction in his own management work.Sometimes the superior leader may not fully understand the actual situation. When he understands the superior’s instructions, he should act with his own ideas, and the task will be completed better. Be ruthless, and under any circumstances, you must clearly convey instructions and have your own position.Mother-in-law and mother-in-law, nagging is a taboo for a female executive, and she must not show indecisive femininity.Female leaders should focus on work, be generous and confident, and lead by example, so that they can be role models and calmly face management problems.

We all play many different roles throughout our lives, such as: daughter role, student role, employee role, leader role, wife role, friend role, mother role, and so on.And any role has its specific environment and occasion.If the role and the situation are not suitable, it will have many adverse effects.Appropriately strengthen their awareness of different roles.In formal occasions, you should be "like a leader", be decisive and capable, have a strong sense of responsibility, have clear and clear thinking, have a far-sighted vision, take the overall situation into consideration, and adhere to principles. , not bureaucratic, patient listening, flexible handling.Being able to strictly separate work from life is an important basic skill for leaders, and it is also an objective need for leaders to give people a sense of beauty in their words and deeds.If this is not the case, the more randomness in the leadership behavior of the leader will make people feel that the leader regards work as a joke; the seriousness of leadership activities in life will make people feel that the leader is deliberately putting on a show, annoying.

Of course, in the workplace, most of the female executives come from marketing and public relations departments, and in those fields, women's gender advantages can be brought into full play.However, after reaching the top level and becoming a business leader who needs to see the overall situation from a macro perspective, many of the advantages that once enabled women to succeed will turn into factors that hinder progress.In this case, female leaders should use their strengths and avoid weaknesses in order to achieve greater achievements. In this regard, women should avoid two extreme mistakes that hinder their management work:

Many female leaders often only consciously imagine themselves as a woman.They think that because they are women, they can bear less pressure, be irresponsible or less responsible, and even confide in others, etc. But in the workplace, although women can get a lot of verbal help from men, they will never get real help from men.Only when female executives truly assume the role of "leader" and put themselves on the same starting line or at the same competitive point as men, will they be able to do their jobs well without any psychological and emotional burden. This is one extreme, and some female executives come across as more "manly" than men.In the concept of these female executives, they often easily believe that their achievements and skills are not as good as men, and they often do not have enough confidence to believe and recognize their own abilities.No matter what job they do, they always feel that they have to be better than their male colleagues, otherwise they will be regarded as inferior to their male colleagues.Therefore, in actual work, these female executives will unknowingly prove their abilities by surpassing the goals of their male colleagues.In the end, in order to strengthen their leadership position, or to weaken their image of being weak as a woman, they often become particularly tough and even domineering: they say what they say, demand absolute obedience from their subordinates, and they beat the table to lose their temper like men , speaking foul language like men or even drinking too much alcohol, and their personalities and tempers gradually weakened their femininity and became masculine with the development of their careers.