Chapter 8 Chapter 7 Self-achievement, the perfect transformation from good to great

Never imitate others, stay true to yourself. Can you still remember when we were young?How afraid we were of being “different” from our friends back then.We love doing the same things as them and care deeply about what our friends and playmates think of us.How urgent it is for us to be accepted by our fellows—what a proof of our existence!When the standards of our peers conflict with the standards our parents set for us, it can be very distressing for us. Yes, the young and the uninitiated are often afraid of being different...whether it's in their dress, their actions, their manner of speaking or their way of thinking, they try to be like the group they belong to and want to be recognized This circle happily accepts approval.As a parent, the most dreadful things to hear are: "Sally's mom made her wear lipstick", "Girls my age go out with boys", "My God! Do you want Am I a monster in other people's eyes? Nobody gets home before 11. It's corny!"

These young people struggle to be "like" their peers, and this is what causes their parents such a headache.Take a look at the famous words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, who never followed blindly: "When you want to be a real man, you must first abandon blind conformity. You know, your heart Integrity is absolutely inviolable... When you give up your own position and try to use someone else's point of view, mistakes are made..." Angelo Patry, author of thirteen books and thousands of newspaper articles on child training, once said: "The worst thing a man can do is not be himself and remain himself in body and mind .” But this phenomenon of imitating others is quite serious in Hollywood.The famous Hollywood director Sam Wood once said that the most troublesome thing for him is to help young actors overcome this problem: to maintain themselves.

Each of them wants to be a second-rate Lana Telles or a third-rate Clark Gable, and "the audience's got a taste of that," Sam Wood keeps admonishing them, "and they need something new now. "Sam Wood spent years in real estate before directing "Farewell, Mr. Hipps" and "The Bell Tolls," so he developed a kind of salesman personality of his own.He believes that some of the rules in the business world also fully apply in the film world.Totally imitating someone else will never accomplish anything. "I've learned from experience," says Sam Wood, "that it's safest to avoid actors who imitate others."

I also asked Paul Burnton, the HR director of an oil company, what the biggest mistake job candidates make.He has interviewed more than 6,000 people, and he has also written a book "Six Skills for Job Hunting", so he should know this question very well.He replied, "The biggest mistake job applicants make is not being themselves. They often can't answer questions honestly, and just want to say the answer he thinks you want to hear." But that doesn't help at all, because no one will. To listen to something that is untrue, false. Mrs. Edith Allred of North Carolina once sent me a letter.She wrote in the letter:

I'm a very sensitive and shy girl, I grew too fat and had a full chin which made me look even fatter, and my mother was very stuffy, she thought it was stupid to dress too nicely and fit too well It's easy to break, so it's better to make it wider, and she also asked me to dress like this.I never go to any parties and have nothing to be happy about.After school, I don't participate in any activities of my classmates, not even sports.I was extremely shy and always felt "different" from other people. Growing up, I married a gentleman who was a few years older than me, but still nothing changed for me.My husband's family is a steady and confident family.I want to be like them, but I just can't.I try to imitate them, but I always fail to do so.Several times they tried to help me break through myself, but it always backfired and pushed me into a worse situation.I was getting tense and irritable and scared to see any friends.I panic when I hear the doorbell.Then I failed completely.

I knew very well to myself that I was afraid that my husband would find out the truth one day, so every time I was in public, I tried to look happy, even pretending too much.I know I'm overacting because I'm dead tired for days after the event.In the end, I really doubted whether I had any need to continue living, so I started thinking about suicide. So what changed the woman who nearly killed herself?Just a casual remark.Mrs. Edith went on to write: It was just an accidental sentence that changed my life. One day, my mother-in-law talked to me about how she educated her children. She said: "No matter what happens, I insist on letting them keep their true colors..." "Keep My true self!" These words flashed through my mind like a ray of light, and I found that all my misfortunes originated from the fact that I had put myself into a pattern that did not belong to me.

I changed overnight!I started to be myself.I worked hard to study my personality, to recognize myself, and to find my own strengths.I learned how to match colors and choose clothes styles to show my own taste.I take the initiative to make friends.I joined a group—started out as a small group—and I was also terrified when they asked me to host an event.But every time I go on stage, I get more courage.It's been quite a long journey - but I'm a lot happier now than I was in the past.When I teach my own children, I make sure to teach them these lessons I learned the hard way: No matter what happens, always be who you are.

The problem of being who we are is "as old as man," said Dr. James Gordon Kilkay. "It is a problem of all mankind." Many mental, neurological, and psychological The cause is often their inability to be themselves. I know a bus driver's daughter who learned this lesson the hard way. She wants to be a singer, but unfortunately she is not good-looking, with a big mouth and buck teeth.The first time she sang in public at a nightclub in New Jersey, she kept trying to cover her teeth with her upper lip, and she was doomed to fail when she tried to look classy and ended up looking so different.

Fortunately, one of the men present that night thought she had a great singing talent. He said to her bluntly: "I saw your performance, and I can see what you are trying to hide. Do you think your teeth are ugly?" The girl was embarrassed, but the man continued, "So what about buck teeth? That's not a crime! Don't try to cover it up, just open your mouth and sing, the less you think about it, the more people will love you." Besides, these buck teeth that you are ashamed of now may bring you wealth in the future!" Kath Daly took the man's advice to put the buck teeth thing behind her, and from then on, she focused only on the audience.She sang with all her heart, and later became a top singer in movies and radio. Now, other singers want to imitate her.

William James once said that the average person's mental capacity usage rate does not exceed 10%, and most people don't know what talents they have.Compared with what we should have achieved, in fact, more than half of us are not awake.We use only a fraction of our physical and mental resources.People often live within the limitations we set. We have all kinds of resources, but we often fail to use them successfully. With so much untapped potential in you and me, why worry about not being like everyone else.You are unique in this world.There has never been anyone like you before, and there never will be.Genetics tells us that you are composed of 23 chromosomes from your father and mother. These 46 chromosomes determine your inheritance. There are hundreds of genes in each chromosome, and any single gene is enough to change a person's life. .

Indeed, the formation of human life is an awesome mystery. Even if your parents met and fell in love to conceive you, there is only a 1 in 300 trillion chance of having someone exactly like you, which means that even if you have 300 trillion siblings, they are all different from you.Is this just speculation?Of course not, this is entirely a scientific fact.If you don't believe me, read a book about it. I am well qualified to speak on this subject because I have experienced it myself, and it has been a painful and expensive experience.When I came to New York from the cornfields of Missouri, I signed up for the American Academy of Drama.I aspired to be an actor. At that time, I had a clever idea, a shortcut to success, such a simple and easy principle, I really don't understand how others can't think of it.The idea was to study the famous actors of the time; to combine their strengths and make it my own. How stupid!After spending years imitating others, I realized that I can't imitate anyone, I can only be myself.Such a painful experience should make me never imitate others for the rest of my life!But no, I'm so stupid, I have to go through another pain.A few years later, I was writing a book on public speaking.I had the same stupid idea of ​​borrowing some ideas from other books and compiling them into one book, an all-encompassing book.So I got a bunch of books on public speaking and spent a year taking their ideas and turning them into my articles.Finally, I found myself being a fool again.Turning other people's ideas into your own article will only make the article dry and boring, and no one will read it.So I threw all the results of this year's work into the wastebasket and started all over again. So what I'm trying to say is: you're a brand new you in this world, be happy for that!A smart leader knows how to make good use of his talents. He knows that everything is a manifestation of himself.Because you can only sing about yourself and draw about yourself.


Not everything works out to the desired desired outcome.Success is wonderful, but even if you fail, the wind of tomorrow continues to blow, and hope still exists. An entrepreneur once said: "For any company, if it wants to survive and gain a sense of pride in success, it must have a sound set of principles that all employees can follow, but the most important thing is that everyone must respect the principles. full of confidence." Self-confidence plays a very important role in a person's growth. It can support the strong to overcome difficulties and help the weak to succeed.A shrewd supervisor, to effectively mobilize his subordinates, will allow them to work in an atmosphere that can generate self-motivation, self-evaluation and self-confidence.And an excellent employee can achieve something only if he is full of confidence in his work and maintains enthusiasm and energy. Cairns is an ordinary repairman. Although his life is barely passable, he is still far from his ideal.Once, he heard that a maintenance company in San Francisco was recruiting, so he decided to give it a try, hoping to change to a job with a higher salary.He arrived in San Francisco on Saturday afternoon, and the interview was scheduled for Sunday. After dinner, he sat alone in the hotel room. For some reason, he thought a lot and recalled everything he had experienced in his mind.Suddenly he felt a kind of inexplicable annoyance: he is not a person with low intelligence, why he still achieves nothing and is worthless? He took out a pen and paper, and wrote down the names of four friends he had known for many years, who had higher salaries and better jobs than himself.Two of them were his neighbors who had moved to upscale housing, and the other two were his former bosses.He asked himself: Compared with these four people, apart from being inferior to them in work, what else is he inferior to them?Ingenuity?In good conscience, they are not much better than themselves. After a long time of thinking and reflection, he realized the crux of the problem - the flaws in his personality and emotions.In this respect, he had to admit that he was far behind them. Although it was 1 o'clock in the middle of the night, his mind was surprisingly clear.He felt that he saw himself clearly for the first time, and found that he could not control his emotions in the past, was impulsive, had low self-esteem, could not communicate with others on an equal footing, and so on. All night, he sat there examining himself.He found that since he was sensible, he was a person who was extremely unconfident, belittled himself, did not think about making progress, and muddled along; he always thought that he could not succeed, and never thought that he could change his personality flaws.Then, he decided that he would never have the idea that he was inferior to others, never demean himself, and must improve his emotional character to make up for his shortcomings. The next morning, he went to the interview with confidence and was hired without a hitch.In his opinion, the reason why he was able to get that job had something to do with the self-confidence he gained from the meditation and awakening the night before. Within two years of taking office, Keynes gradually established a reputation as an optimistic, witty, proactive, and enthusiastic person.The ensuing economic downturn has put the emotional element of the individual to the test.At this time, Keynes was already one of the few people in the industry who could do business.When the company made adjustments, it gave Keynes a considerable share and increased his salary. Success cannot come from the idea of ​​failure any more than a rose can grow in soil full of thistles.When a person is very worried about failure or poverty, when he is always thinking about the possibility of failure or poverty, he will form the impression of this failure in his subconscious mind, which will put himself in a more and more disadvantaged position. . One day I was giving a speech at a conference of industrialists held in a certain city's cultural center. As I was speaking on the podium, a man approached me step by step and said to me sincerely: "I have a very urgent and serious problem. , I wonder if I can talk to you in private?" After hearing this, I promised to talk to him in detail after the meeting. He explained to me: "I am going to start the biggest business of my life in this town. If I succeed, it will mean a lot to me; but if I fail unfortunately, I will lose everything!" After hearing these words, I comforted him first, hoping that he could relax, and then said to him tactfully: "Not everything can achieve the expected ideal results. Success is beautiful, but even if it fails, the wind of tomorrow is still the same." Just keep blowing, hope still exists." I enlightened and comforted him like this. However, he still said with a sad face: "However, there is one thing that bothers me a lot. I still can't have confidence in myself. I'm not sure about anything, and I can't even be sure whether I can really complete a thing smoothly." .Usually, my will is involuntarily depressed before things have even started. In fact, I am quite discouraged now." He continued, "Now, I am a middle-aged man of 40 years old, but I have been I am troubled by the feeling of inferiority, so I always have a negative attitude towards myself. Listening to your speech tonight, I hope to have a better understanding of what you said about the power of thinking. I want to know how to do so that I can Build confidence and affirmation in yourself.” I responded to the man in this way: "There are two ways to solve your problem: The first is to explore the source of the powerlessness. Of course, it will take a lot of analysis to find the source, but it is absolutely A necessary and important step. We must learn from the practice of scientists and use scientific methods to explore the causes of this sickness in life. However, this matter will never be answered in a short period of time, and it is impossible to be handy in a short period of time. Use, this is a remedy aimed at a permanent cure, and therefore not suitable for your immediate needs. But there is a temporary emergency solution to your immediate problems. I will give you a prescription, If you can use it properly, it must be able to effectively solve your difficulties." I continued to explain to him solemnly, "tonight, when you are walking on the street, you may wish to repeat silently the words I will tell you; when you get home, When lying in bed, repeat it to yourself several times. When you wake up tomorrow, remember to say this sentence 3 times before getting up. If you do this with a pious heart, you will gain Sufficient ability to face this problem. Of course, if possible, it is best to try to spend some time on basic research to analyze the problem. But regardless of the results of the research, I will now give you this prescription, It plays an absolutely important role in treatment." The content of this sentence is: "Pious faith has given me incomparable strength, and I can do everything." Since he had never heard this sentence before, I wrote this sentence on a card and handed it to him, and asked him to repeat it aloud 3 times.Then, he reminded me carefully again: "Then, just do what I just said! I believe everything will go well!" He stood up, first stood quietly on the spot, motionless, and then said to me with an excited expression and tone: "Okay, sir, I understand!" I watched his tall and chesty figure gradually disappear in the night, although the figure still looked a little sad, but looking at his posture of leaving proudly, it seemed like a silent hint that faith had sprouted in his heart . Later, the man thanked me and said to me: "This simple prescription really did a miracle for me." In addition, he also emphasized, "It's unbelievable. I can't imagine that such a small sentence can bring so much to people. Effect!" Later, he also applied scientific research methods to explore the reasons for his inferiority complex.As a result, the long-standing inferiority complex was finally removed.Most importantly, he really learned how to have faith and abide by certain teachings.He has gradually developed a strong, unwavering confidence, and now nothing is insurmountable to him, but completely in his hands.Such a change is astonishing, and a great deal of it is.His personality is no longer as negative and pessimistic as in the past, but full of positivity and fighting spirit. Now he will not be isolated from success, on the contrary, he will pull success to himself.What is especially certain is that he already has real confidence in his own abilities.


A successful businessman once advised his son: "No matter what you do, whether it is study, work or games, you must devote yourself to everything. Young people must remember: don't do things half-heartedly, let alone change your mind. Don't be an omnipotent piece of crap." The reason why many people in life cannot finally realize their teenage dreams is that they dabble in too many fields at the same time, which inevitably distracts their energy, which hinders their progress and makes them achieve nothing in the end.They did not adopt a more sensible approach, concentrating on a certain field, insisting on the green hills and not letting go, and eventually became invincible experts in this field; on the contrary, they chose to become three-legged cat-like figures in many fields, and they attacked everywhere , I have dabbled in everything, but they are all superficial, and I only know a little bit of superficiality in the end. A person who wants to "do something" must at the same time "do something not to do", and only those who strictly restrain themselves from "doing something not to do" can make great achievements.Only when a person treats the complexity and disturbance of the world with a detached attitude, can he devote all his strength to attack key areas and make breakthroughs in this field. No matter what we do, we must "grip" one place and attack persistently, only then can we make breakthroughs and make achievements.Everyone who is eager for success, especially those who are in the stage of starting a business, must always guard against themselves, don't spread the stalls, waste energy, don't think that only by attacking everywhere will you gain, but should be like an awl, drill one point, each Break through and let yourself show your strengths in a certain aspect, so that you can win greater success.Those who think they are multi-talented and energetic, turn out to seem to know everything, but actually know nothing. In this way, others stand in the world with dazzling specialties, but you can hardly match them, so you lose a lot. Opportunities for success. Once, a young man said to the entomologist Fabre distressedly: "I tirelessly devote all my energy to the cause of my hobby, but with little success." He is an aspiring young man who devotes himself to science." The young man said: "Yes! I love science, but I also love literature, and I am also interested in music and art. I spend all my time." Fabre from He took out a magnifying glass from his pocket and said, "Please try to concentrate your energy on a focal point, just like this convex lens." Dr. Matthews once said this: "Those who have many goals at once and spread their energies burn out quickly, and as the energy runs out, the original ambition wears down. " Owen Buxton also said: "If a person pursues only one goal in life--one goal, then in his lifetime, he is very likely to realize his wish. But if he likes everything If you see something different and change your mind, it’s like sowing seeds everywhere, but in the end you will get nothing, and you will regret it for the rest of your life.” A kind-hearted man saw that someone was about to nail a board to a tree for a shelf, so he went over to meddle in his business, and offered to help him. He said, "You should have sawed off the top of the board before you nailed it on." So he got the saw and saw it two or three times, and then gave up, saying he wanted to sharpen the saw.So he went to find the file again.Then I discovered that I had to install a comfortable handle on the file first.So he went to the bushes to look for small trees, but he had to sharpen the axe first.Sharpening the ax requires fixing the millstone in place, which inevitably requires the manufacture of wooden bars to support the millstone.A carpenter's bench is indispensable for making battens, but this is not possible without a complete set of tools.So he went to the village to find the tools he needed, but after leaving, he never came back. Those who are inattentive to the goal of struggle, vacillating from side to side, always looking for excuses for trivial tasks, slackening and avoiding, they are doomed to fail. Falwell Buxton attributes his success to hard work and perseverance towards a goal.In pursuit of a goal, he never gave himself up.It is his clear understanding and persistent pursuit of his own goal that brought about his final success.As people say, if you persevere and persevere, you can achieve everything; I don't know if you have noticed that although the point of a needle is almost invisible, and the blade of a razor or an ax is as thin as a sheet of paper, it is they that play the decisive role of pioneers in cutting through thorns and thorns.A needle or knife is useless without a point or blade.In life, those who can overcome difficulties and obstacles, and finally reach the pinnacle of success, must also be those who can specialize in a certain field, and thus have a sharp edge like a knife. If you teach your child to walk with concentration and focus from an early age, he will usually reach his destination without falling.On the contrary, if he is distracted, most of them will fall to the ground and get disgraced.Keep making your wine and you'll be London's greatest winemaker.But if you want to be brewer, banker, trader, and manufacturer, you will end up with nowhere and nowhere. Don't be broad and general, but be refined and specialized. This is the requirement of today's era.In this era when the division of labor in society is getting finer and the professional fields are getting more refined, if a person disperses his energy, he is doomed to fail. "I have moved goods, recorded messages, made rugs, and written poetry," were the words of a man in London who was mediocre in these fields, and who recalled a Monsieur Cornard in Paris, He is a "little well-known writer who knows a little accounting, a little botany, and French fries." The biggest difference between success and failure is not how much work a person has done, but how much meaningful work he has done.Among the losers, there are quite a few who have worked hard enough to achieve greatness; but their painstaking efforts are like building and destroying, and the final result is still a fragmented heap.They don't adapt to the environment and turn the products of their work into potential opportunities.They also failed to turn small failures into big opportunities for success.Their ability is not enough, and their time is not too much-these are the warp and weft lines of success, but what they push back and forth is an empty loom, and a thread on the real web of life is worthless. Not hung up. Let's learn from Bob's lesson.Bob had little education, but his father left him a large sum of money. He put out 100,000 US dollars to invest in a gas plant, but the coal needed to make gas was expensive, which made him lose money.So he transferred the gas plant for $90,000 and started a coal mine.But that's no luck, because mining machinery is prohibitively expensive.Therefore, Bob sold his shares in the mine for $80,000 and transferred to the coal mining machinery manufacturing industry.Since then he has slid in and out of the various branches of industry concerned like a proficient skater, endlessly. A few years pass, Bob achieves nothing, and the $100,000 is gone.What's even more frightening is that he even has this kind of attitude in his life. He fell in love with a girl at first sight, and confessed his affection to her very frankly.In order to make himself worthy of her, he began to cultivate himself spiritually and morally.He attended a Sunday school for a month and a half, but soon ran away of his own accord.Two years later, when he felt that his conscience was clear enough to propose, the girl had already married a fool. Soon, he fell in love with a charming girl with five younger sisters.However, when he went to the girl's house, he fell in love with the second sister.Before long, he fell in love with his younger sister, and he didn't succeed with the last one. "Never learn with a speculative attitude," Waters warned us earnestly. "This kind of learning attitude can only lead to nothing. First of all, you must make a plan for yourself, determine a goal, and then work hard for it down-to-earth; Put all your energies and talents to it, and you will be close to success. By a speculative learning attitude, I mean the kind of learning that is based on the belief that what you are learning may be beneficial at some point in the future. The attitude of learning without direction." You've probably played a game like this before! On one of the hottest days of summer, take out the magnifying glass and place it on the newspaper with a small distance between them.You'll soon find out that if the magnifying glass were to move, you'd never be able to ignite the newspaper.However, if the magnifying glass does not move and you focus on the newspaper, you will soon be able to use the power of the sun to set the newspaper on fire. Chemists tell us that if all the energy of an acre of grass could be concentrated in the piston-rod of a steam-engine, it would produce enough power to move all the mills and steam-engines in the world.However, because this energy is dispersed, it is basically worthless from a scientific point of view.This also shows how powerful the power will be if the energy is focused on one point. Ignatius Laura famously said, "It is better to do one thing well at a time than to dabble in many fields at once." With effort in too many fields, we inevitably spread our energies and hinder progress , which ends up being nothing.San Leonardo talked about his learning method in a letter to a jazz and explained the secret of his success.He said: "When I started studying law, I was determined to absorb every bit of useful knowledge and assimilate it into myself. I would never start to study one thing without knowing it well enough."


"If you care enough about the result, you can make it happen." This is a quote from William James, which I use here to introduce me.We already know, he said: here, you can understand it as a kind of belief in victory.Because when your goal is attractive enough to you, you will establish a belief that you must succeed.At any time, tell yourself: I must, and I can succeed.In this way, you can succeed. The secret of Caesar's success was that he let his soldiers know that they must succeed and there is no retreat.How did Caesar win when he crossed the sea from Gaul with his army and landed in what is now England?He took his troops to the white rock cliffs of the Strait of Dover and made his soldiers watch burning ships 200 feet below his feet.The soldiers knew that with their last link to the mainland severed, their means of retreat burned, the only thing left to do was to advance, to conquer, to win.In this way, Caesar and his army succeeded. Why not allow yourself that spirit when you want to overcome the fear of facing an audience and the difficulties that inevitably come with improving your speaking skills?Throw all negative thoughts into the fire, and close the door behind you to hesitation and withdrawal—and you will succeed. Many famous people have achieved success thanks to this approach - Professor George Davidson of Yale University relied on this powerful belief to achieve success. When he was young, George had a dream. He hoped to change the world and serve all mankind.In order to achieve this ideal, he needs to receive the best education, and the United States is his ideal place.At that time, George was penniless, and it was simply a fantasy to go to the United States, which is 10,000 kilometers away.Still, he set off. He set off on foot from his native village in Nyasaland through the East African wilderness to Cairo, where he could reach the United States by boat.All he wants is to reach the country that can help him change his destiny, and he can ignore everything else.He encountered great difficulties from the very beginning.It took him five days to trek 25 miles (about 40 kilometers) on the rugged African continent.His food was gone, his water was gone, and besides, he was penniless.He still needs to go on for thousands of miles. It seemed impossible to continue the next few thousand miles, but George knew that to turn back was to give up, to return to poverty and ignorance.He swore to himself: I will not give up until I reach the United States, unless I die.He moved on. Sometimes he walked with strangers, but more often he walked alone.Most nights, I live a life where the earth is my bed and the stars are my quilt.He survives on wild berries and other edible plants.The harsh travel life made him thin and weak. Exhausted and discouraged, George almost gave up.He had thought, "It might be better to go home than to go on with this seemingly foolish journey and adventure." He didn't go home, but opened his two books, read the familiar words, he regained confidence in himself and his goal, and moved on. To go to America, George must have a passport and a visa, but to get a passport he has to provide proof of the exact date of birth to the US government, and worse, to get a visa, he also needs to prove that he has the right to pay his travel expenses to and from the US. George had to pick up pen and paper again and wrote a plea for help to the missionaries who had taught him since childhood.As a result, the missionaries helped him obtain a passport quickly through government channels.However, George still lacked the necessary airfare to receive the visa. Undeterred, George continued on to Cairo, confident that he would somehow get the money he needed. As the months passed, the story of his valiant journey became more widely known.Legends about him have spread widely on the African continent and in Mount Vernon, Washington.Students at Skagit Valley College, with the help of local citizens, sent George $640 to pay for his trip to the United States.When he learned of the generosity of these people, he knelt on the ground wearily, full of joy and gratitude. In December 1960, after more than two years of traveling, George finally arrived at Skagit Valley College.Holding his precious two books in hand, he proudly stepped through the college's towering gates. With a focus on goals and an almost divine belief in success, George overcame difficulties that ordinary people could not overcome.What could be more difficult than this? On a radio show, the host asked me to describe the most important lesson I learned in 3 sentences.Here's what I said at the time: "The most important lesson I've learned is that our thoughts are very important to us. If I can understand a person's thoughts, I can understand him as a person, because it is thoughts that make us. And if we can change our thoughts, we can change our lives.” Start now by actively envisioning that your efforts will ultimately lead to your success.In order to achieve your goals, you need to develop a strong enough self-confidence and belief that your goals will be achieved. You must maintain a relaxed and optimistic attitude towards the results of your speaking ability training efforts.You should expect that the result of your efforts will be that when it comes time to stand up and speak in front of a group, you will be able to speak at your leisure and express your point of view clearly.You must imprint your resolution and conviction on every word, every action, and strive to cultivate this ability. There was a guy named Joe Haversty who was trained in the Carnegie class.One day he stood up and said confidently that he was not content with being a home builder, but that he wanted to be a spokesman for the National Association of Home Builders: what he wanted most was to travel across the country, Tell people about his problems and achievements in the house building industry.What is commendable is that he not only has a fanatical pursuit of ideals, but also really does what he says. What he wanted to talk about included not only local issues, but also national issues.For such an idea, he did not half-heartedly, but prepared his speech carefully and practiced it carefully.During the class, he never missed a class; no matter how busy he was, he still followed the requirements of the training class meticulously.As a result, his progress was very rapid, which surprised everyone.Two months later, he became a leader in the class and was elected monitor. About a year later, Joe Haversday's teacher wrote: "I have almost forgotten about Joe Haversday from Ohio. I was having breakfast one morning when I inadvertently opened the Wizard of Virginia At the time, there was a photo of Joe prominently in the book and a report praising him. The report said: The night before last, he gave a wonderful speech at a grand gathering of area builders. At this time Joe is no longer the spokesman for the National Institute of Home Builders, he's almost president." Why was Joe Haversty successful?Because he has a strong desire, maintains a high degree of enthusiasm, has the strong perseverance to overcome difficulties, and more importantly: he believes that he will be able to succeed. A successful person does not necessarily have abilities and talents different from ordinary people, but he firmly believes that he will be able to succeed, and he will devote all his energy to the pursuit of success.In this way, the probability of success will be greatly improved. Because people—no matter who they are—have unlimited potential abilities, but whether they can be developed or not often depends on each person's own attitude.If you believe that you can succeed, then you must succeed.
The great Russian writer Leo Tolstoy died in 1910.His life experience is very tortuous, just like the story in "Arabian Nights".When he was alive, he was deeply respected by the world.Just 20 years before his death, people from all over the world came to pay his respects, just like saints who visit the Holy Land.They traveled thousands of miles just to see his face, hear his voice, or touch his clothes. In order not to miss his good words, some friends stayed at Tolstoy's house for a period of time and recorded all his words.They used shorthand to record every word he said, even the smallest details of life. Later, these records were bound into volumes and issued in large quantities. In the market, there are more than 23,000 books about Tolstoy's deeds and thoughts.God, it's not 2300, it's 23000!There are more than 56,000 articles about his life and thoughts in newspapers and magazines, and there are 100 works written by him, which is unmatched by many writers. Tolstoy's tortuous and vivid life course is by no means inferior to the plots in his novels.He was born in a wealthy family, and his family owned 42 halls with carved beams and painted buildings.He was born with untold wealth, and grew up in the arrogance and luxury of the imperial Russian nobles.However, in his later years, he abandoned all his lands and all worldly things.Finally, starving and cold, he died alone in a desolate Russian rural railway station, surrounded by only a few peasants. When he grew up, he was a playboy who ate, drank and had fun all day long. Moscow tailors made a lot of money from this rich young man.However, he later lived a very simple life, wearing rough cloth clothes and cloth boots made by himself, cleaning the room and making the bed by himself, eating rough tea and light meals on the dilapidated wooden table every day, using wooden bowls and wooden spoons . He later recalled that he had lived a "very filthy and sinful life".He has done many absurd things, often drinking heavily, fighting duels, and even participating in murders.Later, however, he converted to Christianity and devoutly believed in Jesus.Under his influence, Christianity turned out to be one of the holiest and most influential religions in Russia. When Tolstoy first got married, he had a happy life.He even knelt on the ground with his wife, praying to Almighty God to bless and continue this happy life forever.Later, however, their marriage turned into an abyss of pain and trouble.Sometimes, he didn't even want to look at her.He has only one wish: "Let this woman disappear from my eyes forever!" Even when he was dying, he did not allow his wife to be by his side. His academic performance was very poor when he was in school, and he failed to enter the university in the end.The family hired a tutor specially for him, but the teacher tried his best but couldn't make his stupid mind become smart.However, 30 years later, he has written two novels and novels, which have become immortal world masterpieces. Tolstoy's outstanding works made him enjoy the supreme honor among the people all over the world, even the tsars who ruled this vast land could not compare with him.However, can these works bring him happiness?Perhaps, but surely the joy did not last long, for it was not long before he developed a distaste for his own work, and was even ashamed to mention it to others. In the last years of his life, he devoted himself to preaching peace, fraternity and eradicating poverty to the world.He wrote a large number of short articles, bound them into volumes, and shipped them to various places in trucks and single-wheeled carts to sell them door-to-door. These pamphlets were very cheap. In just 4 years, he sold 12 million copies. In Tolstoy's later years, her youngest daughter was by his side as his secretary.After her father died, she came to America and lived in a country village near Newton Square, Pennsylvania.I met her in Paris a few years ago and learned a lot about Tolstoy from her.At that time, she was preparing to write a book about his father. The title of the book was already called "Tolstoy's Tragedy". Tolstoy's life is indeed a sad tragedy.The origin of the tragedy lies in his marriage, in that he and his wife have completely different outlooks on life. His wife is extravagant and corrupt, but he hopes to be unpretentious; she is greedy for vanity and power, while Tolstoy is indifferent to fame and wealth; she is crazy about wealth, but he believes that wealth and private ownership are the root of social evil; Relying on force to manage his servants, he advocates peace and treats others with kindness. His wife also has terrible jealousy. She hates all the female friends who are close to her husband, and even the daughter who is closer to her husband can't tolerate it. shooting. Tolstoy allowed his countrymen to reprint his works at will without paying him any royalties. Because of this, his wife had been fighting with him for several years. If he refuted, she would lie hysterically like a shrew. Rolling on the ground, taking opium smoke and saying that they are going to seek death, or crying and screaming that they are going to jump into a well.Amidst such noise, Tolstoy felt that the house was like a terrible hell. The Tolstoys had been married for half a century.One day, she crawled at his feet and asked him to read those beautiful poems he had written in those years. Those passionate sentences were written for her!When he read the diaries they wrote when they were passionately in love 48 years ago, those fond memories that were lost forever came back to them, and they couldn't help crying. When Tolstoy was 82 years old, he could no longer stay in this home without warmth and affection, so in the middle of the night of October 21, 1910, he abandoned his home and hid in the endless cold In darkness and darkness, this great soul wanders in the wild; the world is so big that there is no place for him. He was hungry and cold, and contracted pneumonia. Eleven days later, he passed away alone in a remote train station. He said a few days before his death: "God will arrange everything." And his last words were: "Seek, always seek."