Chapter 37 think about what you feel most proud of

About 90 percent of our life is going well, and only 10 percent is problematic. If we want to be happy, we just need to focus on the 90 percent of good things and not look at them. That ten percent is fine. We live in a beautiful fairy tale kingdom every day, but we cannot see or feel it.Why? I have known Harrow Albert for many years and he used to be my academic dean.He and I met up in Kansas City one day, and he ended up driving me to Bell City, Missouri, my farm.On the way, I asked him how he got happiness, and he told me a very interesting story that I will never forget: "I used to worry about a lot of things," said Albert, "but one day in the spring of 1934, a scene on West Doughty Street in Weber Township made me never worry about it again. 10 seconds, and in those 10 seconds I learned more about how to live than he has learned in the last 10 years."

Harold Albert ran a grocery store in Weber City for two years. During those two years, he not only lost all his savings, but also took on debts, which took seven years to pay off.Albert's grocery store closed after it had been open for a week, and he was about to go to the Industrial and Mineral Bank to borrow some money in order to find a job in Kansas City.Albert walked on the road like a man who had suffered a complete defeat, completely losing his fighting spirit and confidence.Suddenly, I saw a legless person coming towards me, sitting on a small wooden platform with wheels removed from skates, and holding a piece of wood in each hand, I let myself slide across the street.When Albert saw that person, their eyes met.The man grinned at Albert and said to him, "Morning, sir, it's a fine morning, isn't it?"

Albert looked at the scene in front of him, and suddenly realized that he was so rich. He said to himself: what a person without two legs can do, of course I can do it too.Immediately, he felt his chest stand up.Originally, he just wanted to borrow $100 from ICBC, but now he has the courage to borrow $200.He had planned to go to Kansas City to see if he could find a job, but now he believed he could find a good job.Now, I have the following words taped to my bathroom mirror so I can read them every morning when I shave: I once asked Eddie Hoganbacker what was the most important lesson he learned when he was hopelessly lost in the Pacific Ocean on a life raft with his companions for 21 days . "The most important lesson I learned from that experience," he said, "is that if you have enough fresh water to drink and enough food to eat, never complain about anything." TIME Magazine "There is a report about an officer who was wounded at Guandarkano, shot in the throat by shrapnel, and lost seven blood transfusions. He wrote a note to his doctor, asking: "Can I Can I survive?” The doctor replied, “Yes.” He wrote another note asking, “Can I still talk?” The doctor replied that it was possible.Then he wrote another note saying: "So what else do I have to worry about?" The doctor replied: "Why don't you ask yourself: 'Then what else do I have to worry about?'"

About 90% of the things life gives us are right and only 10% are wrong.If we want to be happy, all we should do is: focus on the 90% of things that are right, and ignore the 10% of things that are wrong.If we want to worry, if we want to be sad, if we want to get stomach ulcers, we just need to focus on the 10% of the wrong things and ignore the 90% of the good things. You and I, every day, every hour, can get the free services of "Happy Doctor", if only we can focus on so much incredible wealth that we have - wealth that far exceeds that of Alibaba treasures.Would you sell your two eyes for $100 million?How much are you willing to sell your two legs for?And your two hands, your hearing, your family?Add up all your assets and you will find that everything you own now will never be sold, even if you add up all the gold of the Rockefeller, Ford and Morgan families.

But can we appreciate them?Ah, no.As Schopenhauer said: "We seldom think about what we have, but always think about what we don't have." The greatest tragedy in the world is that the pain of imagination may be more than all the wars and diseases in history. Johnson once said: "The habit of seeing the best in everything is a priceless treasure." I have to remind you that the person who said this is not a professional optimist. In fact, he suffered from anxiety, hunger, and poverty for more than two decades, and finally degenerated into the most famous writer and critic of his time.

There is a lot of wisdom in a quote from Logan Smith: "There are two main goals in life, first, to have what you desire; second, to enjoy them. Only the wisest of men can achieve the second." Are you wondering how to turn the chore of washing dishes in the kitchen into an exciting experience?I recommend you to read "I Want to See" by Dahl! The author of this book is a woman who has been nearly blind for fifty years.She wrote: "My only remaining eye is dotted with spots, and all my vision is only a small hole on the left side. When I read, I have to hold the book up to my face, as close to my left eye as possible. the only remaining 'field' of vision on the side."

But she didn't intend to accept mercy, nor did she want to enjoy special treatment.When she was a child, she wanted to play games with the children, but she couldn't see any marks. She lay down on the ground to identify the marks after all the other children had gone home.After she memorized the lines drawn on the ground completely, she became a leader in playing this game.She is self-studying at home, holding a book with enlarged fonts close to her face, so close that her eyelashes can brush the pages of the book.She holds two degrees: a bachelor's degree from the University of Minnesota and a master's degree from Columbia University.

She started out teaching in a small village in Minnesota and ended up as a journalism professor at a college in South Dakota.She taught there for thirteen years, spoke at women's clubs, and appeared on radio shows about books and authors.She wrote in the book: "Deep in my heart, I can't get rid of the fear of total blindness. In order to overcome this, I can only adopt a happy and even naive attitude towards life." In 1943, she was already fifty-two years old, but a miracle happened: an operation at the very prestigious Meimeier Hospital restored her eyesight which was forty times better than before.

A whole new and exciting world unfolds before her eyes.Even doing dishes at the sink is exciting for her.She wrote: "I reached in and grabbed a handful of little soap suds, and I held it up to the light. In every suds suds I could see a little rainbow of bright colors flashing." You and I should be ashamed that we have lived in a beautiful fairytale kingdom every day for so many years, but we have turned a blind eye and eaten too well to enjoy it.