Chapter 20 Close the door to indecision

To be successful, you must have such qualities: have a strong desire and maintain this enthusiasm for a long time, have tenacious perseverance to climb mountains; the most important thing is to believe that you will succeed. On a radio show, I was asked to describe the most important lesson I've ever learned in three sentences.Here's what I said: "The most important lesson I've ever learned is that our thoughts are very important to us. If I can know your thoughts, I can understand you as a person because it is your thoughts." Makes who you are. By changing our thoughts, we can change our lives.”

Now that you have set your goals toward building self-confidence and being able to have effective conversations, start today by actively envisioning that your efforts will be successful.You must be relaxed and optimistic about the results of your efforts to speak in front of the public.Put the stamp of resolution on every word, every action, and do all you can to cultivate it. Here's a story that speaks volumes for this: It takes gritty determination for anyone who wishes to rise to the challenge of language and to be able to speak succinctly.The person in the story has now climbed the high business ladder and become a legend in the business world.But when he was in college, he stood up to speak in public for the first time, but failed because he was not good at words.Less than half of the five-minute speech stipulated by the teacher, he turned pale and walked off the podium with tears in his eyes.

Although he has such an experience, he is not reconciled to being knocked down by failure.He made up his mind to be an excellent speaker, and has been making unremitting efforts to this end, and finally became the government's economic consultant, admired by the world.He is Clarence B. Randall.He wrote many thought-provoking books, including a book called "Freedom of Faith" about his public speaking situation: "My speaking schedule is very tight, and I have to attend manufacturers' associations, the Ministry of Commerce, the Rotary Club, fund-raising meetings, rallies of alumni associations and other groups. I gave a patriotic speech in Eskenaba, Michigan calling for impassioned support for World War I; I went to the countryside with Mickey Ronney to give a charity speech Going to the countryside with Harvard President James Blount Conan and Chicago President Rob M. Hutchins to preach education; I even, once, gave an after-dinner speech in terrible French.

"I think I understand what the audience wants to hear, and how they like it to be said. The trick for the man in charge is this: There is nothing he can't learn if he's willing to learn it. .” I sympathize with Mr. Randall.The determination to succeed is the key to being an effective interlocutor.If I can understand your desires, determine the strength of your willpower, and whether you have an optimistic attitude, I can almost accurately predict how quickly you will improve your communication skills. In one of my classes in the Midwest, a guy named Joe Haversty stood up on the night of his lecture and said confidently that he wasn't content to be just a homebuilder, he wanted to be the National Association of Home Builders spokesperson.What he wants most is to travel up and down the country and tell people about his problems and achievements in the housing construction industry.Joe Haversty really walks the talk, he is the kind of student who makes teachers happy, with a fanatical pursuit of ideals.What he wants to talk about is not just local issues, but also national issues.He has never been half-hearted about this idea. He carefully prepares his lectures, practice hard, and never delays a class. Even in the busiest time of the year, he meticulously follows the tasks assigned by the teacher Do.As a result, he made rapid progress, which surprised even himself.In two months, he has become a leader in the training class and was elected as the monitor of the class.

About a year later, the teacher who led the class in Norfolk, Virginia wrote: "I had completely forgotten about Joe Haversty from Ohio until one morning, while I was eating breakfast, I opened the Guinea Guide, with a picture of Joe and a report in his praise: The night before, he was speaking at a big gathering of area builders. Joe was more than just a spokesman for the National Association of Home Builders , is the president!" Therefore, in order to be successful, you must have such qualities: have a strong desire and maintain this enthusiasm for a long time, have tenacious perseverance to climb mountains; the most important thing is to believe that you will succeed.

When Julius Caesar came from High House, crossed the Channel, and landed with his legions in what is now England, how did he make his army successful?Very clever method: he took his army to the chalk cliffs of the Strait of Dover, and made his soldiers look at the burning ships two hundred feet below--in enemy country, the last link with the mainland was gone, and the hope of retreat was destroyed by fire. Burned, the only thing left to do is: move forward!conquer!Caesar and his legions did just that. This is the immortal Caesar spirit.When it comes to conquering the fear of facing an audience, why not make that spirit your own?Throw every bit of negative thought into the raging fire, and close the door behind you to the indecision of the past.