Chapter 35 create your life with right thoughts

Whether life is happy or not depends entirely on one's views on people, things, and things, because contradictions are caused by thoughts. A few years ago, a radio station put me on a show that basically asked me to find out, "What's the most important lesson you've ever learned?" For a lot of people, he had a lot of "biggest lessons" in his lifetime. But for me, the uniqueness in this area wasn't hard to choose.The most important lesson I've learned is this: Thoughts matter.As long as you know what a person is thinking, you will know what kind of person this person is, because everyone has his own characteristics, everyone is made of thoughts, and our mental state completely determines our destiny.Emerson said, "A man is what he thinks all day long... how could he be otherwise?"

I know very well that the biggest problem we have to face is how to choose the right thought, which is also the most important problem in a person's life.If we can choose a right thought to guide our actions, we can solve all the problems in life.Marcus Alli, the great philosopher who once ruled the Roman Empire, summed it all up in one sentence, the one that will determine our destiny: "Life is made by thought." We often have this kind of experience, if we only think about happy things, our hearts will be filled with happiness; if we only think about sad things, our hearts will be filled with sadness; If we think of some terrible situation, we will be afraid; if we have bad thoughts all the time, we will not be at ease; Will deliberately avoid us.Norman Vincent Peel said: "You are not what you think you are, but you are what you think." Do I imply by saying that, for all difficulties, we should adopt a habitual optimism? see?no.Life is not so simple.However, I encourage everyone to adopt a positive attitude instead of a negative attitude.In other words, we must focus on our problems, but not worry.What is the difference between concern and worry?Let me be a little more clear.Every time I have to navigate the traffic-heavy streets of New York City, I'm focused on what I'm doing—but not apprehensive.Concern means knowing where the problem is and calmly taking steps to fix it, whereas worry works like a madman in circles.

A person can focus on a serious issue and still hold their head high and go about their day normally. Rowell is such a person.He and his assistants have been to at least six battlefields to shoot documentaries.He filmed Lawrence's decisive battle with the Arab army and Allenby's conquest of the Holy Land.His speech entitled "Allenby of Palestine and Lawrence of Arabia" caused a sensation in London and around the world.London's traditional opera festival has been postponed for six weeks so that he can continue to narrate his thrilling story and screen documentaries at the Royal Opera House.After making a sensation in London, he set off a whirlwind all over the world.He later spent another year making a documentary about his life in Afghanistan.

Unfortunately, however, one after another, the most unlikely happened: he was declared bankrupt in London. I happened to be with him at the time, and I remember that we had to eat the cheapest food at the little restaurant on the corner, and if Toms hadn't borrowed some money from an artist friend, we wouldn't even have that meager food. No food either. What I want to say about this story is this: Lowell Thomas, in the face of huge debts and setbacks, is only concerned with his own problems, not really worried. He knew that, if struck down, he would be worthless to anyone, including his creditors.Every morning before going out, he must hold his head high on Oxford Street. He is positive, courageous, and refuses to be knocked down by setbacks.

For him, setbacks are part of life! This is the most rewarding discipline if you are to reach the pinnacle of success. Our mental state also has an incredible impact on our bodies and strength.The famous British psychologist Hadfield has an amazing description of this kind of power in his very remarkable little book of only 54 pages, "The Psychology of Power". "I have three men," he wrote, "in order to test the influence of the mind on the body. We measure it with a dynamometer." He asked them to grip the dynamometer with all their might under three different conditions.

In an average waking state, their average grip strength was 101 pounds. They are then hypnotized and told that they are very weak.As a result of the experiment, their grip strength was only 29 pounds—less than a third of their normal strength. Finally, Hadfield asked these people to do a third experiment: after hypnosis, they were told that they were very strong, and their grip strength reached an average of 142 pounds.When they mentally identified themselves as powerful, their strength increased by almost 50%.Such is our incredible mental strength. To illustrate the power of thought, let me tell you an amazing story that I've always thought I'd write a book about, but I'll just briefly describe it here.

One October night, not long after the American Civil War, the homeless Mrs. Ai was wandering in the street. She wandered to the house of Mrs. Way, the wife of a retired sea captain, and knocked on the door.Mrs. Way opened the door to a poor little woman: not more than a hundred pounds, all skinny.The strange woman explained that she was looking for a place to stay, to think and work through the problems that plagued her day and night.Mrs. Wei said: "Then stay here overnight! I am the only one in this big house." Later, Mrs. Wei's son-in-law happened to be here on vacation from New York and found Mrs. Ai living at home. Immediately, he roared, "I can't let a scoundrel live in this house!" He kicked the homeless woman out of the house.

She stood in the rain for a few minutes and had to seek shelter in the street. The astonishing thing about this story is that the "rascal" who was kicked out by Mrs. Wei's son-in-law later became a woman with great ideological influence in the world—Mary Etty, who has tens of millions of believers— —Because she is the founder of the Christian Scientology sect. But back then life was just a series of illnesses, miseries and tragedies to her.The first husband died shortly after the marriage.She was then abandoned by her second husband, who ended up dying in a slum after falling in love with a married woman.She has only one son, but because of poverty and illness, he had to be raised by others when he was four years old, and she has not seen him for thirty-five years.

She lost everything.Because of her poor health, she had been interested in what she called "psychotherapy" for several years.The really dramatic twist, however, came one cold night in Massachusetts, when she was wandering the streets alone and slipped on an icy sidewalk and fell unconscious.Her back was badly injured, causing her whole body to go into convulsions.Even the doctors declared her dead. Even if a miracle happened, she would be paralyzed for life if she survived. Almost lying on the bed waiting to die, she opened her Bible tremblingly. She thought she was led by the Holy Spirit. She saw a passage in Matthew: "A man who could not walk came to Jesus... He said, 'Peace, child! I have forgiven your sins....Stand up—have faith and go home!' And the man walked back." Later, she declared, it was Jesus' words. , generating power within her, was a true faith, a power to heal all diseases, that made her "get out of bed and walk in no time."

She said: "That experience led me to discover ways to heal myself and heal others... I have a scientific basis, and I think it's all about the inner strength of people, and it's a psychological phenomenon." In this way she founded a new religion: Christian Science - the only great religion founded by a woman, which is now popular all over the world. You must be thinking now: "This Carnegie has converted to Christianity." Wrong, I am not a member of Christianity.It's just that the older I get, the more I believe in the power of ideas. From my many years of teaching adults, I know that people can really change their lives by changing their thoughts to overcome worries, fears, various diseases and even achieve success.I know!I am sure!

I've seen this change hundreds of times, and I've seen it so many times that I don't doubt it at all. After living half a century, if I have learned anything, it is this: "No one else can bring you peace but yourself." I just want to repeat once again Emerson's closing words in his essay called "Self-Confidence": "A political victory, a rise in estate yields, a recovery from your sickness, and a long-lost friend Appears, or any other foreign thing, that lifts your spirits, and you think better days lie ahead. Believe nothing, this is not the case. No one else can bring you peace but yourself." Epictetus, the master of the Stoic school, once warned us that it is more important to remove inappropriate psychology than to cut off the cancer on the body. Epictetus said this nineteenth century ago, but modern medicine still supports his statement.Dr. Robinson claims that four out of five patients admitted to Johns Hopkins suffer from emotional and stress disturbances, especially for organ disorders and the like. "At the end of the day, these diseases are all down to poor adjustments in life," he said.The great French philosopher Montaigne took the following sentence as his motto throughout his life: "It is not the events themselves that hurt a man, but his perception of them." And our perception of events is entirely up to us.